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SecretTTCer
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Major Stressing...need advice
So I am starting IVF this month. My tentative calendar has my retrieval scheduled for a Saturday morning. I just got an invitation for my cousin's communion that day (church at 11am and lunch at 2pm). Now, I haven't told anyone in my family except my parents and as far as I know they have kept the secret (at least I think). Obviously, it would be incredibly weird for me not to be at the communion. I can't even think of a reasonable lie that I could tell them that would make sense for why I am not going to be there. I am really stressing about this now. I really don't want everyone knowing!
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Posted 4/7/09 11:26 AM  |
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Re: Major Stressing...need advice
I suggest telling them you have a prior committment with your DH's family. Is that a possibility?
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| Posted 4/7/09 11:29 AM |
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SecretTTCer
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Re: Major Stressing...need advice
Posted by BabyMommaSomeday
I suggest telling them you have a prior committment with your DH's family. Is that a possibility?
No....my husband basically has no family. They would never believe that.
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| Posted 4/7/09 11:31 AM |
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CarlieJLD7
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Re: Major Stressing...need advice
Talk to your RE... there are things you can do to adjust it... like stay on BCP a few days longer before stimming... once you start stimming then its hard to adjust... but understand that is a tentative date and most likely won't happen that day...
If you want to go to the communion, then talk to your RE and just explain to them that you have something to do... no reason to stress... 
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| Posted 4/7/09 11:31 AM |
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SecretTTCer
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Re: Major Stressing...need advice
Well, I guess that is an option. The thing is that I rather not miss work so in some ways to do it on Saturday is ideal. I guess there is no easy answer.
Do you have to be on bedrest after retrieval?
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| Posted 4/7/09 11:33 AM |
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Re: Major Stressing...need advice
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Posted by BabyMommaSomeday
I suggest telling them you have a prior committment with your DH's family. Is that a possibility?
No....my husband basically has no family. They would never believe that.
I wouldn't hold off the process for a communion...that is JMO. In all honesty I would just RSVP and say that you can't make it because you already have plans for that day but you would like to spend time with your cousin before or after the communion.
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| Posted 4/7/09 11:36 AM |
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LaurenExp
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Re: Major Stressing...need advice
Just because your calendar says that doesn't mean it will definitely happen that day. Its going to depend a lot on your response to the meds. Its really just a guide.
You really should take it easy the day of your retrieval. If you have a ton of eggs retrieved you will be uncomfortable, although I've found I'm more uncomfortable the day after than day of, actually.
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| Posted 4/7/09 11:37 AM |
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Daisy32
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Re: Major Stressing...need advice
Maybe you could just claim that your sick at the last minute? Its not totally untrue since you really would need to rest....know what I mean?
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| Posted 4/7/09 11:49 AM |
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BA2008
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Re: Major Stressing...need advice
Yeah, the probability of your ER being the day the calendar says is very slim. Its just a guide. I would respond that you are going and if it does indeed fall on that day then i would tell them you are not feeling well that morning and you are very sorry. Stomach thingy so you cannot leave the house. Then forward your house phone to your cell phone (while you are out doing ER) and have it with DH in case anyone is checking up on you. He can just say you are sleeping etc...
People come down with stuff all the time.
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| Posted 4/7/09 12:11 PM |
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KrisT
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Re: Major Stressing...need advice
I agree with Beth-Ann. I would RSVP that you are going and if it turns our that is the day of your retrieval, then you can tell them you have a "stomach virus".
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| Posted 4/7/09 1:01 PM |
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karenk71
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Re: Major Stressing...need advice
Posted by KrisT
I agree with Beth-Ann. I would RSVP that you are going and if it turns our that is the day of your retrieval, then you can tell them you have a "stomach virus".
ITA.
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| Posted 4/7/09 1:03 PM |
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Carolyn
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Re: Major Stressing...need advice
Posted by LaurenExp
Just because your calendar says that doesn't mean it will definitely happen that day. Its going to depend a lot on your response to the meds. Its really just a guide.
You really should take it easy the day of your retrieval. If you have a ton of eggs retrieved you will be uncomfortable, although I've found I'm more uncomfortable the day after than day of, actually.
ITA with all of this. If it happens to be on that Saturday (mine wound up being three days after the tentative date and I only stimmed for 9 days), then just call and tell them you're sick. No need to worry about it now. G/L
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| Posted 4/7/09 1:49 PM |
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Domino
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Re: Major Stressing...need advice
At the start of my IVF cycles, my RE would say "You're looking at retrieval around here." My retrieval was never that day. I would RSVP yes to the communion and if your retrieval is that date I would call two days before and let them know you have that "nasty stomach virus that is going around." No one will balme you for not going.
P.S. Good luck with your cycle!  
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| Posted 4/7/09 2:06 PM |
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SecretTTCer
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Re: Major Stressing...need advice
Ok...that makes me feel better. How many days before retrieval do you determine when it is?
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| Posted 4/7/09 3:21 PM |
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CarlieJLD7
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Re: Major Stressing...need advice
Posted by SecretTTCer
Ok...that makes me feel better. How many days before retrieval do you determine when it is?
Usually 1-2 days b/c they will tell you to trigger, and then you should take off work that day and rest... and then take off again for the transfer... I know it sucks 2 days within 1 weeks sometimes for work... but you really need to take the days off.
Good Luck!!!
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| Posted 4/7/09 4:21 PM |
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lolipep
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Re: Major Stressing...need advice
I feel your pain the same thing just happened to me with my nieces communion--I feel bad but if that's the way it has to be then there is nothing we can do about it KWIM? don't stress and hopefully it will all work out
good luck to you!!!
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| Posted 4/7/09 6:50 PM |
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SecretTTCer
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Re: Major Stressing...need advice
Thanks.
My husband came up with the emergency root canal scenario that I think I might go with.
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