I miss my mother

I lost my mom on the 4th of July 2 years ago to cancer and i just can't get over it. I seem to be the only one in my family still having problems with it. The moment she died still haunts me to this day. Watching her as she took her last breaths was the single most horrifying experience of my life and i wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. I starated therapy yesterday and my therapist suggesting i join a bereavement group because there will be people who understand what i went through. How do you cope through the normal routines of the day? Sometimes i break down at work, or i get stuck on something for school and wish she was there to help, or i think about when we used to race to do the crossword in the paper and how i don't know clues that she would've. So many things remind me of her. This will be the 2nd mother's day coming up without her and i don't know how to cope with it. Sometimes i take out one of her jackets and wrap it around me because it still smells like her and it feels like she's hugging me. I need serious help and i don't know what to do. Are there any group meetings anywhere i can go to? My friends can only do so much, i can't keep going to them, i think they are seriously annoyed with me.

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i am truly so very sorry for your loss. I know how you feel, unfortunately.

My mom died just a little over a year ago and I still cry every single day. I miss her terribly and still get so angry at her passing. I was just thinking, today, that maybe I needed to get therapy or join some sort of bereavement group. I have heard some people say that the second year can be just as hard or harder than the first year. Hang in there and no that you are not alone and there are people who understand your loss. FM me if you ever just want to talk.....I know it helps me to talk of my mom.

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Message edited 1/30/2009 10:48:09 AM.

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the loss of your parent is so unfair. i hate the idea that mom isn't here with us anymore. what you are going through is not abnormal. just grieve the way you want to and heal yourself. don't worry that no one else is grieving the way you are because they are grieving..just in their own way. i can't imagine filling this empty space ever and that worries me. we're here for you if you need it

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i am so sorry. unfortunately i as well, know exactly how you feel. i lost my mom almost 7 years ago to cancer and like you, i saw my mom take her last breath. it is a vision that i don't think will ever leave my head and to be honest, i try not to put that picture in my head. sometimes i think i would've been better off not seeing that but on the otherhand, i'm glad my mom wasn't alone when it happened. hard as it is, try to take comfort in that.

Re: grieving, you'll never get over it. I don't think we ever do. 7 years later and small things set me off. i don't cry every day but out of nowhere i'll burst into tears and i thank my lucky stars that I've got an awesome DH, who will drop whatever he is doing to comfort me whether it takes 5 minutes or two hours for me to calm down.

what happened to you (us) is unfair, no doubt about it. but it will get easier. FM me anytime you want.

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I am SO sorry for your loss, I cannot imagine the pain you must feel. I think a bereavement support group would help alot

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I lost my mom 2 years ago and totally understand where you are coming from. I miss her more and more each day.

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i lost my mom 12 years ago to cancer. and i STILL cry sometimes out of nowhere just missing or thinking about her. BUT it does get better. you will learn to live life as she would have wanted. Thanking god for each day you have and making the most of it. You have to continue living cause your mom would want that. she wants you happy. please please fm me anytime!

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I miss mine, too Today would be my Mom's 61st birthday. I can't stop crying.
She died 4 years ago; also to cancer. I know how you feel. I wish that i could help you in some way but I'm such a mess myself....I can't stand it.

Message edited 4/15/2008 9:45:17 PM.

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