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It's not nice, but I just can't help it

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MaMaTeenie
Party of 5

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It's not nice, but I just can't help it

I just found out that my SIL's sister is PG and is due the same EXACT day I would have been due. I am happy for her, but I am embarrassed to admit it stung. I feel jealous, sad and a little bitter all at the same time. I heard the news from my SIL who knew I was PG, knew I had mc and knew that was my EXACT due date. It wasn't necessary for her to tell me right now. I just had the mc a week and a half ago and even though I was only 5 wks it still hurt....I never see her sister, couldn't she give me some time.

Thanks for letting me get that off my chest......

Posted 10/12/08 3:42 PM
 

chelle
It's a Good Life

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Isn't it obvious?

Re: It's not nice, but I just can't help it

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Posted 10/12/08 4:53 PM
 

QueSeraSera
Sugar & Spice

Member since 7/08

1351 total posts

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Liz

Re: It's not nice, but I just can't help it

That seems really insensitive of her to just drop it on you....she definitely could have given you a little time to work through your own situation.

Was she at least sympathetic when she told you? Or did she just tell you in normal conversation like your m/c hadn't even happened?

Posted 10/12/08 5:48 PM
 

MaMaTeenie
Party of 5

Member since 4/08

6489 total posts

Name:
Mommy

Re: It's not nice, but I just can't help it

Posted by QueSeraSera

That seems really insensitive of her to just drop it on you....she definitely could have given you a little time to work through your own situation.

Was she at least sympathetic when she told you? Or did she just tell you in normal conversation like your m/c hadn't even happened?



No she just announced it to myself and my in-laws who don't even know about the mc which made it even harder and more awkward for me.

Posted 10/13/08 7:53 AM
 

ZOOKIE
LIF Infant

Member since 7/07

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BECKY

Re: It's not nice, but I just can't help it

some people dont get it .Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 10/13/08 12:16 PM
 

Belladonna219
HOT MAMA

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Belladonna219

Re: It's not nice, but I just can't help it

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Posted 10/13/08 1:10 PM
 

MetsGirl07
LIF O2 Vendor

Member since 12/07

16202 total posts

Name:
Deanna

Re: It's not nice, but I just can't help it

i answered on the TTC board...but just wanted to say im sorry again ...
i know how hard it is... just try and focus on yourself and DH.. Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 10/13/08 1:11 PM
 

Daisy32
Mommy

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Re: It's not nice, but I just can't help it

Oh I'm so sorry. It would have stung me too....its not mean its just being human.

Posted 10/14/08 5:47 PM
 

PrincessP
Big sister!!!!!!!!!!

Member since 12/05

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Re: It's not nice, but I just can't help it

I was preggo and about to share my news the same day my SIl lost hers. I held out a few weeks. Mine is turning 2 next month and they would have been 3 months apart. Its hard...ya never know what the right thing to do is. Since then she has had 2 more. We are surrounded by tons of midgies...LOL
Keep your chin up...it will happen again Chat Icon

Posted 10/15/08 4:09 PM
 

dooodles
When you wish upon a star

Member since 5/05

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Because 2 people fell in love

Re: It's not nice, but I just can't help it

I am so sorry you were hurt. If someone hasn't gone through the loss of a pg or baby - they really just don't know what to say or when is a good time to say it.

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Posted 10/16/08 9:35 AM
 
 

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