If you have a 12-13 yo DD

If you work FT and your 7th grade DD asks to walk home to another girls house after school would you? You never heard of the girl. Girl said her mom will be home but you don't know the mom.

My DD has friends whose parents do not question where they are going. For example a few girls came here on Halloween and not one parent asked to meet me or speak to me. The girls just got dropped off.

My gut says no not to let DD go. I work FT and won't be picking her up til 4:30. However I am getting the pressure from her and know she needs to socialize. If she doesn't actually get out with friends she will be home on social media.

I was all over the neighborhood by that age but I kind of wish my parents were as strict as I am trying to be. I live in bayside so more populated than LI. Kids are all spread out so no way to know all the friends and parents.

I feel like as a single mom I have to keep my kids close even more

Edited to say a few girls are going. I checked with the only mom of the group that I do know and she said she is ok with it (she doesn't know girl, house or parents either) since a few girls will be together.

So am I too strict and over protective?

Message edited 12/6/2015 8:20:34 PM.

If you have a 12-13 yo DD

I don't have a 12-13 year old (I do have a 16 year old) but I wouldn't be comfortable with that since I've never met the parents. I would call the mother and make sure she will be home at the very least IF you do decide to cave. The girl could just be saying that she will be home.

If you have a 12-13 yo DD

My daughter is older now, but I would only have allowed it if I was able to call and speak to the girls mother and then I felt okay about it. I would also ensure my daughter called me once there and checked in a bit later.

Re: If you have a 12-13 yo DD

Thanks ladies. DD is embarrassed and feels like a little kid when I say I have to call the other parents. According to her I am the only mom who insists on speaking to another parent. She said she would rather not go now.

I won't cave this time and although exDH isn't around he supports me and my rule so DD has to deal or find new friends!

Re: If you have a 12-13 yo DD

I would have allowed it.

If you have a 12-13 yo DD

I would definitely call the parent just to introduce myself, make sure it's ok for the girls to be there, etc. I would never let my child go off with a child I do not know to a house I do not know. Honestly (knowing how I was at 13) if she is that hesitate and saying she doesn't want to go if you call the parents then something is up.

Re: If you have a 12-13 yo DD

I never called the parents. Just be aware of what type of kids they are and what they do.