It's seems like today is a rough day for a bunch of us

I actually told DH today that I dont know if I want anymore kids And I know deep down I do, I just wish the crying and the whining would stop. And DS is a good baby, I can't even imagine if he was super colicy. I am afraid that is what my next one will be like. I know that is what babies do but sometimes I just need a break from it. When DS wakes up in the morning I can tell right away if its going to be a good day or a bad day. And to make matters worse, DS was sleeping through the night and than all of a sudden he stopped so I am not getting more than 4-5 hrs. of sleep a night and it's not like I can nap during the day b/c he barely naps. He takes 20 min. catnaps and it takes me sometimes an hour just to get him to fall asleep b/c he can't relax. DH works all day so I am home with DS and when DH comes home he "helps" (he thinks he takes over ) but I always get "um...can you help me? Why won't he stop crying?" You would think at 4 1/2 mo. he could figure out either he's tired, hungry or wants a binky. It is just so frustrating! The best is on DH's days off he always tell me "Go out and do something for yourself, you need a break" and by the end of the day being home with the baby he tells me "I need a break now. You are neglecting him" b/c he doesnt want to deal with him anymore and he wants more kids???? I am going back to work part-time 2 days in September and at first I felt guilty, now I think it will be good to get out of the house and have time to myself even though I will be working. Either my mom or DH (if he's off) are going to stay with the baby the 2 days a week I work, that is going to be a whole other issue

Re: It's seems like today is a rough day for a bunch of us

We all have days like that. tomorrow's another day.

Re: It's seems like today is a rough day for a bunch of us

As far as the sleeping I've recently (up until about 2 weeks ago) BTDT. I was fortunate that DDs slept through the night after 7 weeks, however their naps were less than desirable - catnaps like your DS. I was drained by the end of the day.

They hit about a 3 month period where they would wake throughout the night too - and for what reason, I still don't know. They recently stopped doing that and their afternoon nap now exceeds an hour! Once he starts crawling and standing he will sleep more. He will be so exhausted and sleep, you will have some more time during the day to rest. It sounds like you going back to work for a few hours a week will be a good thing for you. It will get better.

He is only 4 1/2 months - time may change your feeling on another child.

Re: It's seems like today is a rough day for a bunch of us

Crissy,
I know today was rough but just think it will get better...DH every time I go out says here she is.... but you have to say NO this is my time... let him deal... If you need to talk let me know.. we can chat on the phone

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Going to work pt is the best of both worlds. Just sitting in the car with my own music is nice. I hav a similar situation. My dh works late once a week to take care of my now 3 yr old ds. Its the best thing, cause although in the beginning I had to get things, like bottle ready for him and write out a schedule and a list of what to do and not to do, he learned to survive...making decisions and caring for our son independently without me. After the first few times, don't answer the phone as soon as he calls ...maybe like the second or third time and he will learn to solve problems on his own. It made a huge difference for my dh, he is an incredible Dad and I know I can now count on him more for my next baby due next week. It will get better.