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BaroqueMama
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I'm a little sad...

Our one year anniversary is coming up on July 3rd, and I'm feeling sad that all the things we wanted to do, we can't now. I love Ava more than anything in this world, but I feel like my whole first year of marriage was consumed by pregnancy, and I'm just sad that our anniversary will most likely fall by the waist-side.Chat Icon My mother even made a comment that, "Don't you know your anniversary doesn't matter now that the baby's here?" Chat Icon I just feel sad over it.Chat Icon

Posted 6/23/06 9:52 AM
 
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4monkeys
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Re: I'm a little sad...

dont feel sad, you can make it very special ! you can celebrate with Ava AND as a couple Chat Icon

Posted 6/23/06 9:56 AM
 

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Re: I'm a little sad...

Why can't you celebrate? Would your mom come over and watch Ava so you could go out to dinner for an hour or two?

My DH and I did not go anywhere without our daughter until she was 11 months old. I would never do that again. Yes you will miss her while you are at dinner but you know your mom will take good care of her.

I know she is really little but it may be nice for you to get out for an hour and just relax and celebrate your anniversary.

Posted 6/23/06 10:00 AM
 

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Re: I'm a little sad...

Well, it was rude of your mom to say that because it's not true.

As you know, we got PG on the HM so I know exactly where you are coming from. Jake was just 3 months old when our first anniversary rolled around. Lucky for us, my MIL was in town and she stayed with him so we could celebrate our first anniversary. And it was wonderful.

No way should your anniversary fall by the way side. Your marriage is what brought little Ava into this world and you need to celebrate that.

As far as the whole first year of marriage being consumed by your pregnancy, I know what you mean but pretty soon you'll see it differently. You'll never be able to imagine what your life would have been like without Ava being here.
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SO... you should make plans to go out and celebrate your anniversary. Leave Ava with your Mom even if it's only long enough to go out for dinner. Take some time to celebrate your first anniversary - you deserve it!

BTW, DH and I went out for our first "date" post-baby when Jake was about 1 month old.

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Message edited 6/23/2006 10:03:49 AM.

Posted 6/23/06 10:03 AM
 

BaroqueMama
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Re: I'm a little sad...

We probably will go out to dinner. I have no problem leaving her with my mom and dad. I just need to adjust what I envisioned for our anniversary, is all. Also, these damn hormones are still kicking my arse these days, so I'm sure it's a little of that, too.

Posted 6/23/06 10:03 AM
 

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Re: I'm a little sad...

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We probably will go out to dinner. I have no problem leaving her with my mom and dad. I just need to adjust what I envisioned for our anniversary, is all. Also, these damn hormones are still kicking my arse these days, so I'm sure it's a little of that, too.



It's definitely the hormones too. I don't know what other advice to give you other than try not to think about sad things. I know it sounds stupid but that's what I would do when I felt the sadness coming on...just force those thoughts out of my mind. Chat Icon

Posted 6/23/06 10:05 AM
 

BaroqueMama
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Re: I'm a little sad...

Posted by BabyAvocado

Posted by prncssrachel

We probably will go out to dinner. I have no problem leaving her with my mom and dad. I just need to adjust what I envisioned for our anniversary, is all. Also, these damn hormones are still kicking my arse these days, so I'm sure it's a little of that, too.



It's definitely the hormones too. I don't know what other advice to give you other than try not to think about sad things. I know it sounds stupid but that's what I would do when I felt the sadness coming on...just force those thoughts out of my mind. Chat Icon



Thanks. I think that's exactly what I need to do. I can't allow myself to be consumed by the sad stuff. It's not healthy.Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 6/23/06 10:14 AM
 

monkeybride
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Re: I'm a little sad...

I think you should still go out and celebrate! I definitely know how you feel though and our pregnancy was planned.

Posted 6/23/06 10:15 AM
 

capricorn75
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Posted 6/23/06 10:15 AM
 

aja
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Re: I'm a little sad...

My first anniversary was 5 days after the baby was born and YES we did go out. my parents came over and we went out to dinner...we were exhausted and dazed but we made an effort. We did not talk much and when we did it was about the baby. I think I was still even wearing the hospital bracelet.

It did not bother us much that it wasn't a big celebration.

Posted 6/23/06 10:26 AM
 

btrflygrl
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Re: I'm a little sad...

Even without a baby our 1st Anniversary was not a HUGE deal....we just didn't have the money. We did a nice dinner at home but also at our fave Applebee's.

Posted 6/23/06 10:41 AM
 

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Re: I'm a little sad...

Posted by prncssrachel

Our one year anniversary is coming up on July 3rd, and I'm feeling sad that all the things we wanted to do, we can't now. I love Ava more than anything in this world, but I feel like my whole first year of marriage was consumed by pregnancy, and I'm just sad that our anniversary will most likely fall by the waist-side.Chat Icon My mother even made a comment that, "Don't you know your anniversary doesn't matter now that the baby's here?" Chat Icon I just feel sad over it.Chat Icon



Believe me I hear ya on that one.. I wanted to go away for the weekend but I really don't want to leave my little princess..

Posted 6/23/06 10:50 AM
 

ddunne2
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Re: I'm a little sad...

Definatetly go our for dinner at least! We went out when Jack was not even two weeks old. My mom was staying with us and we just went up the block to a Mexican Restaurant, but you need that hour of down time

Posted 6/23/06 10:55 AM
 

steph4777
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Re: I'm a little sad...

Posted by BabyAvocado

Well, it was rude of your mom to say that because it's not true.

As you know, we got PG on the HM so I know exactly where you are coming from. Jake was just 3 months old when our first anniversary rolled around. Lucky for us, my MIL was in town and she stayed with him so we could celebrate our first anniversary. And it was wonderful.

No way should your anniversary fall by the way side. Your marriage is what brought little Ava into this world and you need to celebrate that.

As far as the whole first year of marriage being consumed by your pregnancy, I know what you mean but pretty soon you'll see it differently. You'll never be able to imagine what your life would have been like without Ava being here.
Chat Icon Chat Icon

SO... you should make plans to go out and celebrate your anniversary. Leave Ava with your Mom even if it's only long enough to go out for dinner. Take some time to celebrate your first anniversary - you deserve it!

BTW, DH and I went out for our first "date" post-baby when Jake was about 1 month old.

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I couldn't have said this better. We were in the same situation. Nate was almost 8 weeks when our 1st Anniversary came around. We weren't able to go away like we would have liked, but we spent the whole evening together. My ILs watched the baby. We went to a really nice dinner and a movie. Although we talked about Nate most of the time, it so great to get dressed up and be out.

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Posted 6/23/06 10:59 AM
 

Corinne
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Re: I'm a little sad...

rach you should be happy that your healthy and have a happy and healthy marriage and child. my first anniversary was not what i envisioned i was home in bed sick with a sinus infection.

i would go to dinner with jt and when you are feeling better, body wise and ava's alittle older maybe by the end of the summer you guys go away over night. why dont you guys go to montauk or something that is a getaway. you will need it in good time. life is consumed by a child but that is a good thing. i cannot imagine life without Olivia and would not. she is alot of work but at the end of the day shes worth it 100%

Posted 6/23/06 11:15 AM
 
 

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