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Xelindrya
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I give up - I'm going to lurk for a while.
I feel misunderstood and frustrated.
I'll be back sometime and at least by my 1st u/s
See some of ya'll later tonight or whatever. I'll read FMs I guess.
Wishing you all the best in your pregnancies.. Really I do.
I just can't handle anyone assuming I don't want my child or think it's a burden to my life.
It's beyond what I can handle.
ETA: I never said anyone attacked me. I said their comments upset me as rude and I couldn't handle it. I have the right to back off when offended. I just wanted space. I realize this is a public forum and i took the advice given and talked to the doc, make late appts. I thought backing off would avoid drama, apparently not. So I'm posting this as a edit to avoid bumping this thread.
Those ladies who helped me in that thread in other threads and in FM, thank you
Message edited 2/4/2008 10:37:53 PM.
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Xelindrya
Mommy's little YouTube Star!
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Re: I give up - I'm going to lurk for a while.
PS: Thanks for all the supportitive gals out there.
You rock
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| Posted 2/4/08 1:56 PM |
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neener1211
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Re: I give up - I'm going to lurk for a while.
Hi, I didn't post on your other post about the doctor because I didn't feel the need to at the time.
I saw your last post and I thought that if you had written the last post on originally, you probably wouldn't have felt attacked. I'm not saying that girls don't attack on this site, but while you are trying to give us your personality, you need to remember that the way you write something may not come off the same as if you were to say it.
We all know that we have fears and annoyances about pregnancy, but you also need to understand that there are girls on here that would give their right arm to feel the frustration of something as simple as going to a doctor every month-even to just go and them tell you nothing is wrong.
Just remember that a lot of girls, maybe including you, may have had a past with pregnancies, and are sensitive to what might seem like complaining...even if it isn't.
Message edited 2/4/2008 2:13:05 PM.
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headoverheels
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Re: I give up - I'm going to lurk for a while.
i'm sorry to see you "go," but keep in mind that most of your posts can possibly be seen as complaining - remember your comment about the fact that you would "kill" your husband if you were PG with twins?
it's so hard to really read someone over the internet - while you might feel that what you type should easily be viewed as sarcasm, a lot of people won't see it that way unless they are used to sarcasm in their lives.
i agree with neener - just look at the ladies on the TTC and IF boards. i am willing to bet that those women would kill to be in your position.
i don't think anyone has attacked you, and i know you don't feel that you need to censor yourself, but keep in mind that this is a public forum so if you choose not to censor your comments and posts you will have to deal with people who don't censor their replies.
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LJSMommy
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Re: I give up - I'm going to lurk for a while.
Posted by headoverheels
i don't think anyone has attacked you, and i know you don't feel that you need to censor yourself, but keep in mind that this is a public forum so if you choose not to censor your comments and posts you will have to deal with people who don't censor their replies.
I also did not see any of the replys as "attacking". A question was asked and it seemed all answered by saying no they are NOT annoyed.
Unless there were FM you got that said otherwise, I don't see how any of it was attacking. JMHO.
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pinkandblue
Our family is complete, maybe
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Re: I give up - I'm going to lurk for a while.
Honestly, if your doctor's hours do not work for you, find another doctor. I ALWAYS went for my visits during lunch, no problem
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| Posted 2/4/08 2:23 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: I give up - I'm going to lurk for a while.
Posted by maybeajunebaby
Posted by headoverheels
i don't think anyone has attacked you, and i know you don't feel that you need to censor yourself, but keep in mind that this is a public forum so if you choose not to censor your comments and posts you will have to deal with people who don't censor their replies.
I also did not see any of the replys as "attacking". A question was asked and it seemed all answered by saying no they are NOT annoyed.
Unless there were FM you got that said otherwise, I don't see how any of it was attacking. JMHO.
I agree, no one attacked you on that post, they answered truthfully
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| Posted 2/4/08 2:24 PM |
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Karebaby
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Re: I give up - I'm going to lurk for a while.
I really didn't see it as "attacking" either.
When you post a topic with a question,you shouldn't expect everyone to reply exactly as you hope.
Everyone was just giving their opinions based on the question you asked.
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leighla
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Re: I give up - I'm going to lurk for a while.
See, I just read through the entire "annoyed" thread and I don't understand what your issue is.
You asked a question - "is anyone else annoyed".
Some answered "yes", some answered "no".
Most of the ones who said "no" also went on to give you some tips about how to possibly manage it better based on their experience.
So I'm not sure why you are upset.
However, I remember you from LIW days and remember quite a few posts where you felt "misunderstood".
And I see some of the same issues in your posts now on LIF.
Maybe you need to be more careful in your phrasing and read what you are about to post from the eyes of another to see if it's going to come out correctly or not.
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| Posted 2/4/08 2:25 PM |
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cjik
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Re: I give up - I'm going to lurk for a while.
Posted by neener1211
I saw your last post and I thought that if you had written the last post on originally, you probably wouldn't have felt attacked. I'm not saying that girls don't attack on this site, but while you are trying to give us your personality, you need to remember that the way you write something may not come off the same as if you were to say it.
We all know that we have fears and annoyances about pregnancy, but you also need to understand that there are girls on here that would give their right arm to feel the frustration of something as simple as going to a doctor every month-even to just go and them tell you nothing is wrong.
Just remember that a lot of girls, maybe including you, may have had a past with pregnancies, and are sensitive to what might seem like complaining...even if it isn't.
Very true. A lot of people on here did not come ot their pregnancies easily, and others may not have understood what you meant from your original post.
Talk to your doctor about your fears, and ask him/her to give you an outline of the appts. you can expect and to explain why they are important, what is done at them. If the doctor won't explain them to you or seems too rushed, look for someone else.
It doesn't seem like much goes on at the appts. and songrams are not necessary monthly unless there is something wrong. But a lot more goes on than you would think. The blood and urine tests, blood pressure, and weight checks screen for potential problems in your pregnancy, problems that could be huge if undetected. Each month you also have a chance to ask the million and one questions you are sure to have, so make a list to take with you.
Doctors are often rushed, but I've seen many over the years, and I've found you sometimes need to be a bit assertive with them and demand that they take the time to answer your questions. If one won't, you need to seek another.
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| Posted 2/4/08 2:26 PM |
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DeniseMarie
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Re: I give up - I'm going to lurk for a while.
Posted by maybeajunebaby
Posted by headoverheels
i don't think anyone has attacked you, and i know you don't feel that you need to censor yourself, but keep in mind that this is a public forum so if you choose not to censor your comments and posts you will have to deal with people who don't censor their replies.
I also did not see any of the replys as "attacking". A question was asked and it seemed all answered by saying no they are NOT annoyed.
Unless there were FM you got that said otherwise, I don't see how any of it was attacking. JMHO.
ita - I doesn't seem that anyone was attacking you, just had a difference in opinion.
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| Posted 2/4/08 2:52 PM |
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vegalady
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Re: I give up - I'm going to lurk for a while.
I just read through your original post and didnt feel that anyone attacked you at all. We all understand how frustrating things can be sometimes when carrying a child. As magnificent as it is we all have our fears. Your feelings are your feelings and we are not trying to validate them at all. When you ask a question you must understand that an answer based on the persons own opinion is going to be given. It may not be what you want to hear but we all have our own opinions. So I am not sure you should jump the gun yet and just exclude yourself from the boards. All of the ladies are extremely helpful on here and are not here to badger you. 
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dapnkap
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Re: I give up - I'm going to lurk for a while.
I don't think anyone attacked you either, but everyone is entitled to their own opinions.
You asked a question and you got some answers and I'm sorry if most of the respones were not what you wanted to hear.
Feel good!
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| Posted 2/4/08 3:29 PM |
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aliwnec10
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Re: I give up - I'm going to lurk for a while.
Posted by vegalady
I just read through your original post and didnt feel that anyone attacked you at all. We all understand how frustrating things can be sometimes when carrying a child. As magnificent as it is we all have our fears. Your feelings are your feelings and we are not trying to validate them at all. When you ask a question you must understand that an answer based on the persons own opinion is going to be given. It may not be what you want to hear but we all have our own opinions. So I am not sure you should jump the gun yet and just exclude yourself from the boards. All of the ladies are extremely helpful on here and are not here to badger you.
I agree. I think you're jumping the gun on this one. I read through the entire post and no one said anything offensively or was attacking you.
I think that everyone was trying to offer good advice and suggestions on how to make things easier on you with your doctor appts. Nothing else.
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NewlyMrs
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Re: I give up - I'm going to lurk for a while.
I don't think anyone was attacking either. If you think people mis-read you then be more specific about what you mean.
However the comment you made on NFR, about lent, I hope you meant as a joke, because it did not come across as funny at all.
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Re: I give up - I'm going to lurk for a while.
I think she may be talking about personal FM's.
You can't leave us!!!!
We are one big preggo family!!!
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: I give up - I'm going to lurk for a while.
Posted by leighla
See, I just read through the entire "annoyed" thread and I don't understand what your issue is.
You asked a question - "is anyone else annoyed".
Some answered "yes", some answered "no".
Most of the ones who said "no" also went on to give you some tips about how to possibly manage it better based on their experience.
So I'm not sure why you are upset.
However, I remember you from LIW days and remember quite a few posts where you felt "misunderstood".
And I see some of the same issues in your posts now on LIF.
Maybe you need to be more careful in your phrasing and read what you are about to post from the eyes of another to see if it's going to come out correctly or not.
exactly - it's all a ploy, IMO
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| Posted 2/4/08 5:38 PM |
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Marcie
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Re: I give up - I'm going to lurk for a while.
I am not really sure what the issue is - but from reading your other post - I really think you need to find a new doctor that fits your needs.
If you want an explanation of each appt - then find a doctor that will.
I am sure there is one out there that will.
And to make a suggestion - in finding a new doctor maybe find one that does the sonograms in the doctors office.
This has worked out great for me, since I needed night appt so my DH can go with me.
**and quite honestly, I am not sure why are upset about the other post - maybe I missed something 
But from the topic of your post - it might seem that you were asking for advice and from what I see - that is what you got**
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| Posted 2/4/08 5:59 PM |
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lovemy2boys
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Re: I give up - I'm going to lurk for a while.
I don't think there was anything wrong with your last post at all! I don't like going all the time either, I just hate going to the Dr. in general 
A lot of doctors forget to explain things to their patients because it's so routine for them. They forget that it's not routine to us, so ask your questions and you'll feel better
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LoriH
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Re: I give up - I'm going to lurk for a while.
I think you may be a little extra sensitive from all the pregnancy hormones. We all get like that sometimes.
I do agree with some of the other ladies who said you do have to be careful what you say. I am also one of the lucky ones who got pregnant without much trying and have had a relatively uneventful pregnancy so far. However, I try not to lose site of the fact that getting and staying pregnant is a long hard journey for many women.
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Dani520
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Re: I give up - I'm going to lurk for a while.
I really do not see anything at all wrong with the other thread either
A question was asked, answers we given, and suggestions were offered.....wasn't that the point?
I don't think anyone was trying to be mean or hurtful at all....just helpful and honest!!
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| Posted 2/4/08 6:10 PM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: I give up - I'm going to lurk for a while.
I have to agree with the other ladies too......I'm sorry to see that you won't be posting but I do think that when you do you have to be extra careful how you word things because sometimes thoughts and humor and sarcasm don't translate in a post.
I don't doubt you love your baby and want the best for him/her but I think your posts do come across at times like you're disinterested or bothered by being pregnant. Maybe I and the other ladies are wrong but that's why wording is so important in an online post.
Anyway, I hope that you will reconsider rejoining us on the board. It's such a great resource and everyone is genuinely interested in each other's well being so I think you'd really be missing out. If we don't see you around the boards I wish you lots and lots of luck with your baby and a very happy and healthy 9 months too!! 
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Diana1215
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Re: I give up - I'm going to lurk for a while.
I read and responded to the other post and did not see one response "attacking" you.
If you don't like your doctors hours - then change doctors. SO SIMPLE.
You say that your DR. won't explain to you why you need to see them once a month - well, then find a doctor that will explain it to you. Again, SO SIMPLE.
All I know is this - Would you rather go to a doctor that monitored your pregnancy and was able to catch something (God forbid) -- or would you rather go to a doctor that said to you "See you in six months!"???
They have these appointments for a reason - otherwise every other doctor out there would not be doing it.
It may seem like nothing to you - going in for a urine sample, blood pressure, and listening to the heartbeat --- but I have a friend who went to the doctor for a routine checkup - and there was no heartbeat left (and this was a week before she was due)
Unfortunately, we all know things happen with pregnancies - not only in the first trimester - but anytime during the pregnancy. I think it's great that the doctors want to stay on top of things and hopefully prevent something from happening if possible.
You should want to make sure you are in the best hands - and with a dr. who looks out for you - and wants the best for your baby.
If you just want to post your thoughts and not get any honest responses back then I'm sorry but that's not going to happen on LIF.
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