Keeping DC away from certain family members

I do not agree with certain family members - how they live their lives and raise their children. I feel sad that DD will not get to know the children BUT I refuse to expose her to these people.

They are family so she will see them at holidays and other get togethers but never without me and never more than necessary.

I feel very strongly about this, even though DD is still a baby - I want to distance myself from them NOW before she can be influenced by them.

Does anyone have this issue? I feel bad b/c they are always calling to invite us to do stuff and have been very generous with DD - its getting exhausting, I hope they get the hint SOON!

Of course they are ILs, my family is perfect.

Re: Keeping DC away from certain family members

Right there with you, have at least 2 family members that I hope are never in the same room as DS

One is a drug addict and the other has been in and out of jail

There are a few others that I have no desire for him to be near but I know they can't totally be avoided

Re: Keeping DC away from certain family members

I'm not a parent quite yet,

But trust me - I know EXACTLY what you are talking about.

Since becoming pregnant, I have had a conversation about this already. He knows that members of his family, particularly his father, will have extremely limited contact with our child.

The only time that man will be allowed to see our baby, is if he comes to our home. I will NOT allow my child to enter their filthy & disgusting home. Their lifestyle and general way of thinking is 100% in disagreement with mine, and I will make sure that our child has very, very limited contact with them. It's just the way it is, and DH knows how strongly I feel about this, and he is in agreement.

Luckily my family makes up for the clusterf**k of ghettoness that is his.

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I have this issue to an extreme...I do not want my DC to ever meet DH's sister. She has said some absolutely HEINOUS things to me and has made it very clear she doesn't have an ounce of respect for me...I don't want my DC around someone who feels that strongly about hating me. If she decides to apologize and act like a human being, then we'll see...but I know she won't do that.

Lucky for me she lives in Grand Cayman

Re: Keeping DC away from certain family members

Before DD was born, I had no problem when they invited us over. We would go, I would go alone. But the minute DD was born I realized that I had to distance myself immediately instead of waiting until she was older.

I feel kind of like a hypocrite, but I guess while I can just at their actions, DD may be influenced by them.

Ugh, this post was inspired about that "who would you NOT want your children to go to" thread - I can't stop thinking about it. So much so, I went on legal zoom and made a will last night!