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I am SOOO Nervous! *UPDATE at bottom!

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Jesaroo
is not the girl you knew

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Jes

I am SOOO Nervous! *UPDATE at bottom!

what should i say to my boss telling her i need to drop my fri & sat shifts?
she is going to go ballistic. i dont know how to word it.
i know she is going to ask me why and when i say i picked up a 2nd job she will freak. she is the worst person when it comes being on her bad side.
i just dont know what to say.
my stomach is in knots right now.

Message edited 11/2/2005 9:08:28 PM.

Posted 11/2/05 10:08 AM
 
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LadyMaravilla
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Sonia

Re: I am SOOO Nervous!

I guess honesty is out the window with her? Chat Icon

Posted 11/2/05 10:10 AM
 

IluvBo
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Re: I am SOOO Nervous!

Why do you have to tell her why you are dropping the shifts. What you do on your own time is your business. Can't you just say something like, I've decided that this isn't the right path for me right now, or just tell her it no longer fits in your schedule to work those shifts.

Good luck.

Posted 11/2/05 10:11 AM
 

Shorty
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really

Re: I am SOOO Nervous!

"I really need to be bringing in more money, and I found another job that will allow me to do that."

Posted 11/2/05 10:13 AM
 

Ambersmom
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Sharon

Re: I am SOOO Nervous!

I would totally lie and tell her you're taking a course over the weekends...Chat Icon

Posted 11/2/05 10:14 AM
 

Jesaroo
is not the girl you knew

Member since 5/05

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Name:
Jes

Re: I am SOOO Nervous!

that ran through my head about tkaing courses, but i MAY run into her there.....
she collects money for the street cleaning and the bar is only up the block.

i am just so petrified.
i KNOW she will ask me why i am dropping shifts


io was thinking of just saying :
"Rose, i need to talk to you...... I am really sorry, but starting in two weeks I have to drop my Fri & Sat shifts"
"WHY?"
"I was offered a weekend job, and the money is REALLY good and i REALLY need to do it rigt now. I dont want to leave here, but I just need to shorten my hours"


and then i dont know where it will go from there.

she is going to say i have no morals to do this to her befpre xmas and so on.
but when it comes down to it, im NOT going to stay at a place where i make less money JUDT to please her and not make her upset.

Message edited 11/2/2005 10:26:32 AM.

Posted 11/2/05 10:25 AM
 

LadyMaravilla
Fall Is Here

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Sonia

Re: I am SOOO Nervous!

Rose, i need to talk to you...... I am really sorry, but starting in two weeks I have to drop my Fri & Sat shifts"
"WHY?"
"I was offered a weekend job, and the money is REALLY good and i REALLY need to do it rigt now. I dont want to leave here, but I just need to shorten my hours"


I think that's good and take it from there. We all have to do what we have to do to earn a living. Good luck!!!! Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 11/2/05 11:09 AM
 

CaseyGirl
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Jen - counting my blessings...

Re: I am SOOO Nervous!

just get it over with. don't let her intimidate you. you have your own life and i'm sure your job is employment at will...meaning, you can quit or she can fire you at any time!

Posted 11/2/05 11:13 AM
 

-Laurie-
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Re: I am SOOO Nervous!

I would just be honest! Good Luck!

Posted 11/2/05 11:15 AM
 

Sassyz75
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Dina

Re: I am SOOO Nervous!

Posted by Lolita4Life

that ran through my head about tkaing courses, but i MAY run into her there.....
she collects money for the street cleaning and the bar is only up the block.

i am just so petrified.
i KNOW she will ask me why i am dropping shifts


io was thinking of just saying :
"Rose, i need to talk to you...... I am really sorry, but starting in two weeks I have to drop my Fri & Sat shifts"
"WHY?"
"I was offered a weekend job, and the money is REALLY good and i REALLY need to do it rigt now. I dont want to leave here, but I just need to shorten my hours"


and then i dont know where it will go from there.

she is going to say i have no morals to do this to her befpre xmas and so on.
but when it comes down to it, im NOT going to stay at a place where i make less money JUDT to please her and not make her upset.



Tell her it's not about morals- it's about having to pay the bills- and you will accodate her in other ways- but you cannot work fri/sat moving forward.

Posted 11/2/05 11:18 AM
 

Scotty-CassidysMom
and Dylan too!

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Stacy

Re: I am SOOO Nervous!

I know how you feel about being nervous, but isn't this the woman that had the b@lls to say she wished one of you would quit so she could hire some other girl that she interviewed? SHE has no morals, and if she treats you badly, leave altogether! You'll be making more $$ in 3 days at the new job than you do in 5 days at the old, so if she's gonna be a b!tch about it....SEE YA!!!

Sorry, don't mean to be harsh, I just hate to see you get yourself upset over this woman who sounds like a complete witch!!!

Let us know how it goesChat Icon

Posted 11/2/05 1:50 PM
 

Shorty
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really

Re: I am SOOO Nervous!

lol - don't forget, this same woman told one of the girls that they smell....like SEX. Chat Icon

Posted 11/2/05 2:55 PM
 

Jesaroo
is not the girl you knew

Member since 5/05

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Name:
Jes

Re: I am SOOO Nervous!

OK!

Thanks for teh support everyone. It went fine.
I had the worst stomach ache and anxiety... i whispered to my coworker "Im going to tell her now" and she gave me the 'NOOOOO!' face. she was lik e"dont do it now.. wait!"
as you can see, we are all scared to pieces of this woman. its so weird how someone can have such a hold over you.

Anyway, so i just walked in and said i had to talk to her. i said "In two weeks i wont have weekend availablity, so i cant do my Fri&Sat shifts"

as expected she asked why and i told her.
she wouldnt even LOOK at me!
she said to me "So, you want to do this to me right before Xmas?" and i said "i dont WANT to do it" (meaning right before the holidays) and she said "YES you do or ytou wouldnt be doing it" i just said "I'm very sorry" and she said "No youre not, youre not sorry, dont say that"
blah blah blah i told her i understand that the timing is bad, but i really need the money. she understood somewhat. she understands, but is selfish more like.
She said "Well, are you working this fri and sat?" I said "Yes"

we left it as that. but then she was saying how working in a bar is 'living life on the edge' and you can go over teh edge real easily there and i already live my life on hte edge (W-T-F does THAT mean?!!!! i asked her and she used my tattoos as an exampleChat Icon )

Anywya, so she called a girl or two for an interview, so hopefully it will all be ok.

She is of course being VERY passive aggressive, but she isnt as bad as i htough, and FOR NOW i still will work there Mon, Wed & Thurs!

Thanks everyone! i am sooooo relieved!!!
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Posted 11/2/05 9:08 PM
 

saraH
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I know that God exsists, I held her in my arms...

Re: I am SOOO Nervous! *UPDATE at bottom!

glad it went kinda well...all the more reason to get out of that place....

Posted 11/2/05 9:17 PM
 

lvdolphins
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Posted 11/2/05 9:35 PM
 

missus-hbradio
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Re: I am SOOO Nervous! *UPDATE at bottom!

I am sorry but this woman needs serious help. Working at a bar is living life on the edge???? WHAT THE HECK DOES THAT MEAN!?!?!?!?!?!




Regardless, I am glad it all worked out for you - good luck!!!!

Posted 11/3/05 10:04 AM
 

Jesaroo
is not the girl you knew

Member since 5/05

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Name:
Jes

Re: I am SOOO Nervous! *UPDATE at bottom!

Posted by missus-hbradio
Working at a bar is living life on the edge???? WHAT THE HECK DOES THAT MEAN!?!?!?!?!?!


i ave NO idea! i said to her "i dont get it? living life on the edge?" and she said that i already do b/c of my tattoos, hair, etc Chat Icon Chat Icon

i PERSONALLY think she is insinuating i will get into drugs, but who knows

Posted 11/3/05 10:09 AM
 

missus-hbradio
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Re: I am SOOO Nervous! *UPDATE at bottom!

Posted by Lolita4Life

Posted by missus-hbradio
Working at a bar is living life on the edge???? WHAT THE HECK DOES THAT MEAN!?!?!?!?!?!


i ave NO idea! i said to her "i dont get it? living life on the edge?" and she said that i already do b/c of my tattoos, hair, etc Chat Icon Chat Icon

i PERSONALLY think she is insinuating i will get into drugs, but who knows



Honestly she sounds jealous to me!!! You are young and you can work wherever you want as long as you can pay your bills who cares what your hair and skin look like!!!! That does not equal drugs at all. Point her toward the business men in suits carrying briefcases doing coke!Chat Icon

Posted 11/3/05 10:12 AM
 

kathleeng

Member since 5/05

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Kathleen

Re: I am SOOO Nervous! *UPDATE at bottom!

I have to say I feel EXTREMELY bad for you. In my opinion, she is competely out of line, especially with that snarky comment. I hope you don't take it too much to heart (a mistake I have made in the past). Always remember to do what is right for you. If anything, it's a relief that this is out of the way.

Posted 11/3/05 10:16 AM
 

Jesaroo
is not the girl you knew

Member since 5/05

14266 total posts

Name:
Jes

Re: I am SOOO Nervous! *UPDATE at bottom!

yeah, i have learned not to take anything personal anymore. she is just insecure or something. i really dont understand her, but whatever. i try not to let her get to me.

Posted 11/3/05 10:18 AM
 
 

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