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Trying
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Is it wrong???
Sometimes I want to call my ex-boyfriend just to see how he's doing. He lives half way across the country and I actually haven't spoken to him in years.
Is it wrong for me to call him, just to see how he's doing??
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Posted 12/2/06 10:50 AM  |
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JennChris
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Re: Is it wrong???
How would you feel if your DH called his Ex?
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| Posted 12/2/06 10:51 AM |
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Trying
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Re: Is it wrong???
Posted by JennChris
How would you feel if your DH called his Ex?
He never had a significant ex-girlfirend. The one person that he used to care about a lot, but they never got together he emails every once in a while. It doesn't bother me.
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| Posted 12/2/06 10:55 AM |
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Emily
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Re: Is it wrong???
If you have to think about its most likely not a good idea.
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| Posted 12/2/06 10:55 AM |
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Redhead
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Re: Is it wrong???
i personally do not see anything wrong in wondering what happened to the boys of the past
but i know if my DH contacted any of his Exs...it would bother me. So i would not do it myself.
And even if ....i don't think i would anyway...
IMO the past is the past...
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| Posted 12/2/06 10:57 AM |
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Trying
LIF Infant
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Re: Is it wrong???
I have no way of knowing how he is. It's not like we are in the same circle and I can hear about what he is doing or how he is. And he has my dog, so sometimes I wonder about him too. Every once and a while I get the itch to call him and I usually just let it pass.
I completely love my husband and I do not regret leaving my ex. We were not right for each other. And I actually learned a lot about relationships which made me even more secure in my marriage. But we had a very civil, mutual breakup which left everything on good terms.
Sometimes I just want to say hi. I know DH wouldn't like it. But he gets unreasonably jealous about a lot of things, which leads me to ask the question--is he being unreasonable?? or would anyone feel this way???
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| Posted 12/2/06 11:05 AM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Is it wrong???
IMO, it's wrong. I would be very hurt if DH contacted any of his ex's.
Message edited 12/2/2006 11:05:46 AM.
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| Posted 12/2/06 11:05 AM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Is it wrong???
Posted by Trying
Sometimes I just want to say hi. I know DH wouldn't like it. But he gets unreasonably jealous about a lot of things, which leads me to ask the question--is he being unreasonable?? or would anyone feel this way???
what do you call "unreasonably jealous"? I'm just curious.
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| Posted 12/2/06 11:07 AM |
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Redhead
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Re: Is it wrong???
Posted by Trying
I know DH wouldn't like it.
then there is your answer...
IMO regardless of if he is jealous or not..
IT would bother him..
And IMO i think it is selfish to contact an Ex when you know it would hurt you DH.
Like i said...i think i will always wonder what happened to the boys of the past..
BUT
Move on...
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| Posted 12/2/06 11:10 AM |
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Trying
LIF Infant
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K
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Re: Is it wrong???
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
Posted by Trying
Sometimes I just want to say hi. I know DH wouldn't like it. But he gets unreasonably jealous about a lot of things, which leads me to ask the question--is he being unreasonable?? or would anyone feel this way???
what do you call "unreasonably jealous"? I'm just curious.
He'll say things like "why does your boss have to go with you, what's his deal??" (I'm in sales so sometimes my manager will go on a ride-a-long with me).
Or when I first interviewed with my company he thought the guy I interviewed with just wanted me because he WANTED me.
He hates when I have to go to company happy hours. He thinks every guy is going to hit on me.
I am FAR from being hot. I have to remind him all the time that I'm not Heidi Klum.
The list goes on. He just has a very jealous streak, which I have learned to live with. But I don't know if he's being unreasonable.
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| Posted 12/2/06 11:17 AM |
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Trying
LIF Infant
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Re: Is it wrong???
Posted by Redhead
Posted by Trying
I know DH wouldn't like it.
then there is your answer...
IMO regardless of if he is jealous or not..
IT would bother him..
And IMO i think it is selfish to contact an Ex when you know it would hurt you DH.
Like i said...i think i will always wonder what happened to the boys of the past..
BUT
Move on...
I have definately moved on, but sometimes I can't help but wonder.
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| Posted 12/2/06 11:18 AM |
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Redhead
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Re: Is it wrong???
wonder away...
also...i don't know if your Ex is in a relationship or married but there could be another person who also wouldn't care for your contact to say hello
I know i would be pissy if an Ex of my DH's poped up out of no where and said hello...
And i am not an overly jealous person either...
IMO the past is the past. Sure i wonder how Exs are doing. If they are happy people. But i will leave it as wondering..
Message edited 12/2/2006 11:22:51 AM.
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| Posted 12/2/06 11:21 AM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Is it wrong???
Posted by Trying
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
Posted by Trying
Sometimes I just want to say hi. I know DH wouldn't like it. But he gets unreasonably jealous about a lot of things, which leads me to ask the question--is he being unreasonable?? or would anyone feel this way???
what do you call "unreasonably jealous"? I'm just curious.
He'll say things like "why does your boss have to go with you, what's his deal??" (I'm in sales so sometimes my manager will go on a ride-a-long with me).
Or when I first interviewed with my company he thought the guy I interviewed with just wanted me because he WANTED me.
He hates when I have to go to company happy hours. He thinks every guy is going to hit on me.
I am FAR from being hot. I have to remind him all the time that I'm not Heidi Klum.
The list goes on. He just has a very jealous streak, which I have learned to live with. But I don't know if he's being unreasonable.
it doesn't matter if you don't look like Heidi Klum. You're his wife, and he thinks you are beautiful.
honestly, if I had to go to many HH work functions, I can totally see my DH getting a little peeved about it. As would I if he had to do the same.
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| Posted 12/2/06 11:24 AM |
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Trying
LIF Infant
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K
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Re: Is it wrong???
Posted by Redhead
wonder away...
also...i don't know if your Ex is in a relationship or married but there could be another person who also wouldn't care for your contact to say hello
I know i would be pissy if an Ex of my DH's poped up out of no where and said hello...
And i am not an overly jealous person either...
IMO the past is the past. Sure i wonder how Exs are doing. If they are happy people. But i will leave it as wondering..
You're right...I still picture him as being single and hanging out with my dog. I never thought that a woman might answer the phone. I guess I'll never know.
I wish I could see my dog though. I miss my dog. 
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| Posted 12/2/06 11:26 AM |
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LIF Infant
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Re: Is it wrong???
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
Posted by Trying
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
Posted by Trying
Sometimes I just want to say hi. I know DH wouldn't like it. But he gets unreasonably jealous about a lot of things, which leads me to ask the question--is he being unreasonable?? or would anyone feel this way???
what do you call "unreasonably jealous"? I'm just curious.
He'll say things like "why does your boss have to go with you, what's his deal??" (I'm in sales so sometimes my manager will go on a ride-a-long with me).
Or when I first interviewed with my company he thought the guy I interviewed with just wanted me because he WANTED me.
He hates when I have to go to company happy hours. He thinks every guy is going to hit on me.
I am FAR from being hot. I have to remind him all the time that I'm not Heidi Klum.
The list goes on. He just has a very jealous streak, which I have learned to live with. But I don't know if he's being unreasonable.
it doesn't matter if you don't look like Heidi Klum. You're his wife, and he thinks you are beautiful.
honestly, if I had to go to many HH work functions, I can totally see my DH getting a little peeved about it. As would I if he had to do the same.
Yeah..I know. But all the people I work with, their SOs seem pretty cool. Or at least they are hiding it very well.
For example, my company has trip every year and if you are in the top 3rd of the company, you can go. This year the trip is to the Grand Wailea in Maui. It's for a week, no SO's. DH does not want me to go. Of course I still have to qualify, but I have already decided I won't be going. It's not worth the arguement to me. Do you think he's being unreasonable???
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