I am so close to losing my patience

Alex is getting worse and worse everyday. Yesterday, I came to pick her up from school, and she was perfectly fine when I picked her up.

We went outside, and played in the playground and then I brought her to the car, and it started. The screaming and wailing. It lasted from 5:30pm-7pm last night. Everytime she started, we put her in a corner in the dining room and told her that we would come get her when she calmed down. Everytime I went to get her and brought her in the room, it started all over again. She didn't want to eat anything, so we put her to sleep early, at 7pm.

She woke up 3 times in the night crying for mommy. By the third time, I went in, got her, gave her some motrin, and she slept from 3am to 7am.

This morning, she woke up happy as a clam. I brought her to school, and for 15 minutes, she clinged to me with her dear life. She wouldn't let me put her down. Wouldn't even eat her yogurt, which is her favorite thing to do in the morning.

I just don't know what's wrong with her. I gave her motrin in the night thinking it's possibly teething because she should be getting her 2 year molars around this time. But she isn't drooling much, she isn't putting her hands in her mouth, isn't biting, and when I ask her if she has a booboo in her mouth, she says no. When she's teething, she will cry, put her finger in her mouth and say "booboo".

Any ideas? I'm about to lose it, I really am. Every tiny little thing sets her off now. I asked her teacher if she noticed anything different and she said she wasn't quite as social as she usually is yesterday and barely ate lunch, but other than that, was her usual self. She said she thinks it's just the terrible two's rearing it's ugly head, and that there's another little girl in Alex's class going through the same thing.

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No advice - not there yet but

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OMG!!!! I could have literally written this post word for word!!! Bryan has been having such issue lately. Its been getting to me and My Dh. We feel as though maybe we arent doing the right things as parents. He is been having the sa,e exact issues. He meltsdown at ever little thing, whines almost constantly, has tantrums all the time. AT daycare he is fine from what they say. The only thing is he has been clingy in the morning, like you said, and this is unsual for him, plus he hasnt given me a kiss goodbye the last 2 days. We took him to the Bronx Zoo on sat and he was a nightmare. he Threw mutiple tantrums and even knocked himself down on the pavement and hurt his head. It was a scene. It has never been this bad. Also the same issues with the sleeping. He went down as usual but woke up an hour later calling for mommy- which he never has done. I put him back down almost 4-5 times last night before he went down around 4 ish of course we had to wake up early so he got horrible sleep.

Anyhow, Im not sure what to do, My Dh and I are getting depressed because we just dont know why he is acting like this. We dont know if we are doing the right thing by him or not. He is such an different person at his daycare, as soon as he comes home he turns into a nightmare. WE are questioning ourselves left and right and its causing fights between Dh and I over discipline.

I have thought of the teething also, but Im not sure if thats it. WE have been questioning whether he is sick or not too cause he has a runny nose but no other symptoms.
If you have any success with anything let me know cause Im on the verge of a breakdown

Message edited 5/30/2007 9:45:13 AM.

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I wish I had some advice for you but it sounds to me that you are doing the right thing already. I'm afraid you are just going to have to ride it out - it definetly sounds like the terrible twos - we are going thru something very similar with Zachary.

Its a nightmare, I definetly feel your frustration!

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Thank you ladies

I feel like I'm really at the end of my rope here - Antoinette, I hear you - I'm getting seriously depressed about this, and DH and I are really questioning ourselves, and getting frustrated that we have to deal with this while our friends have such easygoing, relaxed, laid back toddlers. It's no suprise to me at all that we got into a fight yesterday after dealing with all of this.

I got a call from daycare this AM - apparently she was inconsolable again, and crying "booboo" and pointing to her belly. Dh stopped by about 10 minutes later, and she was FINE! Smiling and laughing as she was painting. It's like she's Jekyll and Hyde, and I'm questioning if we're handling this the right way, or maybe overlooking a physical/medical issue? She doesn't have a fever - no cold. By all appearances she seems just fine.

We have a doctor's appointment on Friday so I will discuss with him them. Hopefully we will LAST until Friday

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Posted by Bxgell2

Thank you ladies

I feel like I'm really at the end of my rope here - Antoinette, I hear you - I'm getting seriously depressed about this, and DH and I are really questioning ourselves, and getting frustrated that we have to deal with this while our friends have such easygoing, relaxed, laid back toddlers. It's no suprise to me at all that we got into a fight yesterday after dealing with all of this.

I got a call from daycare this AM - apparently she was inconsolable again, and crying "booboo" and pointing to her belly. Dh stopped by about 10 minutes later, and she was FINE! Smiling and laughing as she was painting. It's like she's Jekyll and Hyde, and I'm questioning if we're handling this the right way, or maybe overlooking a physical/medical issue? She doesn't have a fever - no cold. By all appearances she seems just fine.

We have a doctor's appointment on Friday so I will discuss with him them. Hopefully we will LAST until Friday

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I think it iis just a case of very terrible 2's. Jack is the same way, but is getting better...there is hope! For a while I really didn't take him anywhere like restaurants becasue I just couldn't deal with it. He also has been hitting kids lately. That he picked up at school! The other day I was the mom on the playground that had the kid that was hitting. I was mortified because I swore I would never have that kid. All we can do is keep being consistent and firm and somedays I feel like I am going to scar him for life because all I do is yell, take toys away, tell him to leave Molly alone. Then there are days where he is a perfect angel.

My advice is to start giving them little jobs around the house with rewards. I think this is what is helping Jack act a little better since he knows there is something in it for them. At 2 1/2, I've got the kid setting the table every night! Its hysterical. Everyone sometimes has to eat with Thomas forks, but it makes him feel like a big boy and he knows he gets a reward. And if he doesn't do it, no reward.

So maybe try little things like that. It keeps them distracted, they LOVE helpiing Mommy! We also use a very simple chart where he gets a star for being good each day and then when his chart fills us we hit the "toy store"..aka the dollar store. All of these little things help, IMO.

Good luck.!!

I just wanted to add that it is nothing you are doing as parents...we are just blessed with children with extrememly strong and sensitive personalities. I am not doing anything different with Molly than I did with Jack and she is a perfect angel. Doesn't cry, sits in the stroller, plays on her own. So don't get depressed over your parenting skills!

And just keep remembering that if you have #2, the your chances of having a mellow child are pretty high compared to the 1st.

Message edited 5/30/2007 11:09:23 AM.

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Are you still stressed about your dad? Maybe she's picking up on that and this is her reaction? I'm just guessing since you said it's been much worse lately and I think I remember before you went away you were dealing with a bunch of runaround with getting your dad the proper care.

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Hmm...she's not eating well, even her favorite foods and she's a crank monster? Sounds like Jake last week before I took him to the Dr to find out he had (yet another) ear infection AND the beginning of coxsackie!!!

Seeing as how the motrin made her feel better, I'd say a trip to the pediatrician to at least rule out an ear infection wouldn't be a bad thing!

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Posted by BabyAvocado

Hmm...she's not eating well, even her favorite foods and she's a crank monster? Sounds like Jake last week before I took him to the Dr to find out he had (yet another) ear infection AND the beginning of coxsackie!!!

Seeing as how the motrin made her feel better, I'd say a trip to the pediatrician to at least rule out an ear infection wouldn't be a bad thing!

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I have also noticed some changes in Talia recently. last week she decided she didn't need to sleep or eat - at all!

It sounds like something else is bothering her though - hopefully the dr. can give you some insight - it does sound like terrible 2's - mixed with something else though...hopefully she feels better soon!