ladies who lost moms... baby shower question

My mom died when I was ten, and my dad died when I was 24. I have no siblings, but I do have amazing friends, friends' moms, and aunts. My DH and I are expecting our first baby in March and my MIL is all about throwing me a shower. I am grateful, but know that my friends and family (out of town) would like to help. My MIL is taking it on by herself... is this what happened to you? If not, who threw you a baby shower?

All of this makes me miss my parents even more!

Re: ladies who lost moms... baby shower question

Im so sorry for your loss. Believe it or not I planned my own baby shower. My mom was very sick at the time and did NOT make it, she was in the hopsital at the time. My sister and MIL and good friends help set things up, and my grandma offered to pay for many of the decorations and favors.
But I planned everything else

Re: ladies who lost moms... baby shower question

Sure let her do it. That is so nice of her to offer. (Your friends/relatives can always offer to help out some of the cost or w/favors, etc.

When my friend was pregnant (her mom was in a nursing home), her Aunt threw her shower and I made the wishing well and all the favors and another friend made the cake.

BTW, I was married two months (lost my parents 20 yrs ago) and DH's mom never even thought about throwing me a shower or contributing to it. The same will be if/when (hopefully) it comes time for a baby shower. She is in the twilight zone.

Also, Congrats to you and DH.
PS-I know these are the hard times when we miss our parents. Just remember they are so happy for you and are watching over you.

Re: ladies who lost moms... baby shower question

My MIL is Jewish. She hosted my bridal shower but felt superstitious hosting the baby shower.

We booked the restaurant and my BF did almost everything else.

Another friend took the video.

It sounds silly but I remember being so upset a few weeks before over looking at toyboxes for DC's. My dad was a master carpenter before I was born and could make the most beautiful custom wood pieces before his stroke. I remember being so sad because he would have made my kids beautiful toyboxes and so much more. I couldn't bare to buy a cheap looking one that would fall apart in a year or two.
Well, my DH's cousin walked into my shower with two GORGEOUS toyboxes he made himself.... beautiful craftsmanship... his wife filled them with books, stuffed animals etc.. I absolutely lost it. I was bawling Poor DH's cousin thought he did something wrong.

I tell you this because yes, you will miss your mom and dad on that day but you will be so surprised how your family and friends will just touch your heart and make the day extra special for you and your bundle of joy.