I'm having some major anxiety today....

And it's being fueled by my husband. Ugg. Anytime I talk about being pregnant, he keeps telling me, "Well let's not get ahead of ourselves, you don't know if it's actually going to stick." Who says that? I have no history of miscarriages, and I have no reason to believe I'll miscarry. I mean, could I? Of course. Do I worry about it? Yes, but he's making me a basket case. I know it's because that's HIS fear and he's projecting it onto me, but still, I'm just so upset because *I* can't stop worrying about it. Ugg. Stupid men.

Re: I'm having some major anxiety today....

my husband was the SAME way!!!!! Just ignore him...he's just paranoid and scared

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mine says the same kind of things, "lets not prepare for something that's not definite yet". It drives me nuts, but I know its all his paranoia and I let it go, or else I would make myself nuts.

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my DH is the same way. it doesn't matter how many tests i take - until he goes to the first sono, to him i am not "really" pregnant (although lord knows i would haul off and slap him if he ever said that to me!)

i don't know if you can, but if you are able to, tell your DH that you know in your head all the things that are possible, but you prefer to stay positive and it makes you upset when he says things like that.

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Thanks, girls. I did tell him last night how upset it makes me, and he promised he'll stop. But I did tell him that if he is nervous or has fears, he should tell me, but not in such a morose way.

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Wow! I cant believe reading the responses so many husbands felt that way! I was always the worrier, and dh was always the one reminding me I never had any problems and thought I was crazy for feeling that way!

Glad you talked to him about it!

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I was the one who was all "lets wait to tell people, want to make sure" and DH was ready to yell it from the rooftops! I was just being cautious, but at the same time living in the moment and going along like all was going to be fine.
Hang in there! DH's have the best comments, and as your pregnancy gets further along expect more. My current favorite is "Your ankles will eventually look like ankles again, right?"
They are ultimately grown up boys....I swear, the Y-chromosome makes them nuts!

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Silly men!

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When I showed my dh the pregnancy test HE DIDNT BELIEVE IT...he said lets not get excited just yet, we dont know how accurate these tests are...once he saw the tiny sac and heartbeat his whole outlook changed..He is nervous it will pass

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dont worry about it, think pos. Also i have a MIL that is the same way. she always told me, when i first got pg(miscarried) things always happen for a reason, you shouldnt have gotten pg. I was so upset. Well i was preggo with twins and she she telling me that i need a part time job so does dh, we need to have more money did you plan on have twins, u should have thought about this. so mean and just yesterday i just found out that i lost twin B so she goes right back to thing happed for a reason and all that bs. Just please dont let it stress you, let it go in one ear and out the other. You dont need stress for u and the baby. if u need to talk im here for you.

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My DH was the same way until we saw the baby and the heartbeat. Hang in there!