I feel bad posting, but was anyone else a little disappointed on their first Mother's Day?

I have been thinking for the last two days, I feel so selfish in saying this but I was disappointed by my first Mother's Day. My birthday is is 3 weeks so I asked DH as a combo Mother's Day/Birthday gift if I could register for a 10 week Body Sculpting Course at a local gym. He said yes and I did. I still expected a little something at least from my son...but nothing I know it's not about gifts, but I was hoping for something thoughtful from my DH. Did anyone else feel this way?

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Re: I feel bad posting, but was anyone else a little disappointed on their first Mother's Day?

I have heard this from so many Moms. I wouldn't be sad because I think men don't realize. Maybe mention something like, so and so got a journal from her son. It was so cute..or whatever you are comfortable so he knows. Or be more direct and say I would have liked something from Johnny(or whatever your son's name is )

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I was also disappointed on my first Mother's Day too.
Im sorry your's was as well

Re: I feel bad posting, but was anyone else a little disappointed on their first Mother's Day?

I didn't get anything but a bar of chocolate and a card- but I was fine w/ it b/c we aren't huge gift people - if I want something throughout the year I buy it- i'm the moneymanager anyway...

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I didn't get anything (other than sleeping in), but Dh and I rarely celebrate non-birthday holidays, so I'm not too disappointed. I try to remember that I have the best gift of all - a healthy, happy baby, and family, and what's most important is that I could spend a beautiful day with them, playing in the grass, in the beautiful sunshine, with a nice breeze. Those are the moments to treasure, and all the other wonderful things that DH does on a daily, weekly and monthly basis to show that he knows what a good mom I am.

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Don't feel bad. Focus on the gift of your child!!!

My bday is 3 weeks apart too. :-P

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I'm definitely not making excuses for men, but maybe I can give a little insight. It's nothing person. Most guys don't give a lot of thought into Mother's Day. Especially the first one. You're DH's wife. Sometimes it takes a while for us to realize that you are a mother now. You're not "our" mother (although most DWs do mother their DHs... ), so it doesn't always click.
Plus, Father's Day is an overlooked holiday as well, in general. It's usually an afterthought to get Dad a tie or something, so I think that might affect how Dads view Mother's Day. I try to put effort into Mother's Day for DW (and both our moms), but unfortunately, sometimes I think I'm in the minority.

I would try and drop hints about what other Dads have done on this forum (or make things up if you want... ). Maybe if you mention what other guys have done, it may make DH realize that it is important, and he may try a little harder next year. Start dropping hints a few weeks before Mother's Day next year, so he potentially has time to get (or do) something nice.

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Yes, don't get me started...

Re: I feel bad posting, but was anyone else a little disappointed on their first Mother's Day?

Yes, more than a little actually. I am still ****** about it and he knows it. At first I felt selfish and then I said F- that, I deserve SOME recognition....

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Posted by GoldenRod

I'm definitely not making excuses for men, but maybe I can give a little insight. It's nothing person. Most guys don't give a lot of thought into Mother's Day. Especially the first one. You're DH's wife. Sometimes it takes a while for us to realize that you are a mother now. You're not "our" mother (although most DWs do mother their DHs... ), so it doesn't always click.
Plus, Father's Day is an overlooked holiday as well, in general. It's usually an afterthought to get Dad a tie or something, so I think that might affect how Dads view Mother's Day. I try to put effort into Mother's Day for DW (and both our moms), but unfortunately, sometimes I think I'm in the minority.

I would try and drop hints about what other Dads have done on this forum (or make things up if you want... ). Maybe if you mention what other guys have done, it may make DH realize that it is important, and he may try a little harder next year. Start dropping hints a few weeks before Mother's Day next year, so he potentially has time to get (or do) something nice.

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I agree with GoldenRod. DH has told me many times that men are stupid (his words, not mine!) and need to be reminded about these things and how important they are to us.
I hated having to do that at first, because to me, it's just not as special if I have to ask him all the times to do thoughtful things for me for my birthday, Mother's Day, etc.

But I've gotten used to it. I'll e-mail him little hints every now and then. Send him links to gifts that I might like or places that I want to go, and it actually works! He may not get the exact gift that I asked for (he always seems to lose the e-mail ) but he tries his best. And luckily he doesn't get offended when I exchange something

So try it the next time something important comes up. My birthday is also in 3 weeks, and I've already e-mailed DH some gift ideas

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you know I didnt think about this until I spoke to my dad this morning and he said to me so what did Giada get you for mothers day. I was stumped. I was like hmmmmmm, DH got me jewelry but nothing from DD. I didnt realize he was suppose to, LOL.

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