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jcndd
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Danielle
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I love my son but this is just so hard!
No day is ever the same. Some days he'll nap 1.5 hrs 3x/day.. I try to follow the same schedule and that doesn't work. The next day he'll only nap 30 minutes here and there and then he absolutely WHINES all day. Some days he eats like a horse....nurses great, takes a bottle - the next he starves himself. Some nights he sleeps, well, OK and others it's terrible - waking every hour or 2. I just don't get it. I know I'm probably my own worst enemy by not letting him CIO even just a little (3 minutes or so is my max) but there are days when it's just so hard. DH can be quite obnoxious when I tell him I've had a rough day ("how "rough" can my day be when I stay home and go to the beach???" ) Now Joseph will not stay with anyone else either - I guess the separation anxiety has settled in - and I just feel the weight of the world on my shoulders. On top of it, now that he's so finicky w/ nursing I think my supply is diminishing. I know I should be pumping regularly but I don't. I told you - I'm my own worst enemy. Just needed to vent....
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Posted 3/30/06 6:38 PM  |
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Re: I love my son but this is just so hard!
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| Posted 3/30/06 6:43 PM |
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Tracey
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Re: I love my son but this is just so hard!
My 2 are the same way, everyday is different with them - I can totally relate to how your feeling, my DH makes similar comments - which only makes me angrier!
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| Posted 3/30/06 6:51 PM |
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Calla
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Re: I love my son but this is just so hard!
Just wanted to send you some hugs, and let you know that I understand how you feel.
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| Posted 3/30/06 6:57 PM |
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MelToddJulia
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Re: I love my son but this is just so hard!
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| Posted 3/30/06 6:58 PM |
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aja
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Re: I love my son but this is just so hard!
I've spoken to you before on these boards because it seems like my son is very similair to yours. He makes his own schedule everyday so i kind of just learned to go with it. And yes he still wakes up at night ever 4-5 hours. 
I use to rush to get home to give him his bath and try to keep his routine. No difference. I would try not to let him nap after six no difference. I guess we just have independent little men.
We can't really change them maybe the way we perceive the situation. It's interesting that when I complain to my mom and grandma about him they think i'm nuts. "that's what he is suppossed to do he is a baby" they tell me and laugh. And look they already are a 1/2 year old! My friend had her daughter trained to go to bed everynight at bed from 8pm. It was great...now baby number two is here and now the baby sleeps in the crib but her two year old sleeps in their bed.
They always change...but whenever his fussy go to the mall and don't worry about his schedulu. I think they get bored of us!!!!
wow this is long
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| Posted 3/30/06 7:10 PM |
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mommy2bella
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Re: I love my son but this is just so hard!
Being a SAHM is the hardest job in the world, no matter where you go during the day...
I give you MAJOR props for it!
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| Posted 3/30/06 8:13 PM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: I love my son but this is just so hard!
Posted by mommy2bellabean
Being a SAHM is the hardest job in the world, no matter where you go during the day...
I give you MAJOR props for it!
Once again we're on the same page - DITTO DITTO DITTO!
I don't know how you do it, Danielle. Alex has always been the same way - she'll have great days, but then awful days. There's absolutely no consistency whatsoever, except for her bedtime and wake time, which is always 7pm and 6am. But in between, sometimes she wakes once, sometimes 4 times. During the day, her naps vary so tremendously. Two days ago she took a two hour nap in the AM, and an hour nap in the PM. Today, she took a one hour nap in the AM and a twenty minute nap in the PM. The only way I manage is getting out of the house and going into work. It's tough, but not nearly as tough as staying at home with a fussy/inconsistent/sleep deprived baby!
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| Posted 3/30/06 8:32 PM |
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mable
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Re: I love my son but this is just so hard!
My munchkin is almost a month old and she does not want anypart of a schedule..
today she napped for a total of 1 hr.. and we tried everything.. now she is finally sleeping so we shall see how this goes..
I just pray it gets easier..
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| Posted 3/30/06 8:47 PM |
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05mommy09
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Re: I love my son but this is just so hard!
Danielle are you guys really busy during the day??
The days RJ and I are real busy (whether it be having visitor, visting, run errands, etc...) our sched. is out the window...
Ryan is VERY sched. and when things go out of whack... it gets hairy....
What if you took a week, and did nothing (not even wash a dish- til after he's gone to bed) but the same thing at the same time all day??? I know it's hard, but maybe worth a shot???
Mable- I think you got some time to get into a "sched"...a routine is one thing... but I dont think a 1 month old, is gonna be on any kinda sched.- so dont worry about it!
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| Posted 3/30/06 8:53 PM |
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Laru
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Re: I love my son but this is just so hard!
I am sorry to hear this.....my son used to be like that and it was so hard.
How old is you DS?
Just try to follow a routine as much as you can and eventually everything will fall into place. He is probably just going thru a phase. When things get bad, just take a deep breath and tell yourself "this will pass"
Good luck
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| Posted 3/30/06 10:03 PM |
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CunningOne
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Re: I love my son but this is just so hard!
I've BTDT. Its so hard, but it does get better. Hang in there!
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| Posted 3/30/06 10:25 PM |
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4monkeys
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Re: I love my son but this is just so hard!
EVery mommy can understand and feel your pain (Unlike every daddy ).
Dont be so hard on yourself,and these men will understand soon enough that "just being home all day" (God I hate those words!) Is harder than "just sitting in a nice office all day"  
Hugs to you, it gets better !
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| Posted 3/31/06 6:43 AM |
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jcndd
The man of my dreams...
Member since 5/05 1706 total posts
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Danielle
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Re: I love my son but this is just so hard!
Thanks everyone I'm glad to know I'm not alone... I've tried everything - sticking strictly to a schedule (the majority of the time) and throwing it out the window....Marissa, Joseph is even WORSE on the days we throw it out the window! And Beth, he goes to sleep at the same time each day but mornings are not really consistent. But again, these 2 are soulmates!!! Aja - we should create our own support team!!!
I guess what it boils down to is that I always thought the one thing in life I'd do *perfectly* is raise a child...and I know I'm not doing a bad job, but on those rough days I just feel like a failure. And DH has NO CLUE how to console me or just let me vent which makes it 10x worse.
Thanks for listening!!!
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| Posted 3/31/06 7:06 AM |
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