I know it's common to become forgetful after you have a baby, but...

I think there seriously might be something wrong with me I used to be so sharp and ontop of things, and now, I can barely remember to get Ava dressed. Forget about remembering things I have to do. I can never remember, and I even write them down, but then I can't remember where I put my planner. It's such an awful feeling, I honestly feel like there's something wrong with me. I walk around in circles trying to remember what it was I was doing, I stop mid-sentence because I can't remember what I was saying, etc. It's really bad. I'm just so upset over this, and I feel like I've just kept saying to myself, oh, it's just because I have a baby now, when really, I think it's so much more than that. I feel like it affects my job, too. Not that I'm working now, but during the year, when I'm teaching, if I don't write every, single thing I want to say down, I can't remember it. Like I said, mid-sentence, I'll stop and have no recollection of what I was just saying. Hell, I have to go back read what I wrote when I freaking post because I can't remember. Anyway. I just needed to vent about that because I feel crazy some days

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I do the same things, DH is always yelling at me, because he always tells me things and then 2 days later, he will say remember I told you and Im like NO.

You are not crazy lol.

Message edited 7/20/2007 12:53:21 PM.

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Im sorry you're feeling upset about this, I know exactly what you mean... it's like sometimes I feel like how can 1 person rember eveyrthing I need to remember...glad to see i'm notalone

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It's hitting me now so much because I'm trying to pack for our weekend away, and seriously, I must have made 6 lists of what I need because I keep misplacing them. I feel like I'm going crazy today

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I am so forgetful, I tried to "organize" into one place. All appt are on biz cards and on the fridge. I write all To Do on lists and put them in the same spot.

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Rach, I feel EXACTLY the same way!

Sometimes I feel so lost and literally it makes me sick because I feel like I am losing my mind. Makes me sad because now I know what my grandmother must feel like.

Its really hard, especially when I know how on top of things I was before. We, once again can be here for each other. Each others' reminders LOL

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I could have written this myself. I've even started looking into my diet to help as well.

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I can't tell you how many times I've put something away so "I wouldn't forget where it as".....and now have no idea where I put it. It drives me nuts! I do it all the time. Plus my short term memory is shot. Ask me what I did yesterday and I would have to sit and think for about 5 minutes.

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You are not alone. In my first 5 months coming back to work, my boss came into my office, closed the door, looked at me and said, "Beth, what is going on???"

I think all new mom's go through this - the question is, when do you start to transition back to your "good memory". For me, it happened around the 14/15 month mark. That's when I felt like I was back in my groove, so to speak.

Cut yourself some slack - give it a little more time. The first year of having a child is mind-altering - give it the credit it deserves

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Completely Normal...well at least in Moe and Animal world. I am only now starting to see the light at the end of the forgetful tunnel

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I'd love to tell you that it comes back....but it hasn't for me and Taylor is 2 1/2

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I'm using every possible excuse I can. I had a baby. I'm working full-time. We just moved. We're searching for a house to buy. The excuses never end. I'm just worrying more than usual because when I go back to work in September, I have a new boss, and I, of course, have to make an impression, and feeling this way is leaving me with horrible anxiety that won't go away.

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Posted by prncss

I'm using every possible excuse I can. I had a baby. I'm working full-time. We just moved. We're searching for a house to buy. The excuses never end. I'm just worrying more than usual because when I go back to work in September, I have a new boss, and I, of course, have to make an impression, and feeling this way is leaving me with horrible anxiety that won't go away.

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You are definitely not alone. I was supposed to go to a book club meeting on Monday night at 8, it was only Monday night at 11.30 that I realised it was actually Monday.

I am completely forgetful all the time.

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I am not sure what you are talking about because I remember everything all the time. But I wanted to give you some hugs...





On a serious note, I also have a serious problem with this - esp. short term memory. You can tell me something and 2 minutes later I totally forget.

OR

I am famous for this. I will get in the shower in the morning - hmm..Im running low on conditioner...I need some more. I'll get it later.

Next morning..hmm..I am running low on conditioner...etc..etc...

it's scary.

I started taking a multivitamin lately thinking it might help that and a few other issues (always being tired) but I wonder if it is just that I am really not exercising my brain enough.

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Did I mention that yesterday I found a pair of scissors in the freezer?????? I'm NOT KIDDING!!!

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OMG..i also feel i have lost brain cells..i'm constantly putting on something backwards or forgetting to do something.

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Thanks, girls. I think it's becoming more and more apparent now that we're staying with my parents and my mom will ask me to run an errand for her, and I say yes, then when I see her again that night, she'll be like, "Did you get the milk?" And I'll have no idea what she's talking about. People think I'm just being lazy and ignoring them, and that really is beginning to frustrate and infuriate me. I made an appt. to go speak to someone because I also feel like my brain is constantly running at 100mph, and I almost feel like I have ADD. Forget about phone conversations. I hear maybe every fifth word someone says to me.
Anyway, love you girls, I really mean it.

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I felt like this for the longest time....I'm finally starting to feel like myself again!

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Posted by Taylorsmom

I'd love to tell you that it comes back....but it hasn't for me and Taylor is 2 1/2

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Rachel- I have ADD and that is exactly how I feel. Its so frustrating, and its definately gotten worse since I had Maddy. I was taking medication that helped alot, but I didn't like the side effects, plus I had to stop taking it to get pregnant. There are some holistic things you can do- feel free to FM me if you want more info.

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Rachel, as I was reading this I said STORY OF MY LIFE ! I know EXACTLY how you feel, and this happens to me ALL the time.
I can NOT sit still for long periods, my mind is racing and going at all times. I tell John Anthony to remind me of things, I lose lists and forget to update my "TO DO" spreadsheets (so I can compile ALL that is going on in my busy head into 25 different lists )

I was going to say ADD also, and didnt want to offend you and then you also mentioned it.

I was looking into getting tested a couple of months ago, and was given the run around, then was also told, YOU HAVE 3 CHILDREN ages 4 and under!

But Im going with my gut and seeing what I can do to help myself.
It's gotten to the point like you said, where I cant concentrate at times because Im doing and thinking of 18 things at once.

I can totally understand how you feel.
FM me if you need to talk

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Posted by Summerrluvv

Posted by Taylorsmom

I'd love to tell you that it comes back....but it hasn't for me and Taylor is 2 1/2

Me either and Nicholas is 8! I can't even talk either..and I feel like I have ADHD these days