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ladies who lost moms... baby shower question

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july0105
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ladies who lost moms... baby shower question

who threw your shower?

Message edited 11/1/2007 8:47:05 PM.

Posted 11/1/07 8:46 PM
 
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Re: ladies who lost moms... baby shower question

I recently went to a shower for a good friend who lost her Mom last year.....the shower was thrown by her sister & SIL (though the sister had a really tough time handling it & deferred alot to the SIL to make it easier on her).

Hope that helps.

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Posted 11/1/07 9:22 PM
 

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Re: ladies who lost moms... baby shower question

My mother is still alive and well but my shower was given to me by my mil and sils. My mom didn't participate in any planning.

Posted 11/1/07 9:54 PM
 

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Re: ladies who lost moms... baby shower question

Im wondering this as well, i lost my mom in 03, and I dont have any sisters, my cousin threw my wedding shower, (because she was the MOH) but maybe i will just plan this one...is that weird

Posted 11/2/07 5:55 AM
 

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Re: ladies who lost moms... baby shower question

Posted by secretbabymaker

Im wondering this as well, i lost my mom in 03, and I dont have any sisters, my cousin threw my wedding shower, (because she was the MOH) but maybe i will just plan this one...is that weird




What about any friends? Would they be willing to help you plan it at least? That way it's not all done by youChat Icon

Posted 11/2/07 8:12 AM
 

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Re: ladies who lost moms... baby shower question

My sister threw my baby shower. Felt bad because a year ago she threw me a bridal shower.

Posted 11/2/07 8:55 AM
 

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Re: ladies who lost moms... baby shower question

Posted by secretbabymaker

Im wondering this as well, i lost my mom in 03, and I dont have any sisters, my cousin threw my wedding shower, (because she was the MOH) but maybe i will just plan this one...is that weird



Are you have a Godmother for the baby? Maybe she will, What about your MIL?

Posted 11/2/07 8:56 AM
 

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Re: ladies who lost moms... baby shower question

We will be choosing my husbands sis (my sil) to be the godmother, and ironically i mentioned this to my husband this morning and he said he was gonna be doing the whole thing for me Chat Icon he really is a sweetyChat Icon

Posted 11/2/07 8:59 AM
 

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Re: ladies who lost moms... baby shower question

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Posted 11/2/07 9:00 AM
 

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Re: ladies who lost moms... baby shower question

Posted by Kelly9904

My mom passed away 3 years ago and my baby shower was this past weekend.

Its such a long story really on who threw my shower, but the condensed version is:
My MIL and dad paid for it
My brother organized it
Tasks were basically divided up amongst my MIL, SIL, Best Friend and cousin (who is like a sister)

I will say that there many offers to help from both my and DHs side knowing that my mom isnt here. And everyone really bent over backwards just to make it a special day knowing that someone would be missing!


WOW!!!! you must have felt so loved!!!!!!!!! that is so great im glad you enjoyed your dayChat Icon

Posted 11/2/07 9:12 AM
 

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Re: ladies who lost moms... baby shower question

It was great and really nice of everyone, I will say that having a man plan your shower can be stressful. But in the end it was everything and more than I expected it to be.

I wanted to add, that I was really stressed in the beginning about the whole thing because my mom did my bridal shower (she died shortly after my wedding) and it was perfect and no one mentioned my shower to me really for the first 5 months. But like I said everyone really came together.
Try not to stress out too much about it, somehow these things always have a way of working out.

Message edited 11/2/2007 9:20:03 AM.

Posted 11/2/07 9:18 AM
 

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Re: ladies who lost moms... baby shower question

My sister, with the help of my best friend. If my sister didn't step up, my DH would have paid for it and my friend or other family members would have planned it.

Posted 11/2/07 12:30 PM
 

july0105
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Re: ladies who lost moms... baby shower question

Posted by Kelly9904

My mom passed away 3 years ago and my baby shower was this past weekend.

Its such a long story really on who threw my shower, but the condensed version is:
My MIL and dad paid for it
My brother organized it
Tasks were basically divided up amongst my MIL, SIL, Best Friend and cousin (who is like a sister)

I will say that there many offers to help from both my and DHs side knowing that my mom isnt here. And everyone really bent over backwards just to make it a special day knowing that someone would be missing!




It's so wonderful that there were so many people who wanted to help. My mom died when I was ten, my dad when I was 24, and I have no siblings. I do have tons of wonderful women in my life, though.

My MIL is taking it all on by herself even though there are many people who would love to help. She says she WANTS to do it, but seems to act like she HAS to. I am trying so hard to not let this bother me and roll with it. I am very grateful, even though it may not sound like it! I really am...

I guess I just miss my parents!Chat Icon

Message edited 11/2/2007 3:01:49 PM.

Posted 11/2/07 3:01 PM
 

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Re: ladies who lost moms... baby shower question

I'm not in this situation but wanted to give you a Chat Icon

Posted 11/2/07 3:26 PM
 

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Re: ladies who lost moms... baby shower question

Posted by Kelly9904

My mom passed away 3 years ago and my baby shower was this past weekend.

Its such a long story really on who threw my shower, but the condensed version is:
My MIL and dad paid for it
My brother organized it
Tasks were basically divided up amongst my MIL, SIL, Best Friend and cousin (who is like a sister)

I will say that there many offers to help from both my and DHs side knowing that my mom isnt here. And everyone really bent over backwards just to make it a special day knowing that someone would be missing!




that is so nice!

Posted 11/2/07 4:37 PM
 

Saltricia
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Re: ladies who lost moms... baby shower question

Posted by july0105

Posted by Kelly9904

My mom passed away 3 years ago and my baby shower was this past weekend.

Its such a long story really on who threw my shower, but the condensed version is:
My MIL and dad paid for it
My brother organized it
Tasks were basically divided up amongst my MIL, SIL, Best Friend and cousin (who is like a sister)

I will say that there many offers to help from both my and DHs side knowing that my mom isnt here. And everyone really bent over backwards just to make it a special day knowing that someone would be missing!




It's so wonderful that there were so many people who wanted to help. My mom died when I was ten, my dad when I was 24, and I have no siblings. I do have tons of wonderful women in my life, though.

My MIL is taking it all on by herself even though there are many people who would love to help. She says she WANTS to do it, but seems to act like she HAS to. I am trying so hard to not let this bother me and roll with it. I am very grateful, even though it may not sound like it! I really am...

I guess I just miss my parents!Chat Icon



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Posted 11/2/07 4:38 PM
 

Kelly9904
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Re: ladies who lost moms... baby shower question

Posted by july0105

I am trying so hard to not let this bother me and roll with it. I am very grateful, even though it may not sound like it! I really am...

I guess I just miss my parents!Chat Icon



Its hard, there have been numerous times throughout my pregnancy when I have broken down because I miss my mom and I am sure I will continue to have those days.

Maybe you can put your best friend or MOH or someone in contact with your MIL to help with some of the detals whether its the favors or invites or whatever.

Either way, just try not to stress out about it. I cried about my shower in the beginning and in the end it was so nice and everyone had a nice time. In hindsight there was no reason to worry, somehow these things all come together in the end!

Posted 11/2/07 4:42 PM
 

july0105
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Re: ladies who lost moms... baby shower question

Posted by Kelly9904

Posted by july0105

I am trying so hard to not let this bother me and roll with it. I am very grateful, even though it may not sound like it! I really am...

I guess I just miss my parents!Chat Icon



Its hard, there have been numerous times throughout my pregnancy when I have broken down because I miss my mom and I am sure I will continue to have those days.

Maybe you can put your best friend or MOH or someone in contact with your MIL to help with some of the detals whether its the favors or invites or whatever.

Either way, just try not to stress out about it. I cried about my shower in the beginning and in the end it was so nice and everyone had a nice time. In hindsight there was no reason to worry, somehow these things all come together in the end!



Thanks. I found out that my friends and Aunt have offered and MIL declined. I know I should take your advice and not worry about it. I asked my friends and DH not to talk to me about the details anymore. I am getting all worked up about something that should be fun and special. I am hoping it will be all of those things.

Thanks again for the words of encouragement! Chat Icon

Posted 11/2/07 4:54 PM
 

secretbabymaker
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Re: ladies who lost moms... baby shower question

Posted by july0105

Posted by Kelly9904

My mom passed away 3 years ago and my baby shower was this past weekend.

Its such a long story really on who threw my shower, but the condensed version is:
My MIL and dad paid for it
My brother organized it
Tasks were basically divided up amongst my MIL, SIL, Best Friend and cousin (who is like a sister)

I will say that there many offers to help from both my and DHs side knowing that my mom isnt here. And everyone really bent over backwards just to make it a special day knowing that someone would be missing!




It's so wonderful that there were so many people who wanted to help. My mom died when I was ten, my dad when I was 24, and I have no siblings. I do have tons of wonderful women in my life, though.

My MIL is taking it all on by herself even though there are many people who would love to help. She says she WANTS to do it, but seems to act like she HAS to. I am trying so hard to not let this bother me and roll with it. I am very grateful, even though it may not sound like it! I really am...

I guess I just miss my parents!Chat Icon

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Posted 11/2/07 5:06 PM
 
 

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