Illness brings out the best and the worst in people, doesn't it?

As many people know by now, a close friend of mine is very ill. No matter what happens with my friend who is ill, his friendships and many of mine are permanently changed. Somewhere, deep down, I guess I could have predicted who would be there, who would not and who would continue to think that the world revolves around them. I didn't want to admit that because all of our mutual friends are a lot of fun. Now is when we are finding out for certain who is/has quality in addition to being fun. Several people have pleasantly surprised me by making it very clear that they would go to the ends of the earth to make my friend well if they could. One person just needed some extra time to understand this illness and that is fine. My (ill) friend does not have the energy to discuss all of this right now but a mutual friend tells me that the ill friend knows exactly who is in his corner.

This post is just a bunch of thoughts of someone who has been doing a ton of thinking in light of a friend's illness. My thoughts are not about anyone from LIF but they are about the people that my friend and I have known mutually for many years, people that he would do anything for.

My friends from LIF have made it clear that they do not want any friend of mine to suffer. This sentiment has come from people I have met in real life and people I have not. I thank everyone for the kind sentiments and prayers.

Message edited 8/2/2009 1:02:03 AM.

Re: Illness brings out the best and the worst in people, doesn't it?

I totally understand what you are saying.

Unfortunately illness is very hard for people to deal with. i have learned through my experience that you just learn who your friends really are and the ones that you learn aren't don't need to be part of my life anymore.

I am praying for your friend.. I hope he gets better and can have a full life..

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I am so sorry that you and your friend have to deal with on top of everything else. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.

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such a difficult time for you all..I am sorry you are going through this

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I know how you are feeling. Its at time like these that you realize who your true friends are.

How is your friend doing? Is he doing any better?

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Posted by Holly

I know how you are feeling. Its at time like these that you realize who your true friends are.

How is your friend doing? Is he doing any better?

Re: Illness brings out the best and the worst in people, doesn't it?

Posted by Kerie-is-so-very

Posted by Holly

I know how you are feeling. Its at time like these that you realize who your true friends are.

How is your friend doing? Is he doing any better?

I just got word that the end is probably near.

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Kerie , I am so very sorry !! I am so sure that they are just so happy to have you as a friend !! I was always taught that you only need 1 true friend ,and that sounds like you !!