How would you feel if your child was punched in the stomach and the teacher didn't notify you because "they didn't cry"

My BF sent me an email yesterday and I was so upset. Her son started Kindergarten this year and is only 5 years old. He attends a Private (Catholic) school and I think it's ridiculous that they didn't call her!!

Apparently this kid who sits next to my Godson has been messing with him since school started really.
First he was writing on him with crayon, then he pinched him and my godson pinched him back. At that point she says she should have spoken to the teacher to let her know what her son was telling her, but she didn't.

On Halloween the kid just punched him in the stomach really hard during class.
My godson told her he didn't hit him back, but told the teacher what he did. She says she understands things like this are going to happen, but of course was upset when he told her.

What upset her more was she felt she should have been notified. The teacher told her she didn't call to inform them because he didn't cry???

Ok why does it matter if he didn't cry??? Isn't it HER responsibility as the Teacher notify the parents. I also think my friend should have called or gone to the school as well.

Shes' there now having a meeting...

Message edited 11/7/2007 10:27:45 AM.

Re: How would you feel if your child was punched in the stomach and the teacher didn't notify you because "they didn't cry"

I would be PIZZED... The teacher doesnt have to necessarily tell you what kid did it, but at least tell you it happened and change the kids seat.

Re: How would you feel if your child was punched in the stomach and the teacher didn't notify you because "they didn't cry"

I think it's wrong that the teacher doesn't notice a child being bullied in her class to begin with and then to do nothing about it...unexceptable!

Re: How would you feel if your child was punched in the stomach and the teacher didn't notify you because "they didn't cry"

I would be PIZZED.

Re: How would you feel if your child was punched in the stomach and the teacher didn't notify you because "they didn't cry"

call me a crazy mom, but I commend your friend for holding herself back from not going to her son's class and throwing this kid out the window..

Mine aren't in school yet, so I can only imagine what will happen if I come home to hear a story like this.


To answer your question, I would report that teacher.

Even though the boy looks okay and didn't cry, means nothing.. he could have internal bleeding for all you know?

I've heard so many stories about incidences like these where someone didn't say something because they assumed the child/person was okay, only to have some tragedy come about because of their assumption.

I would react accordingly immediately.

Good luck.

Re: How would you feel if your child was punched in the stomach and the teacher didn't notify you because "they didn't cry"

Posted by bicosi

call me a crazy mom, but I commend your friend for holding herself back from not going to her son's class and throwing this kid out the window..

Mine aren't in school yet, so I can only imagine what will happen if I come home to hear a story like this.


To answer your question, I would report that teacher.

Even though the boy looks okay and didn't cry, means nothing.. he could have internal bleeding for all you know?

I've heard so many stories about incidences like these where someone didn't say something because they assumed the child/person was okay, only to have some tragedy come about because of their assumption.

I would react accordingly immediately.

Good luck.

Re: How would you feel if your child was punched in the stomach and the teacher didn't notify you because "they didn't cry"

This is totally inexcusable. They are supposed to notify the parents as soon as something happens. My mother was a teacher for 35 years and I remember her calling all the parents if something happened, even if it was very minor.

The parents of the other child, did she call them??? I think they should know that their child is being a bully. I totally understand that boys get like this, but how are you supposed to resolve the situation IF YOU DON"T KNOW ABOUT IT????


Good for your godson. He seems like a great kid to tell his parents and to be strong and not hit him back!!!! I would be very proud of him

Re: How would you feel if your child was punched in the stomach and the teacher didn't notify you because "they didn't cry"

Posted by bicosi

call me a crazy mom, but I commend your friend for holding herself back from not going to her son's class and throwing this kid out the window..

Mine aren't in school yet, so I can only imagine what will happen if I come home to hear a story like this.


To answer your question, I would report that teacher.

Even though the boy looks okay and didn't cry, means nothing.. he could have internal bleeding for all you know?

I've heard so many stories about incidences like these where someone didn't say something because they assumed the child/person was okay, only to have some tragedy come about because of their assumption.

I would react accordingly immediately.

Good luck.

Re: How would you feel if your child was punched in the stomach and the teacher didn't notify you because "they didn't cry"

Posted by littlejoy06

This is totally inexcusable. They are supposed to notify the parents as soon as something happens. My mother was a teacher for 35 years and I remember her calling all the parents if something happened, even if it was very minor.

The parents of the other child, did she call them??? I think they should know that their child is being a bully. I totally understand that boys get like this, but how are you supposed to resolve the situation IF YOU DON"T KNOW ABOUT IT????


Good for your godson. He seems like a great kid to tell his parents and to be strong and not hit him back!!!! I would be very proud of him

Re: How would you feel if your child was punched in the stomach and the teacher didn't notify you because "they didn't cry"

Posted by mitabtrfly

Posted by bicosi

call me a crazy mom, but I commend your friend for holding herself back from not going to her son's class and throwing this kid out the window..

Mine aren't in school yet, so I can only imagine what will happen if I come home to hear a story like this.


To answer your question, I would report that teacher.

Even though the boy looks okay and didn't cry, means nothing.. he could have internal bleeding for all you know?

I've heard so many stories about incidences like these where someone didn't say something because they assumed the child/person was okay, only to have some tragedy come about because of their assumption.

I would react accordingly immediately.

Good luck.

You and I think the same, because I told her I would have been in the school the next day and it would NOT have been pretty. My friend is a little on the "soft" side..but I told her she needs to start speaking up ..this is her son and if she doesn't do anything it WILL GET WORSE!!

Re: How would you feel if your child was punched in the stomach and the teacher didn't notify you because "they didn't cry"

Posted by BabyAvocado

I would be PIZZED.

Re: How would you feel if your child was punched in the stomach and the teacher didn't notify you because "they didn't cry"

Posted by Kotka

Posted by BabyAvocado

I would be PIZZED.

same here..