I am 12 weeks, and DH STILL doesn't want to tell people...

I am 12 weeks and 2 days today, and I am scheduled for the Ultrascreen on Tuesday.

I thought after Tuesday we could start telling people (like my Mom, MIL and FIL...). Now DH tells me he wants to wait until they "guess" for themselves.

1 cousin knows (we had to tell her because I am in her wedding and I was worried about the dress), and 2 of our best friends know, and that's it! I swear - I am going to BURST. ((I also told my brother and SIL, but DH doesn't know that they know!))

I had a miscarriage in February, and we had just told my Mom, so I think DH is worried that once we "tell" people again, the same thing is going to happen.

How can I convince him that this is a completely separate pregnancy, and everything is going fine.

Re: I am 12 weeks, and DH STILL doesn't want to tell people...

awww don't know what to say just want to send you lots of and hope you're able to reach a compromise soon and share the great news!! GL on your sonogram!!

Re: I am 12 weeks, and DH STILL doesn't want to tell people...

Welcome!

I really think after the ultrascreen, he may feel differently. I am sorry about your MC, it can definitely leave one feeling jaded.

I know I was hesitant to tell people but after my ultrascreen, I felt a lot more at ease. See what happens after that.

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I could see not telling all my friends and people from work, but I could never keep it from my family, my mom and MIL especially! And since some people know about you being pregnant, I don't really see the point in not telling everyone else. Maybe wait until after the ultrascreen, he might be a little nervous so after the ultrascreen he might feel better about telling everyone.

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Our immediate family knew very early on because we went thru IVF and they knew about it. We didn't want to tell anyone else until after my ultrascreen. We ended up waiting another week to say anything because I had a scare the day after the ultrascreen. By 14 weeks (last week) we started telling everyone.

Your husband might feel differently after the ultrascreen next week.

Re: I am 12 weeks, and DH STILL doesn't want to tell people...

maybe he will feel differently after the ultrascreen. The feeling of being fearful after a m/c is definitely understandable, but you're right, it's a totally different pregnancy...Good luck at the ultrascreen!!!!

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I had 2 m/c's myself. My DH was also very cautious and conservative when it came to telling people this time around. Sometimes it is their way of dealing with disappointment if they aren't overtly emotional people. It could be his way of protecting himself as well as you. But when the time is right for both of you, he will be beaming with excitement and will want to tell the world!

Message edited 8/17/2008 9:42:19 AM.

Re: I am 12 weeks, and DH STILL doesn't want to tell people...

hmmm...you have a cousin, two best friends, AND your brother that knows, but your own Mom doesn't know yet??? I think if any of these people were to slip and accidentally tell another family member and it gets back to your Mom, she may be REALLY upset. I certainly wouldn't hold off ANY longer on telling Mom! But, that's just my personal opinion. Even though people say they won't tell anybody, a lot of people often slip without realizing it---or tell another person and make THAT person promise not to say anything, etc...not a fun situation. I would definitely talk to DH again!!!

Message edited 8/17/2008 2:48:18 PM.

Re: I am 12 weeks, and DH STILL doesn't want to tell people...

I know its hard.. but i would just let your dh come to terms with feeling comfort with telling people on his own. Its hard what you guys went through and sometimes we as beings with soo much emotions just need to work through them at our own pace.

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