Kinda spinoff: If you worked more with #2, or changed your work status with even 1 child

Do you feel guilty?

I have cut back my hours at work and only work 25 hours now, most done while DS is sleeping. Typically, he is only awake for 5-6 of my weekly work hours. Yet, I do have to additionally sleep about 8 hours total per week while he is awake. (Done with either DH, MIL or a babysitter.)

The vice president of the company today told me he is determined to have me switch to day work. (My department is moving in the Spring and I can't possibly do the position I am in now in the new building.) I do not want to go back full-time, but even if I switch to 8-4 3 times per week, then DS would be put in daycare 7a-5p 3 days per week. How the heck would he handle this? I already worked MUCH longer hours this week and everyday he tells me he misses me so much with big hugs.

Then I think: If we have #2 and I am working 'normal hours' then that child won't get to have me home as often as I was with DS. I begin to feel extremely guilty.

What am I doing? Please share your wisdom.

TIA!

Re: Kinda spinoff: If you worked more with #2, or changed your work status with even 1 child

i have no idea, but sometimes it makes me wish for a simpler time. Hope it all works out for you.

Re: Kinda spinoff: If you worked more with #2, or changed your work status with even 1 child

Kelly - I worked P/T until DD was nearly 14 months, and then I went back to work F/T. IMHO there is no way to avoid feeeling guilty - regardless of your choices. If you stay home people will comment that your child doesn't have enough socialization with other kids (and you will feel bad/guilty). If you work you will get the people that say wow, how do you do it, don't you feel horrible leaving your kid at daycare.

It's a no win situation. Do what you have to do to financially support your family and do your best not to feel guilty (or at least get over it quickly).