Jewish girls...Question

Is it wrong that I don't want to light the candles tonight b/c of what is going on with my aunt?

I know Hanukkah is a festive holiday, and I just don't feel festive...

Or, is it better just to light them and say a prayer?

Re: Jewish girls...Question

we don't even bother lighting them- despite having like 2 or 3 menorahs- it's just us and we always forget to do it.

Don't feel bad-- do whatever feels right for you.

You can always light them to do the ritual and then just blow them out if you want to do somehting-- or just light them and don't say the prayer.

Re: Jewish girls...Question

I always say that people have to do what feels right for them.

That said, Chanukah is the celebration of a miracle, and if I were in your situation, I think that I would light the menorah, say the blessings, and concentrate really hard on g-d granting another miracle for your aunt.

In the end, you have to do what feels right to YOU.

Message edited 12/16/2006 5:17:46 PM.