I sympathize with you 04bride! (DH related)

I need to vent about my DH as well. All I can say is that since my DH is out of work he's been home with me my whole maternity leave and let's just say it can be very frustrating at times. I was looking forward to it being just me and Connor. The reason why it's frustrating is because my DH stays up very late playing Xbox 360 and then sleeps most of the day, when I could use his help with the baby, plus just because you're out of work doesn't mean it's a vacation and you can just act like a 17 yr old. He needs to get up and look for a job and help. I can't even get him to do household chores unless I b@tch at him. That's all I seem to do lately since all he does is play and sleep. It's like he expects me to do everything. I can't even go to the store without the baby screaming the whole time I'm gone. He does work his PT job at night, but he also feels like he should be able to go out to the bar and shoot pool with the guys he works with. Which I am fine with usually (not all the time) except for now because he's not working. He should not be going out and spending money we don't have especially when he's not putting in the effort he should be. Also, what really upset me was the other night. I was home with both kids like usual, but Connor was having a really bad day and night and cried most of it, and then trying to take care of Caiden as well but was acting up at the same time so I was REALLY stressed out and upset and I needed some help from my DH. Well, he worked that night but I expecting him home around 10:15pm. Well, he calls at 10:30 and to tell me he's stopping at the bar for a beer or two. I told him that I really need his help if you can come home please. He told me he'd be home shortly. Well, let's just say he walked in the door at 2:45am!!! I was not a happy camper, and I already spent a lot of the night crying because I'm just so stressed out about everything I've been dealing with. Besides the kids, I'm worried about him not working and not paying the bills, etc. So we haven't been getting along recently I seem to keep b@tching at him because of how he's been acting. What else am I suppose to do? I can't just sit back and not say anything! Though it doesn't matter what I say he still does what he wants when he wants to. I am so disappointed and upset with the way he's been acting. I just can't deal with it anymore!

Anyway... thanks for letting me vent. I wasn't going to post anything, but it's hard to keep it in.

Re: I sympathize with you 04bride! (DH related)

Re: I sympathize with you 04bride! (DH related)

I don't blame you, I would not be happy either!!! Is there any getting through to him if you talk to him about it??

Re: I sympathize with you 04bride! (DH related)

I feel so bad for you. You definitly don't need all that stress. Does he pay the bills? If not, maybe you can sit down with him and physically show him were you stand financially. As far as help I know you said that you dont want to nag but I would nag until I was blue in the face. Sometimes men that pushing and when he decides to grow up then you can stop nagging.

Re: I sympathize with you 04bride! (DH related)

It doesnt sound liek he takes you seriously, or he would have come home that night. Thats a complete lack of disrespect...

What does he say when you approach him about it?

i dont know what to say to help you. I know if it were me, Im be at my Mothers till he came home at a decent hour, or be living the children with him like he does to you.

You have to be strong and stand your ground.

Re: I sympathize with you 04bride! (DH related)

Re: I sympathize with you 04bride! (DH related)

MEN!!!!!!!!!!!