I like to think I'm a patient person

But, I'm really losing it over here with Alex. We've had NONSTOP whining, crying and defiance for a few weeks now, and I'm so over it. We had to take her out of the restaurant yesterday 4 times, while everyone watched in awe at her tempermental tantrums.

She woke up in the same mood, and I really lost my patience with her this morning

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I know that feeling. I hope it gets better for you soon.

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I completly understand Hayley has been the same way. If I ask her to do something she tells me NEVER or NO-AH...I hear 3 is worse that 2

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i know how you feel i think all kids go through that. I am having in now with my 2 1/2 yo and 11 yo! Just try to remember that it will pass.

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Im just going to give you some because I know what youre going through and it su*ks!

Hope it passes soon!!!!

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From the mommy of a spirited child to another, I feel your pain. Just know that it's a phase and something must be going on inside that wacky little brain of hers. I know it doesn't help to hear that now, but this too shall pass. Hang in there and vent away. It helps

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Oh, I know the feeling!!!

What I just do is take a deep breath, say the serenity prayer and see if there is something I can do. Often, there isn't and its just her personality. So I just sit back and rememeber one day, her temperment will make her a fine litigator

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Posted by 2003fallwedding

I completly understand Hayley has been the same way. If I ask her to do something she tells me NEVER or NO-AH...I hear 3 is worse that 2

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I'm right there with you... I have been losing it for a few weeks now and then I always end up feeling bad b/c I know it's just the age...

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I had the same few days you speak of a couple of weeks ago.

I dropped Bella off at daycare one morning and we were both upset. Her teacher made me feel better. She said that they are all testing their boundaries. Smarter children like Bella and Alex (and all of LIF ) give us double the troouble because they are mastering manipulation while still being too immature to deal with frustration.

I try and think of that when I am in the middle of a temper tantrum. Keeping calm, placing her in another room away from me while she screams, and explaining to her why that behavior will not be tolerated and only makes mommy, daddy, and Bella upset seems to have worked enough for me to feel better about things.

Don't get me wrong, she threw herself to the ground when I wouldn't give her my bank card at the ATM, but I calmy tell her that the behavior cannot be tolerated and that we were not stopping for ice cream as planned...I gave the woman next to me an apologetic look and didn't give in. She screamed for 10 minutes, but I think about the next time and hope that she is learning?

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Posted by mommy2bella

I had the same few days you speak of a couple of weeks ago.

I dropped Bella off at daycare one morning and we were both upset. Her teacher made me feel better. She said that they are all testing their boundaries. Smarter children like Bella and Alex (and all of LIF ) give us double the troouble because they are mastering manipulation while still being too immature to deal with frustration.

I try and think of that when I am in the middle of a temper tantrum. Keeping calm, placing her in another room away from me while she screams, and explaining to her why that behavior will not be tolerated and only makes mommy, daddy, and Bella upset seems to have worked enough for me to feel better about things.

Don't get me wrong, she threw herself to the ground when I wouldn't give her my bank card at the ATM, but I calmy tell her that the behavior cannot be tolerated and that we were not stopping for ice cream as planned...I gave the woman next to me an apologetic look and didn't give in. She screamed for 10 minutes, but I think about the next time and hope that she is learning?

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Posted by mommy2bella

I had the same few days you speak of a couple of weeks ago.

I dropped Bella off at daycare one morning and we were both upset. Her teacher made me feel better. She said that they are all testing their boundaries. Smarter children like Bella and Alex (and all of LIF ) give us double the troouble because they are mastering manipulation while still being too immature to deal with frustration.

I try and think of that when I am in the middle of a temper tantrum. Keeping calm, placing her in another room away from me while she screams, and explaining to her why that behavior will not be tolerated and only makes mommy, daddy, and Bella upset seems to have worked enough for me to feel better about things.

Don't get me wrong, she threw herself to the ground when I wouldn't give her my bank card at the ATM, but I calmy tell her that the behavior cannot be tolerated and that we were not stopping for ice cream as planned...I gave the woman next to me an apologetic look and didn't give in. She screamed for 10 minutes, but I think about the next time and hope that she is learning?

I try, I really try, and this is the approach I usually take. But I'm having a really difficult few days, and I'm emotional to begin with because of some other things, so when she woke up screaming and crying and throwing a fit over everything, after dealing with it all day yesterday, I just snapped back at her, and I feel awful. I know I need to be forgiving of myself, and that this teaches her that being human, and reacting sometimes is OK, but that jewish guilt always finds a way to eat at my heart.

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Tommorrows a new day

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Im not at the point that you are yet. but I can say is that your child has a very strong personality that will definitely come in handy one day.
DS is only one and is extremely extremely defiant. I can only wonder what it is going to be like once he gets older.

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I could have written this post myself. Carlie has been extremly dificult the past few days. I keep reminding myself it is a phase...I hope.

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Seriously, Beth. I'd love to see Ghandi survive an entire day with a 2 year old!!!

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Posted by mommy2bella

I had the same few days you speak of a couple of weeks ago.

I dropped Bella off at daycare one morning and we were both upset. Her teacher made me feel better. She said that they are all testing their boundaries. Smarter children like Bella and Alex (and all of LIF ) give us double the troouble because they are mastering manipulation while still being too immature to deal with frustration.

I try and think of that when I am in the middle of a temper tantrum. Keeping calm, placing her in another room away from me while she screams, and explaining to her why that behavior will not be tolerated and only makes mommy, daddy, and Bella upset seems to have worked enough for me to feel better about things.

Don't get me wrong, she threw herself to the ground when I wouldn't give her my bank card at the ATM, but I calmy tell her that the behavior cannot be tolerated and that we were not stopping for ice cream as planned...I gave the woman next to me an apologetic look and didn't give in. She screamed for 10 minutes, but I think about the next time and hope that she is learning?

I try, I really try, and this is the approach I usually take. But I'm having a really difficult few days, and I'm emotional to begin with because of some other things, so when she woke up screaming and crying and throwing a fit over everything, after dealing with it all day yesterday, I just snapped back at her, and I feel awful. I know I need to be forgiving of myself, and that this teaches her that being human, and reacting sometimes is OK, but that jewish guilt always finds a way to eat at my heart.

I so get it and btw the "guilt" is ok, we were all raised on it. My five year old was spirited to say the least and at times it was absolutely unbearable. But, what I can tell you is that at 5, she is always the leader of the pack, never afraid to do something different then the group and always stands up for herself. She is definitely the Norma Ray of the playground. So hang in there because it waxes and wanes but kids like this will always be interesting. I've also found that a glass of wine at the end of the day helps.

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I hope this phase passes soon.