i feel so bad what i just did to my friend but at the same time

very good. long story short i have been put in the between her, her dh and there kids, yes i do not mind helping where i can, heck i love it, but after last night and i guess with what i personally have been going through i just had it and i feel horrible that i actually told her no i am not doing it anymore(she wanted me to call him because he was not picking up the phone for her) but now i am sitting here thinking well it's just a phone call i could have done that, but if i do not draw the line right now it will never end have you been through this(or something very simular) am i wrong? i just do not want to loss either one as a friend

and i am not the only one who does not want to hear it any more, and i feel like i have just left her, which is not true but for right now i just can't. man i am so confussed right now ... ok sorry venting and rambling over

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I don't know what is going on...but whenever you are stuck in between a couple or family its best to stay out of it!

Re: i feel so bad what i just did to my friend but at the same time

You're not wrong, she should never involve you in her marriage problems

Re: i feel so bad what i just did to my friend but at the same time

youre absolutely not wrong. you should NOT be involved in her marital problems.

one time, many years ago, and friend and her boyfriend "were seeing other people" for the summer and we were all a big bunch that would all call eachother at any time.
so she asked me to call him, just to see what he was up to, dating anyone, etc.

so I called him, chit chatted, and he had a girl in the room, and told me he had to go after we chatted for 5 minutes about how our whole group of friends was doing etc.

so then my friend told me to tell her EVERYTHING, up front and honest.

so I told her there was a girl in the room and we didnt chat much at all.

well she got VERY angry that I told her that! she was like "HOW CAN YOU TELL ME THAT ?? I CANT BELEIVE YOU TOLD ME THAT!!!" after ten minutes of telling me to let her know of any detail at all..

So this was just something minimal, and it didnt inolve a marriage or a child, so I can imagine how much worse it can be in your situation.

tell her honestly that youd rather not get involved because you care about both of them and their child.

hopefully she'll appreciate the words of a true friend.

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thanks guys. i just hope she does understand. i do not want to hurt her feelings but right now i need to keep my distance. the only think i am worried about are the kids and that is why for so long i tried to help them.

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i agree. she shouldnt put you in that position.

Re: i feel so bad what i just did to my friend but at the same time

She should have never put you in the middle of her problems. It's one thing to have a good friend to talk to and quite another to put that good friend in an uncomfortable position. She needs to handle her personal problems on her own.

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