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MaMaTeenie
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I know i'm crazy, but maybe you are too
Maybe its just me, but I'd feel better if it wasn't. Lol! 
I feel bad ALWAYS making DS say please and thank you. Don't get me wrong he is very polite, says please and thank you most of the time, says God Bless you if you sneeze, asks if someone is ok if they are crying, but sometimes I feel bad making him say please or thank you everytime he wants juice or a snack or something. The reason being that he physically can not do it himself and I wouldn't allow him to do certain things so why should he have to beg when its my responsability to provide these basic necessities for him. Like I said I know I'm crazy and I do think its so important for children to have good manners and be polite. Just had to put this out there because there are times it really bothers me if DH tells him to say thank you when he has said 8 out of the last 10 times.
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headoverheels
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Re: I know i'm crazy, but maybe you are too
I am crazy too  I always, always make DS say please. He's 21 months and knows it but always has to be reminded!
Our only problem is "thank you" - if I tell him to say it he says "welcome" instead like he's answering me, he doesn't get that yet
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| Posted 6/9/10 9:29 AM |
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Mkr09
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Re: I know i'm crazy, but maybe you are too
I almost always try to make Kaydyn say please and thank you. Sometimes I do let her slide but most times I still make her say it. Eventually she'll get bigger and can get stuff herself and she won't need to ask me for stuff, but I still like manners.
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| Posted 6/9/10 9:32 AM |
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nbc188
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Re: I know i'm crazy, but maybe you are too
I completely know what you're saying. This time last year, right before DD turned 2, we spent a long weekend with my sister (we only see her a few times a year).
She was commenting (1/2 joking) that we're neurotic when it comes to making DD say please/thank you/yes please/etc. I mean, we were always correcting her (nicely). I think I even posted on it back then. I could even give DD a "look" (still can) when she occasionally asks for something without saying please, and she knows exactly what the look is about and she corrects herself without me even having to say a word...even was doing it when she was 2.
We are constantly complimented on her manners. It is 100% habit now for her to say "may I have some water please", etc....she has exceptional manners. And honestly, it's b/c we were consistent with reminding her (again, nicely).
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| Posted 6/9/10 9:32 AM |
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TLC1018
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Re: I know i'm crazy, but maybe you are too
I don't think it's crazy at all!  My DD is 17 months old and she says thank you (on her own)if you give her something...and if she wants something I ask her to say please and she does. I don't think it's ever too early to start with good manners.
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| Posted 6/9/10 9:35 AM |
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Re: I know i'm crazy, but maybe you are too
I don't think that's crazy...I'm gonna probably do that too when DD starts to talk
My mom did this with me
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| Posted 6/9/10 9:38 AM |
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MaMaTeenie
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Re: I know i'm crazy, but maybe you are too
Posted by headoverheels
I am crazy too I always, always make DS say please. He's 21 months and knows it but always has to be reminded!
Our only problem is "thank you" - if I tell him to say it he says "welcome" instead like he's answering me, he doesn't get that yet
DS did that too!
From the responses it seems I wasn't clear. I actually feel bad making him say please/thank you ALL the time. (Yes, I expect good manners and all that),but there are times when I or DH will tell him to say it (if he forgot) and I feel bad about doing that because I feel like I'm making him "beg" for basic necessities when he isn't capable of getting it himself. I know it silly....
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| Posted 6/9/10 9:47 AM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: I know i'm crazy, but maybe you are too
We don't always make DC say "Please", but we do make them "Ask nicely".
I'm not a big fan of the "magic word" because I've personally seen too many DC think that "Please" automatically guarantees them whatever they ask for.
"Please" and "Thank You" are a big part of asking nicely, though, so we do encourage it, but don't require it, and also don't always give DC what they want just because they said Please.
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| Posted 6/9/10 10:53 AM |
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MaMaTeenie
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Re: I know i'm crazy, but maybe you are too
Posted by GoldenRod
We don't always make DC say "Please", but we do make them "Ask nicely".
I'm not a big fan of the "magic word" because I've personally seen too many DC think that "Please" automatically guarantees them whatever they ask for.
"Please" and "Thank You" are a big part of asking nicely, though, so we do encourage it, but don't require it, and also don't always give DC what they want just because they said Please.
TOTALLY. This is a if I knew then what I know now for me. DS now says pleeeeeeease 4800 times if I say no to something. BUT I never really did the magic word or say please things...it was more like "we use good manners we say, can I please have a cookie"
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