Just when I think the decision has been made for me...UPDATED IN NEW THREAD. I PICKED ONE

Nanny saga continues...
OK. I admit. In some ways, it was a total cop out. I told R that I needed some things from her that I didn't think she would be able to deliver (that I would need evenings). I expected her to call me and tell me she can't do it. I then got disappointed that she wouldn't Jordy's nanny.

And today L came to babysit for me. And I was so happy and comfortable. She is just so sweet.

I get to work and I have a message R saying she thinks she can work out her school schedule if I can get home by 5 on Fridays. I probably could do it.

So now I am back in the tough situation where *I* have to make the decision.

PROS ABOUT R:
1. I already offered her the job.'
2. She is very bright. I know she will engage Jordana very well.
3. She is a professional nanny and knows all the ins and outs of the neighborhood.
4. She is in school to be a nurse and has a lot of knowledge about children.
5. Now she is available at nights.
6. My sister will share her with me so our girls will be together.
7. She is very active and take charge.

CONS ABOUT R:
1. She takes a while to warm up to.
2. She can be greedy.
3. She has another priority when baby is sleeping (to study).
4. She charges much more and wants a metrocard. (the price evens out since my sister is contributing if we hire R)

PROS ABOUT L:
1. She is so sweet.
2. She knows Jordana well and already loves Jordana.
3. She is very easygoing and less demanding.
4. I believe that with time my sister will get more comfortable with her and leave the girls together.

CONS ABOUT L:
1. She mentioned something to me before about TTC.
2. I don't think she is as educated as R.

ETA: The worst/best part- I know that either way I can't go wrong. Jordana will be loved and cared for.

Message edited 12/13/2006 12:13:36 PM.

Re: Just when I think the decision has been made for me...

Re: Just when I think the decision has been made for me...

Posted by Bxgell2

Posted by Shellyesq

Nanny saga continues...
OK. I admit. In some ways, it was a total cop out. I told R that I needed some things from her that I didn't think she would be able to deliver (that I would need evenings). I expected her to call me and tell me she can't do it. I then got disappointed that she wouldn't Jordy's nanny.

And today L came to babysit for me. And I was so happy and comfortable. She is just so sweet.

I get to work and I have a message R saying she thinks she can work out her school schedule if I can get home by 5 on Fridays. I probably could do it.

So now I am back in the tough situation where *I* have to make the decision.

PROS ABOUT R:
1. I already offered her the job.'
2. She is very bright. I know she will engage Jordana very well.
3. She is a professional nanny and knows all the ins and outs of the neighborhood.
4. She is in school to be a nurse and has a lot of knowledge about children.
5. Now she is available at nights.
6. My sister will share her with me so our girls will be together.
7. She is very active and take charge.

CONS ABOUT R:
1. She takes a while to warm up to.
2. She can be greedy.
3. She has another priority when baby is sleeping (to study).

PROS ABOUT L:
1. She is so sweet.
2. She knows Jordana well and already loves Jordana.
3. She is very easygoing and less demanding.

CONS ABOUT L:
1. She mentioned something to me before about TTC.
2. I don't think she is as educated as R.

I particularly like (1) that R is educated, bright and studying to be a nurse, and especially (2) she will watch Jordana with your sister's baby as well - that would mean the world to me, it really would, that they would be together. Personally, I think I would go with R... studying as a priority while Jordana sleeps isn't a problem, as long as it's restricted to when Jordana is sleeping only and if she's a professional nanny, I'm sure she'll stick to that

Re: Just when I think the decision has been made for me...

Re: Just when I think the decision has been made for me...

I don't think you could go wrong either way - you have two great options. You have met both of them, and the best advice is to go with your gut. I know its usually what works for me.

Good luck!!

Re: Just when I think the decision has been made for me...

What do you mean R can be greedy?
If you ask her not to study when baby is sleeping do you think she will? What is it that you prefer her to do when the baby is sleeping - housework? Just wondering. I don't think I'd mind if she was studying if the baby is sleeping. Besides, the chances of Jordana and her cousin sleeping at the same time are small (but maybe it will happen) so that she wants to study may never actually happen...

But the main thing is that you did promise her the job, and I think you should honor that as long as she can honor her end of the deal. But you can always change your mind in a month's time you know? Like you just don't feel it's going to work out, etc. Would your sister be ticked off that you do that?

You are right too, no matter who you go with Jordana will be well cared for.

Re: Just when I think the decision has been made for me...

Its tough to have to make a decision like this.

I think I was the only one on the other thread to vote for 'R' but I still feel she is the right fit just from what I have read IMO.
I know I would pay a little more for someone that would keep my child engaged and socailized. I wouldn't have a problem with her studying while the baby napped (unless there are other things she is supposed to be doing?)

Re: Just when I think the decision has been made for me...

Re: Just when I think the decision has been made for me...

Honestly, it sounds like you have made your decision, and you are looking for ways to get out of the committment with R. Just follow your gut and do what you know is best. Yes, R will probably be upset/mad......but I think you are really already leaning towards L.

Re: Just when I think the decision has been made for me...

Message edited 12/12/2006 4:00:03 PM.

Re: Just when I think the decision has been made for me...

Posted by Shellyesq

Posted by DML

Honestly, it sounds like you have made your decision, and you are looking for ways to get out of the committment with R. Just follow your gut and do what you know is best. Yes, R will probably be upset/mad......but I think you are really already leaning towards L.

Thank you ladies!! I really appreciate all your imput!!!

You know what it is. In my heart I want L. In my head I want R. Who do you listen to? Your head or your heart?

Re: Just when I think the decision has been made for me...

You confused me, LOL. What does your DH think?

I really don't know who I would pick now. In the other post I choose L.

Re: Just when I think the decision has been made for me...

Honestly, I would not hire R if it were me. She sounds a tad bit demanding for someone who is going to be working FOR you. And don't forget, school schedules can change every semester and eventually, like I mentioned on the other thread, if she wants to be a nurse, she'll have to do a lot of hours. That will take her away from you.
As for L ttc, that's a possible thing. R going to to school is a definite thing.
I would rather my child with someone more affectionate and loving than educated. JMHO.

Re: Just when I think the decision has been made for me...