if your child just started Nursery School or Mom Morning Out type program....

how are drop offs going??

DS will be 3 in November. I'm a SAHM, and he just started a Nursery School 2 mornings a week. Hes the youngest in his class, so I've been nervous since I signed him up about how he was going to do.
Today was the 3rd drop-off day... and he still cried A LOT!!! Yesterday he started crying before we even got to his classroom! I asked the teacher when I picked him up and she said " he was ok. He let me paint his hand and everything." There is one assistant lady that I think he attaches himself to. He always seems to be happy/ smiling when I pick him up. But then like this morning, he was even getting upset before we left the house. I managed to calm him down by telling him he could take one of his little cars with him.... BUT then another little girl was crying when we got to the room so it set him off crying
I expected him to cry the first time, maybe even the second- but I thought that by the 3rd time he would "get" how it works and not be crying quite as much.
how did everybody else's kid handle it?? any advice.sympathy??

if your child just started Nursery School or Mom Morning Out type program....

Hugs to you and your DS.

My son is an October birthday so I understand. He doesn't cry at drop off, but his teachers say that he gets a little weepy sometimes during class. I usually let him bring a toy with him to school to put in his backpack. It makes him feel better. We also have a photo of his favorite stuffed animal attached to his backpack so if he needs to look at it, he can.

It will get easier eventually. He just needs to get into the routine and this is all so new to him still. They are just babies!

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DD was 2 in May. Today was her 5th day (goes 2x a week) and the FIRST day she didn't cry!! The first day was actually easier than the last few because she was clueless about what it really meant to be "dropped off".
It does get easier but every kid is different. From asking around, I gather that the best thing to do is set a routine, talk to them about it, follow it and leave the room ASAP--that was hardest for me but def. was feeding into her anxiety (and mine!). Last Thursday, I handed her to the teacher, said bye-bye, have a good day, I love you and left. Of course I cried, LOL, but that was her first "ok" day and today was no tears. It's hard, but I think really good for them in the end.

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I am having the same problem. DS turned 3 in August and I am a SAHM so this is his first time away from me or family. He goes three mornings a week. The first few days he cried the entire time and had severe anxiety to the point where he would not participate with the projects or eat the snack. Monday was better in a sense that although he cried from the house, the entire drive there and for 15 minutes after I left, he did stop. I think the crying in the morning until you leave him is very common. It takes time for them to adjust and I have actually heard of toddlers that cry every day in the morning but stop shortly after the parent leaves. I think if you DS does stop after you leave and participates in the class then I wouldn't be to worried at this point since it is so new for him. Its easy to say but give it time. Sending you LOTS of HUGS because I know how hard it is.

ETA: I sent in a family photo so he can have by his cubby (althought he insisted it be taped to the wall). Also, i started a reward chart for him where if he had a "happy" day at school he would get something he wants or something special. For me, i needed him to calm down during the class so that he could realize it was fun. Even though he cries going to school, for now I am considering that a happy day because he leaves being happy.

Message edited 9/17/2013 5:35:12 PM.

Re: if your child just started Nursery School or Mom Morning Out type program....

I'm a SAHM and my DS just started a 2 morning/week program too. Drop offs have been awesome... he goes right in, starts playing and kisses me goodbye with no problem. BUT when I picked him up the first day, he was crying. Today was the second day and when I picked him up, he wasn't crying but it looked like he had been crying earlier. I briefly asked the teacher and she said that he's doing great, but he gets set off when the other kids cry. Hopefully this will pass in the next couple of school days! It's totally normal for them I cry, especially since you're a SAHM. Hang in there mama!

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I'm.a SAHM & my 4 yr old just started PreK. Drop off has been an absolute nightmare. The first day, he didn't cry but was weepy. The next 2 drop offs have been murder. He clings to my leg, starts a tantrum, cries so hard. He usually calms down within 5 mins of me leaving but it breaks my heart. The other day I sobbed in my car

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My dd is also a nov bday and went 2 full days at that age. I used to bribe her with soda if she didn't fry. I had to leave her at 7:45 to go to work :(. By the end of sept. she got used to the routine and didn't cry. It's so hard. It will get easier!!!

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I feel sad for your and your DS

My DS is 4. I tried him at preschool last year and while he did go for about 6 weeks one day out of nowhere he ran after me crying and sobbing and just would not say. So I took him home. I tried him every day that week but he would get so upset it was not worth it to me so I hired a babysitter and he stayed home. Fast forward to this year and last week when it was time for pre k I knew he had to go as he will be in kindergarten next year so taking him out was not really an option. The first day he cried a little when we went in there but by the time I left he was okay and said goodbye and was happy. The next day he cried the whole way to school and said he was not going in. When we arrived I had some books in the car that I was going to donate to the class so I read him a story to distract him and then I asked him to pick out some books to give to the teacher and magically that got his interest and distracted him enough for drop off. We have been doing that every morning since and he is happy going in and happy while he is there. I guess I will run out of books soon but at that stage he should be used to it.

SO you could try something like that maybe even donate a box of wipes, tissues etc and tell the teacher the premise by it so she knows if she gets some random thing from you that she knows the reason why.

Hope it gets easier soon..its SO hard on us parents that have to drive away.

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My DS is doing drop offs fine BUT one of his BFFs goes too so I think that helps tremendously. He just turned 2 last month so I'm not sure how he would do without his buddy.

The teacher fully warned us at orientation it can take up to a month for a child to adapt and stop crying. I hope for your sake it gets better soon,

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I am a FTWM. DS has been watched primarily by my father. However in July my dad had surgery and couldn't watch DS so he was being watched by 3 people each week. I am not sure if this helped him but he has not cried at all when being dropped off at school. Then again I can count on 1 hand how many times he's cried when I leave LOL

Re: if your child just started Nursery School or Mom Morning Out type program....

Posted by ml110

how are drop offs going??

DS will be 3 in November. I'm a SAHM, and he just started a Nursery School 2 mornings a week. Hes the youngest in his class, so I've been nervous since I signed him up about how he was going to do.
Today was the 3rd drop-off day... and he still cried A LOT!!! Yesterday he started crying before we even got to his classroom! I asked the teacher when I picked him up and she said " he was ok. He let me paint his hand and everything." There is one assistant lady that I think he attaches himself to. He always seems to be happy/ smiling when I pick him up. But then like this morning, he was even getting upset before we left the house. I managed to calm him down by telling him he could take one of his little cars with him.... BUT then another little girl was crying when we got to the room so it set him off crying
I expected him to cry the first time, maybe even the second- but I thought that by the 3rd time he would "get" how it works and not be crying quite as much.
how did everybody else's kid handle it?? any advice.sympathy??