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karenchad
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In need of some advice...
Ok, so I'm in the middle of planning my SIL's baby shower who is due in January. I want to have it the 1st week in November b/c her mom will be here from Canada. Problem is is that I am due Nov 27th with my second DS.
I have no help from my other SIL's, so I was thinking of having a "bring a dessert" theme in the afternoon. I just don't know if this is rude to ask others to bring food to a shower.
It's not that I don't want to go all out, it's just that I don't think I can handle a big party so close to my own due date.
Any help would be greatly appreciated!! Thanks all!!
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Posted 9/28/09 1:39 PM  |
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Re: In need of some advice...
I don't think it is rude, but I feel like it will have some guest  . I personally always ask if there is anything I can do to help out or bring when I RSVP, but I do know that is not the norm.
What if you went to BJ's or Cosco and bought some of there desserts? Are there any of your family members who are attending that would be willing to help out?
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| Posted 9/28/09 1:49 PM |
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MAC222
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Re: In need of some advice...
Posted by karenchad
Ok, so I'm in the middle of planning my SIL's baby shower who is due in January. I want to have it the 1st week in November b/c her mom will be here from Canada. Problem is is that I am due Nov 27th with my second DS.
I have no help from my other SIL's, so I was thinking of having a "bring a dessert" theme in the afternoon. I just don't know if this is rude to ask others to bring food to a shower.
It's not that I don't want to go all out, it's just that I don't think I can handle a big party so close to my own due date.
Any help would be greatly appreciated!! Thanks all!!
Have the shower at the very beginning of November...
if no one is willing to help..there must be someone..then maybe have a cocktail/appetizers/dessert party after dinner time...like in the late evening?
I don't think people should bring stuff..but understand that you are also in a tight spot...
ask her which of her friends would be willing to help out??
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| Posted 9/28/09 1:50 PM |
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Re: In need of some advice...
i did an 'afternoon tea' for my BFF. She had more than 100 people come to her shower and trying to feed that many people was out of the question...so we did 2 heros (her mom paid) and cookies, etc...
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| Posted 9/28/09 1:56 PM |
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maybeamommy
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Re: In need of some advice...
Are other people willing to chip in financially?
Maybe you can just order some desserts from a place...
I think a desserts, coffee, tea shower is absolutely fine... but I wouldn't ask guests to bring dessert - KWIM?
ETA: I wish I lived in NY because I would totally bake for you
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| Posted 9/28/09 1:58 PM |
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shiv
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Re: In need of some advice...
Posted by davenjess
i did an 'afternoon tea' for my BFF. She had more than 100 people come to her shower and trying to feed that many people was out of the question...so we did 2 heros (her mom paid) and cookies, etc...
I was going to suggest this- you can do little cut up sandwhiches that you can order right from the deli and some pastries and desserts. Drinks will be tea and juice/soda. and your done.
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| Posted 9/28/09 1:59 PM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: In need of some advice...
I wouldn't ask people to bring a dessert-I would maybe do an at home shower as a brunch or do an afternoon tea or something like that and try to keep costs and workload down.
I understand that you are due soon (I'm due the same time) and that no one else is really helping out, but this is her one and only shower.
I would try to make it as nice as possible and put my stuff on the back burner.
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| Posted 9/28/09 3:11 PM |
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maymama
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Re: In need of some advice...
to be honest, I do think its a little bit strange for a shower, especially when guests are brining gifts ...
My brother is getting married in Nov. and his to-be-wife's shower is being hosted by her sisters. They are asking everyone to bring hot dishes like a pot luck shower. I find it odd and there has been a lot of talk amongst the family (both sides) that it is a little strange.
JMHO
ETS - I agree with the afternoon tea idea, desserts and coffee/tea/punch keep it simple!
Message edited 9/28/2009 3:23:39 PM.
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| Posted 9/28/09 3:21 PM |
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BlessUs
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Re: In need of some advice...
i agree with keep it simple. I also think its great of you to do this when you yourself have so much going on.
An afternoon tea with sandwiches and refreshments would be perfect. Get a cake from Costco or BJ's - they're really yummy, huge, and very inexpensive. Can't beat that.
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| Posted 9/28/09 3:27 PM |
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nferrandi
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Re: In need of some advice...
Posted by CrankyPants
I wouldn't ask people to bring a dessert-I would maybe do an at home shower as a brunch or do an afternoon tea or something like that and try to keep costs and workload down.
I understand that you are due soon (I'm due the same time) and that no one else is really helping out, but this is her one and only shower.
I would try to make it as nice as possible and put my stuff on the back burner.
I have to agree. If there are other sister in laws, mother in laws, etc... can you ask them to pitch in financially but you do all of the planning? I just feel like if you have taken on this responsibility, then you kind of need to do it right. Can you get your DH and hers to help out and have them bbq outside while the ladies spend time inside? Or maybe you should start calling around and look for an affordable restaurant- it will certainly be less stress for you in terms of preparing and cleaning up.
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| Posted 9/28/09 4:43 PM |
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karenchad
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Re: In need of some advice...
thanks everyone for the suggestions...I like the tea party idea...I'll keep you all posted on what I decide to do.
BTW...there is NO ONE in this family that is willing to help other than my DH, but he works so many hrs, I can't ask him to do this too!!! I really am getting frustrated with my in-law family, so it is all on me!
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| Posted 9/30/09 6:01 AM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: In need of some advice...
Posted by karenchad
thanks everyone for the suggestions...I like the tea party idea...I'll keep you all posted on what I decide to do.
BTW...there is NO ONE in this family that is willing to help other than my DH, but he works so many hrs, I can't ask him to do this too!!! I really am getting frustrated with my in-law family, so it is all on me!
You SIL is very lucky to have someone like you who cares about celebrating this special moment in their lives.
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