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anewday
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just heard really bad news
A friend who was 4 weeks further then me just lost the baby at 21 weeks I can not even imagine what they are going through and I really can not think about it for too long. I don't mean to sound selfish but I just don't want my head to go there for too long. I want to call her but I also don't know what to say. We weren't close friends its actually my dh friends wife but since we've been prego together we've been getting closer. In fact they are suppose to be moving around the corner from us and we were excited about how the kids can play together...oh my heart just breaks for them
...I don't know I just needed to talk to someone without actually talking about it.
She was here yesterday morning and we were compairing bellies...My belly looks about 6/7 months (no joke) and she didn't really look prego (maybe 3 months)
...Just heard it was d/t a blood clot?
I know there are some here that went through this did you really want to hear from anyone? I cant imagine wanting to hear form anyone!
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Re: just heard really bad news
 
I truly don't know what to say. I think I would give it a few days and I would send a note to let her know that you are thinking about her. I can't imagine the sadness and pain they must be going thru
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| Posted 2/13/09 10:27 AM |
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asecretmommytobe09
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Re: just heard really bad news
Posted by anewday
A friend who was 4 weeks further then me just lost the baby at 21 weeks I can not even imagine what they are going through and I really can not think about it for too long. I don't mean to sound selfish but I just don't want my head to go there for too long. I want to call her but I also don't know what to say. We weren't close friends its actually my dh friends wife but since we've been prego together we've been getting closer. In fact they are suppose to be moving around the corner from us and we were excited about how the kids can play together...oh my heart just breaks for them
...I don't know I just needed to talk to someone without actually talking about it.
She was here yesterday morning and we were compairing bellies...My belly looks about 6/7 months (no joke) and she didn't really look prego (maybe 3 months)
...Just heard it was d/t a blood clot?
I know there are some here that went through this did you really want to hear from anyone? I cant imagine wanting to hear form anyone!
I lost a baby at 20 weeks last year, and i almost lost this one a few weeks ago. My advice is call. You need alot of support. I feel her pain, and she is in my prayers!!
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Mere09
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Re: just heard really bad news
My gosh that's so sad. I can't even imagine what she must be going through right now.
I know that if it was me, I wouldn't want to hear from anyone for a while, but everyone is different. Just use your best judgement and try to be there for her in any way you possibly can.
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| Posted 2/13/09 10:35 AM |
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I would say call and worst case leave a messge that you are thinking about them... I am so sorry......
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| Posted 2/13/09 10:38 AM |
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CaseyGirl
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I'm so sorry that is devastating...that's my fear esp when I check every day and it feels like I'm not getting bigger 
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| Posted 2/13/09 10:40 AM |
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dooodles
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Re: just heard really bad news
I have lost both a month old baby and a pregnancy in my second trimester (from a blood clot as well).
I know you are pg, and that might make her not want to talk to you right now, but CALL, CALL, CALL.
It doesn't mean it will happen to you, but she is suffering a loss here and needs support. Even if you just leave a few messages on her phone letting her know you are thinking of her and if she needs anything from you will mean more than you can know
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| Posted 2/13/09 10:53 AM |
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ckone
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wow, i am so sorry to hear that. It is so scray that's why I seriously just hope and pray everyday for a healthy baby. I too knew someone that lost a baby at 22 weeks and it's scary. I'll be 20 weeks tomorrow.
You could send a "Thinking of You" card.
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| Posted 2/13/09 10:56 AM |
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CaMacho
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Re: just heard really bad news
That's awful, I feel so badly for her. I agree, i'd call and leave a message if she doesn't answer just to let her know you are thinking of her.
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| Posted 2/13/09 11:04 AM |
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I am so sorry. Had she gone for her Level 2?
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| Posted 2/13/09 11:08 AM |
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bellaluna
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So sorry to hear about your friend ! I would call her and let her know that you are thinking about her and if she needs to talk , you are here for her.
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| Posted 2/13/09 11:16 AM |
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TTCMIA
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so sorry to hear that....i lost my first baby at 22 weeks....i'm now PG at 18 weeks....i still get scared...and never will be at ease until i hear that baby in July....
if you dont feel too comfy talking to her, send her something to let her know that you are thinking of her.....
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| Posted 2/13/09 11:21 AM |
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maiden
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shaye3
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Re: just heard really bad news
My heart just broke reading this message..i have had multiple miscarriages but alll within the first trimester....my prayers go out to her family....
Everyone is different but i found that after my miscarriages some people did not know what to do or say and they would not say anything in hope not to upset us..but i think when you are going through it..not addressing it almost makes it worse...not that you need to harp on it but i would say keep calling her and let her know that you are there for her in anyway and ask how she is..give her the chance to talk about it if she wants or not if she does't either...also we went out and planted a tree with our last miscarriage that we had made it the furthest and that has been a very healing process..just an idea for down the road...
lastly...just to put it out there...i had a friend who was pregnant right around the same time I was with my first prgancy and to be honest it was hard to hang out with her for a little while..only because it was a constant reminder..look how big she is..i would be that far along now too..it had nothing to do with her just the situation..now that she has almost a 2 year old..wow..i still from time to time think wow i would have a 2 year old but mostly those feelings have gone and i just enjoy time with the little great person who is here.....
It sounds like you are a very caring friend and I wish your friend many hugs and prayers..
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Posted by CaMacho
That's awful, I feel so badly for her. I agree, i'd call and leave a message if she doesn't answer just to let her know you are thinking of her.
agreed. if you dont feel comfortable calling then send a card or something. but at least acknowledge that shes in your thoughts.
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butterfly20
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Re: just heard really bad news
maybe send a card saying that she can call anytime.... I lost a couple in the first trimester and while it was better to be around people it was painful to see/hear other pregnant people 
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Re: just heard really bad news
If calling them is too much for you, send them a nice note letting them know you are thinking of them. I wouldn't let it go by even though you aren't the best of friends.
Sorry you are going through this and sorry for her
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Briannasmommy
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MommaTo3Dogs1Boy
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I'm so sorry! a very dear friend of mine (love you Katie) lost a baby this year and came close just now, and I couldn't even imagine if she did lose the baby. I would feel completely horrible, but I would be completely supportive. I have tears in my eyes just thinking about this. I'm so sorry you're going through this./
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Gertyrae
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We lost our son last year at 22 weeks and I can say that if you don't want to talk to her right now, she will be okay with it. Send her a card and maybe some food - I can't tell you what a Godsend the food was that people gave/sent to us. I had no interest in cooking or eating and it really helped us get through the first few weeks.
My prayers to your friend, such a horrible experience....
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