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princess99
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I do not know what to do, do not even know what bd this belongs on... need some answers....
I am having SIL problems. In a nutshell, I helped her with her wedding , got no thank you, and got screamed at becuase she was drunk afterwards, got lied to a few weeks ago, and now she is pregnant and I did not tell a soul and she accuses me of telling someone becuase they said to her" What do you have to tell me" , she cross questioned me and DH . Why on earth would I do this? I have nothing to gain, and it is none of my business to tell anyone. This is her news, not me and DH. When I told her I did not appreciate being spoken to like that, and I did not like to be accused of something I never did, she got a bit taken back. I would NEVER say anything I was not supposed to, secrest are safe with me. I am always nice to her, go out of my way for her because she is my SIL and this is the way DH and I are treated. I am so sick of being walked on, and go back for more. I am afraid to say too much becuase I do not want to aggravate her becuase she is pregnant and in her first trimester. I am so sick of staying quiet for the sake of the family. Also, we were supposed to see them tomorrow and I do not want to and neither does DH. What would you do in this situation......
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princess99
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Re: I do not know what to do, do not even know what bd this belongs on... need some answers....
anyone... both DH and I are pretty upset, DH is finally seeing what I have been saying for almost 2 years now.....
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| Posted 5/4/07 1:44 PM |
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skprmiss
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Re: I do not know what to do, do not even know what bd this belongs on... need some answers....
Wow this girl needs to relax and realize that the world does not revolve around her!!! You have been very good to her...but it seems that there is no respect coming in your direction. Good Luck 
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| Posted 5/4/07 1:45 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: I do not know what to do, do not even know what bd this belongs on... need some answers....
If you really don't want to go, cancel out.
If you do go, then keep your distance - but also keep quiet about her pregnancy.
I think you handled her accusations very well.
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| Posted 5/4/07 1:46 PM |
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Tracey
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Re: I do not know what to do, do not even know what bd this belongs on... need some answers....
If there was any way you can cancel tomorrow I would. I think you handled it very well.
Your sil sounds very self absorbed but needs to realize that the world does circle around her!
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| Posted 5/4/07 1:48 PM |
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princess99
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Re: I do not know what to do, do not even know what bd this belongs on... need some answers....
Posted by nrthshgrl
If you really don't want to go, cancel out.
If you do go, then keep your distance - but also keep quiet about her pregnancy.
I think you handled her accusations very well.
I have kept quiet about her pregnancy.
She called me the other day so sick with nausea, that I told her about these preggie lollipops and even got them for her and DH dropped them off at her house the next day on his way to work. She lives in NYC. Geez, I am so walked over... I think I am too nice.... I really do not know how i am going to be able to handle her as my SIL I never know when she is going to turn on me and make up something else. Do I avoid her calls? What do I do?
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| Posted 5/4/07 1:55 PM |
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KGools
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Re: I do not know what to do, do not even know what bd this belongs on... need some answers....
my aunt has the same personality and pretty much treated my mom the same way (this is my mom's SIL, her brother's wife)... she basically just stopped having a "friends" relationship with her because it wasn't worth the aggravation. They're still friendly toward each other but my mom won't go out of her way to do things for her anymore.
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| Posted 5/4/07 1:58 PM |
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Blu-ize
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Re: I do not know what to do, do not even know what bd this belongs on... need some answers....
stop talking to her. let her be. silence is what she deserves. maybe she'll calm down and realize how awful she is being to you
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| Posted 5/4/07 1:59 PM |
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MsSissy
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Re: I do not know what to do, do not even know what bd this belongs on... need some answers....
If it's bothering you this much, I would cancel tomorrow. Right now you sound too hurt to talk rationally so give yourself some time to think things out.
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| Posted 5/4/07 2:01 PM |
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DanaRenee
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Re: I do not know what to do, do not even know what bd this belongs on... need some answers....
I'd keep my distance and only do for her what she does for you...no more. She seems pretty self centered and its hard to be nice to someone who consistantly takes advantage of you and walks all over you.
If it gets worse or blows up some how I might tell her how hurt I feel ... but I wouldn't ever be nasty, she is family and you need you need to stay the bigger person here. I might try to make her feel bad (if thats possible!) If she has no heart and doesn't care then there is not much you can do aside from back away.
If you think seeing her will make things worse, put it off for now, until your not so upset.
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| Posted 5/4/07 2:04 PM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: I do not know what to do, do not even know what bd this belongs on... need some answers....
Posted by princess99
What would you do in this situation......
very simple - I would cancel, or better yet - blow them off!
I don't care if she's in labor! she has NO RIGHT to talk to you that way Image Attachment(s):
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| Posted 5/4/07 2:15 PM |
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Maathy317
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Re: I do not know what to do, do not even know what bd this belongs on... need some answers....
Posted by princess99
Posted by nrthshgrl
If you really don't want to go, cancel out.
If you do go, then keep your distance - but also keep quiet about her pregnancy.
I think you handled her accusations very well.
I have kept quiet about her pregnancy.
She called me the other day so sick with nausea, that I told her about these preggie lollipops and even got them for her and DH dropped them off at her house the next day on his way to work. She lives in NYC. Geez, I am so walked over... I think I am too nice.... I really do not know how i am going to be able to handle her as my SIL I never know when she is going to turn on me and make up something else. Do I avoid her calls? What do I do?
What you do is stand up for yourself. You are allowing her to walk all over you and she will continue to do so until you change that. I am not saying you have to stop being the, obviously, nice person that you are. You just need to not let anyone treat you as if you are less than they are. I wouldn't avoid her calls. If she does call and has the same attitude, tell her again that you WILL NOT be spoken to that way. She appears to be a bully. Once you stand up to a bully, they back down. You are a sensitive, caring person and that should never change. However, you deserve to be treated with the same respect with which you treat others.
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| Posted 5/4/07 2:34 PM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: I do not know what to do, do not even know what bd this belongs on... need some answers....
Posted by Blu-ize
stop talking to her. let her be. silence is what she deserves. maybe she'll calm down and realize how awful she is being to you
I completley agree.
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| Posted 5/4/07 5:50 PM |
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alnem
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Re: I do not know what to do, do not even know what bd this belongs on... need some answers....
Posted by Tracey
If there was any way you can cancel tomorrow I would. I think you handled it very well.
Your sil sounds very self absorbed but needs to realize that the world does circle around her!
agreed on all points! you should definitely cancel on tomorrow and give some time to let things blow over and let her realize she was out of line.
my SIL just got engaged a few weeks ago and i WAS helping her plan it but her bridezilla side has come out and i've stopped. i dont want things between us ever be weird and as we all know, planning can be very stressful and i dont want to be there when her frustration comes out! thats what her FH is for! 
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| Posted 5/4/07 6:13 PM |
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: I do not know what to do, do not even know what bd this belongs on... need some answers....
It sounds like she is a spoiled brat. I am glad you told her how you felt and I probably wouldnt go. Let her know how upset and hurt you are by her unfounded accusations. She needs to learn the world does not revolve around her.
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