I don't know if it is a compliment anymore..

Everyone keeps saying how much of a "relaxed" mom. The last person that said it, I asked in return what do you mean (I was just curious of their intention) and she said, you are just very comfortable with the baby and not soo nervous, so I said well, I know she is in good hands - my cousin was playing with DD in another room that I wasn't in.

I got this a few times from people, I am starting to think that I look "too" laid back taking care of DD. I am just not paranoid anymore unless I have something to be paranoid about. Believe me, BTDT - even been on meds for my panic, but after I gave birth I calmed down ALOT.

Thanks for listening!

Re: I don't know if it is a compliment anymore..

I think they're probably just surprised you're laid back because usually 1st time Moms are more high strung. Take it as a compliment

Re: I don't know if it is a compliment anymore..

I've heard that a lot too. I would take it as a compliment unless it's said in a different context.

As long as you're comfortable with how you are wth your child, I wouldn't worry about it.

Re: I don't know if it is a compliment anymore..

I get that a lot also, my mother always thinks I am too relaxed! I think Barb said it best with the phrase "benign neglect" I have used that phrase loads! Kids are hardy creatures and (I think) life is easier for you if you are resourceful enough to find your own way, learning how to do things by trying, and in a sense, playing well by yourself and with others! And thats what I want my son to be...resourceful and plays well with others as well as by himself!!!

Thats my style! As long as the kid is safe, clean, fed, happy...well kick back, stick the kid in front of the telly, have a glass of wine...enjoy it! If you worry too much, I don't think you can enjoy it!!!

Re: I don't know if it is a compliment anymore..

I've heard that all the time. I took it as a compiment. I had a friend that would leave her daughter w/ her Mom & call her like 20 times. I wouldn't leave my child w/ someone I didn't trust so, I would rarely call & she thought I was nuts.