If your DH had a great career opportunity that was overseas when you were 37 weeks pregnant, would you want him to go?

DH has the opportunity to travel abroad with one of the famous and well respected professionals in his field. He would probably be about 10 hours away by plane. Originally I thought this trip would be in February (when I'd be 34 weeks pregnant) but it turns out it would be in March (when I am 37 weeks pregnant). I wanted him to go in February but I'm not sure how I feel about him going when I'm 37 weeks pregnant. DH already said he won't go but now I feel guilty.

Would you want your DH to go?

I had first DS when I was 39 weeks pregnant.

Message edited 1/21/2011 2:46:02 PM.

Re: If your DH had a great career opportunity that was overseas when you were 37 weeks pregnant, would you want him to go?

when will he be back? If there's a family member that can stay with you in his absence then I would want him to go. This can have positive long-term effects on his career, and therefore the both of you. It's temporary but he may get a huge promotion out of this that is priceless.

Message edited 1/21/2011 2:51:15 PM.

Re: If your DH had a great career opportunity that was overseas when you were 37 weeks pregnant, would you want him to go?

No way in heck would he be going ....But thats just me

Re: If your DH had a great career opportunity that was overseas when you were 37 weeks pregnant, would you want him to go?

I say no as well. That is too close to when the baby is coming and you don't know if you would go early.

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Re: If your DH had a great career opportunity that was overseas when you were 37 weeks pregnant, would you want him to go?

I would not be crazy about it and would voice my opinion very loudly ... but tell him in the end it was his decision. I'm sure if I told him I didn't want him to that he wouldn't.

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Message edited 1/21/2011 2:55:11 PM.

Re: If your DH had a great career opportunity that was overseas when you were 37 weeks pregnant, would you want him to go?

i wouldnt want him to go

Re: If your DH had a great career opportunity that was overseas when you were 37 weeks pregnant, would you want him to go?

If my parents or someone else could be around, i would want him to go. It certainly wouldn't be ideal, but I wouldn't want him to miss the opportunity.

Re: If your DH had a great career opportunity that was overseas when you were 37 weeks pregnant, would you want him to go?

I'm the kind that wants my DH to excel in his career if there is an opportunity.

If this is a once in a lifetime chance that can really do wonders for him and us in the long run....then I would be the one packing his bags and telling him to buy the baby some souvenirs.

Would I miss him terribly and hope & pray I don't go into labor early? Of course. But if it can help OUR FAMILY long term, then he should go for it.

I'd make sure I had a great support system with my family & friends set up, in case I go early...and then tell him to make it count and have a great trip.

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Re: If your DH had a great career opportunity that was overseas when you were 37 weeks pregnant, would you want him to go?

i would prob not want him to go...
and he prob doesnt wanna miss the birth either...

Re: If your DH had a great career opportunity that was overseas when you were 37 weeks pregnant, would you want him to go?

Re: If your DH had a great career opportunity that was overseas when you were 37 weeks pregnant, would you want him to go?

Re: If your DH had a great career opportunity that was overseas when you were 37 weeks pregnant, would you want him to go?

No. Having a child is a once in a lifetime opportunity and it would kill him to miss that!

Re: If your DH had a great career opportunity that was overseas when you were 37 weeks pregnant, would you want him to go?

Posted by Bridex100

I do have local family. My mom could easily stay with me.

The opportunity is great. However, I don't necessarily think it will be the last great opportunity DH will have.

I don't know what I would do if I went into labor. My mom could be with me but she'd have to take care of DS. I can't imagine going into labor with anyone besides DH. I wouldn't even want my mom to go with me into the delivery room. I think it'd be weird to take a friend. I'd probably deliver alone.

Re: If your DH had a great career opportunity that was overseas when you were 37 weeks pregnant, would you want him to go?

I wouldn't want my DH to go, but this is also our first child, we just moved to this state, and it's been a semi-rough PG. I think it depends on what the consequences are of him going or not going on this trip.

Re: If your DH had a great career opportunity that was overseas when you were 37 weeks pregnant, would you want him to go?

how long was your first labor?
is it a popular location? how many times a day do they have flights leaving? in other words, if you called him and said i think im in labor, come home now, realistically, how long would it take him? i would not under any circumstances want him to miss the birth of our child. it is too important and too meaningful. i wouldnt be worried about getting around and taking care of myself...id be able to count on family and friends for that. but i would be so sad if he missed the birth of our child. so would he.

Re: If your DH had a great career opportunity that was overseas when you were 37 weeks pregnant, would you want him to go?

I think it's a really hard decision. . I think you would have to let him going, knowing that if he did NOT make it back in time that you would be upset but not angry at him or have it always be something you remember bc then I think it's not worth it.

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Re: If your DH had a great career opportunity that was overseas when you were 37 weeks pregnant, would you want him to go?

If this is something that will truly benefit his career longterm and in essence the baby then I'd be ok with him going...but you need to feel comfortable with not having him present there with you. If there are more opportunities like this in the future then I would have him pass.

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Re: If your DH had a great career opportunity that was overseas when you were 37 weeks pregnant, would you want him to go?

Nope! My DH has a high profile job and was told that he would have to do quite a bit of international travel (Japan, Poland, Germany). The travel was around the end of July and I was due in August. He told them in no way he was going or could go with me that close to the end.

Re: If your DH had a great career opportunity that was overseas when you were 37 weeks pregnant, would you want him to go?

No...absolutely not!

Re: If your DH had a great career opportunity that was overseas when you were 37 weeks pregnant, would you want him to go?

Nope I would NOT want DH to go.. but I would expect DH to make that decision himself.