I'm just so sad. We have been trying for a few months with no BFP. In a million years we never thought it would be hard - that when we were ready we would just get pregnant.
Last night I spoke to 2 friends - one that just found out she was pregnant and another who had a baby this spring. Both friends struggled for years getting pregnant and needed IVF. Please don't get me wrong - I am SO HAPPY for both of them. The pregnant friend knows that we are trying unsuccessfully and I know whe was trying to be sensitive towards me - which I really appreciate. The second friend does not know we are trying and she lives in another state. She kept putting the baby on the phone with me. I know she was just happy but I just started crying when I heard the cooing. It just started hurting. Maybe it was just too much to talk to both of them in one night.
I told DH that seeing kids just makes me hurt - does that make sense to anyone here. I don't want to vent to either of them - they have struggled so long and they both deserve the happiness they are feeling! I just have been feeling so sad and needed to vent - thanks girls!
I'm so sorry you are so sad! It is completely understandable.
My situation is a little different. We are older (37 & 38) and I also watched my best friend TTC for 12 years unsuccessfully. So I kinda felt it wasn't going to happen right away. We are on our third cycle of trying (still waiting to see how this one ends) but quite honestly I am disappointed it hasn't happened yet. I'm doing everything right - why isn't it happening? I find myself staring at pregnant women and wondering if that will ever be me....
I think all those who TTC have your feelings at one point or another. It's not that we are not happy for our friends/relatives - we just want some happiness for ourselves too!
Im sorry It's hard at times to be happy for others when your unhappy but that doesnt make you a bad person or friend it just makes you normal. So your day will come.
it does hurt. when we had a m/c back in February my husband went back to work and kept hearing the pregnant women around him talking about symptoms and stuff and he'd cringe because he felt it should have been us. your day will come,and the wait will just make you appreciate it even more when it happens
I totally understand...since my m/c in March it seems like everyone around is either pg or has a baby that they flaunt in front of me....I love kids so much and I am happy for them but I want it to be me so badly!!! I think these feelings are normal but our time will come!!
It seems like once you make the decision to start trying EVERTONE becomes pg or you ALWAYS see someone who is pg. I'm so sorry I look at it as KNOWING this is the right decision because something that I was not 100% sure about would not affect me like this. Keep your chin up and keep trying
I look at it as KNOWING this is the right decision because something that I was not 100% sure about would not affect me like this. Keep your chin up and keep trying
