If you use social media and friends don't - does it affect friendships?

I was texting a friend of mine who has been out of state for work and she was asking me about pics of my DD. She wanted to see some new ones and I was about to say "Oh I put a bunch on FB the other day" and realized she can't see them because she's not on FB. Her husband is also not on FB and so many times they text randomly to my husband and I asking about something, and we say "Oh didn't you see about that?" and again, they have to remind us "remember we don't have FB."

I feel bad that so often they don't know what's going on in our lives and vice versa due to the lack of FB. I know that we should remain in contact more but all of us have pretty busy lives and everyone else I know can just see a pic or status update on FB and know what's happening, so that keeps everyone in the loop. If you have non-FB friends, is it harder to stay on top of things?

Message edited 2/20/2013 4:10:46 PM.

Re: If you use social media and friends don't - does it affect friendships?

Yes, absolutely. It's sad and disappointing but it is what it is.

Re: If you use social media and friends don't - does it affect friendships?

Not really.

I only use FB to play Candy Crush and post on groups. I don't typically post about what's happening in my life, kwim? Most of my status updates are mundane crap.

The pics I post to FB I usually text first to the people close to me - DD's monthly pics, holiday pics, etc.

So no, it doesn't affect my friendships.

Re: If you use social media and friends don't - does it affect friendships?

Not really. I never sent pics of my kids to my friends even before Facebook (via email or otherwise) so this is just an added bonus. We keep in touch via email and text (and LIF). If there is something important going on, I don't typically put it *just* on Facebook, and there is a lot of stuff I keep off Facebook

Message edited 2/20/2013 4:24:17 PM.

If you use social media and friends don't - does it affect friendships?

I'm off of fb currently because I did it an an experiment and liked the results

I feel don't feel any less out of the loop of my social circle.
I also feel less stress for seeing what some immature family members bicker about (each other)

Re: If you use social media and friends don't - does it affect friendships?

Yes .. i reconnected with a buddy from HS. He moved to Maine then back to Texas just before I moved back to Texas.

I looked him up, found out his father had died and sent my condolences. I loved his dad.

Anyway it was all via email. Then he asked if he could text me but i dont text. So I said friend me on facebook but he doesnt facebook. I rarely check emails so... well its been over a year since our last 'we should do lunch'

Re: If you use social media and friends don't - does it affect friendships?

I always say, "The only people I need in my life are the ones who need me in theirs". I despise FB. Honestly, I don't have the time for it. The only thing I'm left out of is the drama...did you hear what this one did, did you see what that one did...that's usually centered around FB and frankly, that's the way I like it.

ETA: To answer the question, no, it does not affect my friendships. And I can't agree more w/the person below me

Message edited 2/20/2013 4:44:51 PM.

Re: If you use social media and friends don't - does it affect friendships?

I find that I am better friends with people I am not fb friends with. Honestly, a lot of people's Facebook " persona" really bothers me whether its "the bragger", "the attention seeker", "the relationship gusher" or "the narcissist" I feel the Facebook brings out the worst in some people.

Re: If you use social media and friends don't - does it affect friendships?

No, not that I notice. I quit facebook a few years ago. Looking back, facebook only helped me keep tabs on "friends" I wasn't very close with anyway. Close friends are the ones I see regularly and text/talk to outside of social media. Maybe I miss out on little things here and there, but not enough that it has changed friendships.

Actually, if anything I find that I reach out more often or have more personal interactions with my real friends now that we're not always "connected" through facebook.

Re: If you use social media and friends don't - does it affect friendships?

No-I refuse to let FB be my default communication. I still call, email, text people. FB is for general stuff but it's not a primary form of communication for me.


ETA: I also do not post a lot on FB-random stuff but I never checkin where I am or post "going on vacation" stuff like that.

Message edited 2/20/2013 4:55:31 PM.

If you use social media and friends don't - does it affect friendships?

Similar to what you pointed out, yes. Two of my closest friends don't have FB, one lives right near me and sees DS often so it isn't really an issue. The other friend lives in NJ and I feel like I rarely see pics of her DD and she rarely sees DS, it like an out of the loop thing.

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