Ladies in the same situation...

My DH works really weird hours. Right now we leave together and get home around 10pm (we live in PA). But once the baby is here i will have to leave work at 4pm to be back home by 6:30 to pick up the baby from daycare. DH wont get home until like 9 or 10pm still if he is working on projects than he wont get home until like 3am in the morning.

This depresses me b/c i feel like i wont have any help and that DH will not be able to see his child much. The only time DH will be able to spend time with the baby is in the morning b/c i have to leave earlier than DH and on the weekends.

Anyone else in the same predicament? How do you deal? I am really depressed by it.

Re: Ladies in the same situation...

My husband is almost always home after my daughter is asleep. He leaves in the morning at around 8 am. I'm not working like you will be, but I can relate to the concerns you have. I can tell you that the time apart during the week doesn't hurt his relationship with her at all -- she adores her daddy. In terms of not having help remember that after the first few months the baby will go to sleep early, so you'll be getting home and starting the bedtime routine. You'll have time to yourself to take care of whatever you need after the baby is asleep.

Re: Ladies in the same situation...

Hi. I really understand what you are feeling. My husband leaves at 5:30 AM ... has a two hour drive to work ... works 8-10 hours ... drives two hours home. My kids are asleep when he leaves and when he gets home. It's a rare occassion when he sees them Monday through Friday. On the weekends, he is usually so exhausted that he spends Saturday sleeping in the recliner. Sunday ... well we do what we can. As for help, I often feel like a single parent because there isn't much help ... if any at all. Somehow, you just learn to manage. The house may not be as clean as you would like ... there may be piles of things here and there ... but just worry about yourself and your child/ren. Everything gets done in time. Don't worry about anything ... you will do it ... you'll be surprised to see how strong you really are! All the best to you!!!