I'm getting less sleep and nothing done!

I've created monsters! Caiden comes into our bed EVERY night in the middle of the night and Connor won't go to sleep anymore. I made the mistake of letting him watching Thomas in my bed before bedtime and now it's escalated to the point that he doesn't go to sleep. He used to go right to sleep and a lot earlier. Now, it's not until 10-11:00pm and he has to have me in bed with him so he can play with my hair. What have I done? I know better than to do this? After he finally goes to sleep I put him in bed, and then he's been waking up EVERY night as well early in the morning crying so I have to let him cry it out. I rock him for a little bit, and then lay him down but he just cries. I'm just at the point that I'm exhausted again. I got more sleep when the kids were newborns. Then After Connor going to sleep, Caiden getting up, the dog starts barking to come in the house. I'm just not sleeping and I can't get anything done at night. I had to do my Tae-Bo DVD at 12:30am last night. My husband sleeps through it every night. I can't really wake him because I'm still out of work and he works so I don't feel he should be up at night with them. Even though I still get up in the morning. How can I get control over my household again? Being out of work has caused my house to not have any kind of schedule/routine. There are no set nap times, lunch, activity, play time etc. We do things at all different times and no set things to do. I feel so out of control. I'm not used to being home with them all the time. I love being home with them, but I feel lost. They are running all over me. I'm a bad mommy!!! HELP!!! (Thanks for letting me vent!) I think I need Supernanny. Oh, and addind that Caiden is still talking very nasty to us and talks to me with no respect at all. He talks to me like he's telling me what to do. A lot of the day he's sweet, but he definitely has a lot of moments.

Message edited 6/14/2008 9:34:09 AM.

Re: I'm getting less sleep and nothing done!

Welcome to my world. Sara is NEVER tired and doesnt fall asleep before 11:00 PM . I get nothing done at night. I will say that Sammy sleeps great though. DH doesnt help either. He took upon projects in our house that he cannot handle and it leaves me doing all parenting myself since he works and then does house things. I get not one minute to myself at night. The nasty talk is a phase - we have it going on to.


I will tell you what my ped. says though. Sleeping is a learned behavior. Children learn to sleep the way we put them to sleep and we have to break the habit. I was told to use the FERBER METHOD on Sara. He says it could take a week but ithas to be done aat bedtime AND in the middle of night when they enter your bed. So this means a week without sleep but in the long run a happier you

Re: I'm getting less sleep and nothing done!

we aren't very good with a schedule.

with caiden, he's old enough to be sent back to his room at night. even if it means you getting up all night to send him back in, giving up those nights will result in sleep for you later on.

with connor, don't allow him on your bed anymore. if you have to go in his room.