I feel very selfish...

Here goes...

My inlaws (SIL BIL FIL MIL and DH grandparents) all moved to Florida. My SIL hasn't seen our new house yet. She is coming for July 4th and staying with us. She has 4 kids. SO thats 6 people plus us and we only have one bathroom... But we are so excited cause we havents seen the kids for a while and they havent been back to ny since we got married.

My MIL and FIL come up all the time. We moved in October and they have been here and stayed with us twice already and my FIL comes up every month (business).

HERES the thing... We make plans and are all excited that they are coming and then my inlaws invite themselves. First they said they were going to stay with us and Mike was like no way. But honestly we both kinda wont them to not come We want to have some alone time with the kids and his sisters. His sister is not happy that they are coming and Mike is not happy they are coming. But Mike wont tell them not to come (not that he should but) ...Its like whatever she does the parents have to do. His sister was going to disney world and they said "oh well come too" they just invite themselves everywhere.

I honestly don't get along with my MIL but...its not just me who feel this way this time. Its both her kids. It just they are going to be attached to her the entire time.

I feel so mean and selfish

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don't feel that way...it's your home, your rules. How in the world are you going to fit all those people in your house at the same time??

Sorry...plans were made and accomodations were awarded to your SIL and her family. "nuff said. No room for anyone else.

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you are NOT selfish.

is there any way you could let them know (gently of course)..that them coming at the same time your SIL and the kids coming is kinda inconvenient....your house is going to be VERY crowded
would they understand if you just told them straight out??

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I would say it's up to the SIL to put them in their place. Explain that it is her time with you.

And you are not mean & selfish. You are opening your house to 6 people who you haven't seen and would like to spend quality with them. Where does selfishness come in?

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I don't think you are being selfish at all. You want to have some time to spend with her and the kids and do things with them. I completely understand, my sister, niece and I all have birthdays around the same time so instead of gifts, we get show tickets, go to dinner and make a night out of it. My mom invited herself which I rather she didn't. Not only do we have to do it around her schedule but she has already seen shows that we want to see.

No, you aren't being selfish!

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I just feel like im being selfish because im saying I want them all to myself for a week. But they live in Florida like 10 minutes from each other they are always with my SIL (uninvited I might add)

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I would have your DH say to his parents that you want to see them, but they need to pick a different week to come up. (And no they should not go to a hotel in your area the week your SIL is staying with you). I would say that we have a lot of active type things planned for your neice/nephew and DH wants some alone time to spend with his sister.
Your inlaws sound really clingy. I feel badly for your SIL since she has them all the time.

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Aw man, Juney - this stinks

But as everyone else said, you are NOT BEING SELFISH!!

Is there ANY way that either SIL or Mike can talk to their parents and just nicely tell them to bug off ( yeah I know, wishful thinking)

Ugh, I feel for you

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Juney - I totally understand!! Like others said, I think it's up to Mike or really your SIL to be like - we want this time together, just us, since we never see each other - like you said- by the time they come up, it'll have been two years since they did! You have the right to want to hang out with them and the kids on your own!!!
Have Mike or your sil step up to the plate!

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junebug.......you aren't selfish AT ALL. You just saw them. I totally understand you wanting them to stay behind...