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MarathonKnitter
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last year, i was invited to a milestone birthday travel event.
today, i was uninvited.
i'm very sad. the birthday person knows i had started a travel savings account and all that goes with it... but i don't want to be an a$$ when i reply.
how do reply and sound upbeat or neutral about being kicked to the curb?
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Posted 2/11/22 5:43 PM  |
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Oh wow. How do you know you were taken off the invite list? Was it something online?
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| Posted 2/11/22 6:14 PM |
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KarenK122
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I think we need more information. Were you formally asked to go or was it in passing? What was the reason you are now not invited?
Regardless, that sucks...sorry.
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| Posted 2/11/22 8:38 PM |
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lululu
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That is so rude!!!! Wtf? I would let them know they are so rude
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| Posted 2/11/22 9:59 PM |
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MarathonKnitter
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Original convo: talking about milestone birthday and travel. Was told it was to ba a family event. I said I would love to join. I was given basic itinerary and we made unofficial plans. I shared screenshots of savings as excitement
Today I was sent a text that they want it to be only mom, dad, and adult kids. Sorry. "I know you'll be spending a lot on your new house."
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| Posted 2/11/22 11:12 PM |
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Are you family?
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| Posted 2/12/22 7:36 AM |
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ChilisWife
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Were you the only one uninvited or were there others in the group that are no longer going?
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| Posted 2/12/22 10:11 AM |
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RomeyT
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Maybe the honestly downsized. Do you think you were the only one cut from the list? If you have no reason to believe they aren’t telling the truth I would be grateful to have some extra money for the house purchase. It may be a blessing in disguise since purchasing a home almost always comes with hidden expenses. As far as a response I would keep it really simple. Something like “well that’s disappointing. Enjoy the celebration.”
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| Posted 2/12/22 10:51 AM |
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As far as a response I would keep it really simple. Something like “well that’s disappointing. Enjoy the celebration.”
Agreed-- I assume this is non-immediate family, like a cousin, and they meant immediate family when they said "family trip." They should have said so at the time though.
I'd just save the $ for future travel. You might not be able to add to that account since any extra $ will probably go to house things, so it is good that you have a head start there.
ETA-It is annoying that they worded it in a way that makes it seem like they are doing you a favor. If I was feeling a little petty, I might through in something a little passive-aggressive about how money wouldn't have been an issue since you have been saving for a trip.
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| Posted 2/12/22 6:47 PM |
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MarathonKnitter
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Re: how to reply
Posted by tourist
Posted by RomeyT
As far as a response I would keep it really simple. Something like “well that’s disappointing. Enjoy the celebration.”
Agreed-- I assume this is non-immediate family, like a cousin, and they meant immediate family when they said "family trip." They should have said so at the time though.
I'd just save the $ for future travel. You might not be able to add to that account since any extra $ will probably go to house things, so it is good that you have a head start there.
ETA-It is annoying that they worded it in a way that makes it seem like they are doing you a favor. If I was feeling a little petty, I might through in something a little passive-aggressive about how money wouldn't have been an issue since you have been saving for a trip.
that's what i ended up going with, but did my best to keep it very very upbeat.
and i agree about the passive-aggressive comment... that's where my mind went first.
but i will count it as a blessing in disguise and move on.
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