I am so ticked at my dh's ex-wife. (a little long sorry) Updated.

Sat we take his daughter to horseback riding lessons, now keep in mind we pay for them and have been since dec. It was her b-day gift until she moves to fl, one lesson every other wk. Well, his ex is there and asks us to "make up" the lessons (about 3 of them) that we took away when she failed 3 classes on her report card. At that point we had tried everything, and this was the only thing that worked.

We said no, she lost them we are not making it up to her for her failing. Duh! Anyway, now we have his daughter every wknd until she moves at the end of June (except Memorial Day wknd) and between her recital, her recital rehearsal, and family obligations every wknd is booked. Well, we get a phone call on Sun am, the ex is giving her daughter a sleepover pty from fri to sat fathers day wknd. Well, not only do we have plans for Fri nite, we have plans sat and lets not forget sun is fathers day. So, now we have to change one of her classes from that sat to the following sat which is not fair to his daughter.

Why couldnt she have asked what would have worked for us? We would have gladly worked with her. But she is always like this. I cant wait until the ex is gone.

ETA: He just got a call, she changed the sleepover to the first wknd in June, which works out a lot better.

Message edited 5/14/2007 2:25:30 PM.

Re: I am so ticked at my dh's ex-wife. (a little long sorry)

I'm going to guess and say she didn't ask what worked for you because the daughter is leaving in a little over a month and there are only so many weekends until that time. I am going to assume the sleepoever is something that the daughter wants to do and is important to her no? And why do you have to change the lesson? The sleepover is Friday night, so ask the mother to bring her over for the riding lesson in the morning. IME sleepover guests typically leave in the AM. And what does it have to do with Father's Day? Again, the sleepover is Friday.

I always get a chuckle about wives complaining about their husband's ex wives. You knew he had an ex when you married him. He obviously saw something redeeming in her or he wouldn't have married her. And just because she is moving out of state, doesn't mean you will get rid of her completely ;)

Re: I am so ticked at my dh's ex-wife. (a little long sorry)

Yes, you are right I did know about her when I married him. What I didnt know was that she would show up at my wedding reception, that she would not pay any of her daughters bills and send her to school without school supplies or make her go to school in the winter with no coat, which we had already bought her, or that she would come to my house and on my front lawn cry and scream saying she wanted him back when they were divorced 5 yrs before I met him.

No, she didnt ask us what worked for us, yes the daughter wants it, but she wanted a party more so more of her friends could have gone and yes, we were willing to pay half. We have to change her lesson because the ex is letting everyone stay until 11am (already told us) and the lesson is at 10am. I agree with you that fathers day is Sun, but she is only flying up here once every other yr for it since it all the visits alternate and we actually planned things for all 3 days.

I come from divorced parents and so do alot of my friends and never in any of our lives have we seen a woman like this. My mother even said this. Your right when you say I wont be getting rid of her entirely but at least we will have some peace and have a better relationship with his daugher hopefully.

Re: I am so ticked at my dh's ex-wife. (a little long sorry)

How old is the daughter? I ask because while she only has limited weekends left - she also has limited weekends with her dad being so readily available.

Without question, she should have asked you what worked for you.

Re: I am so ticked at my dh's ex-wife. (a little long sorry) Updated.

She is 13.