May I ask a question? Twin related.

I am not a Mom so I can't understand, however, may I ask why when someone is pregnant with twins (boy & girl) or has boy & girl twins, why people say "Oh perfect, one of each", or "How lucky, a boy and a girl".

I am not meaning to offend anyone so PLEASE do not think I am, I am just curious. I would think 2 of ANY sex babies is a blessing and the people who have same sex twins are lucky, and that is just AS perfect as boy/girl twins.

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I think maybe people say that because now you have one of each... That is what i think but i def. understand what you are saying! But really any child is a blessing!

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any child is a gift but i think they are trying to say that you are lucky to have the chance to raise a boy AND a girl. it's two totally different experiences and some people just want to experience both.

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Considering I just found out today, I'll answer.

Of course, I would be happy with whatever combination I was blessed with. Considering it was not long ago that it looked like I might never have biological children of my own I was thrilled just to get pregnant with one, never mind twins through IVF.

I did express to DH before we went through IVF, and he felt the same, that our wish in life was always to have two children. We both grew up with siblings and siblings of the opposite gender. I think it helps one learn a lot about the opposite sex, how to interact and can help you form healthy relationships.

That being said, once we did IVF, I told him that if I conceived a singleton, my fear was "Would we ever be able to give our child a sibling?" I knew that I would be overjoyed at having one but at my age and infertility history, I would always worry if I would conceive and deliver again. Could I go through IVF again physically and emotionally while caring for a little one? What about the expense?

Additionally, I think every mom who has children of only one gender always wonders what it would be like to have a child of the opposite gender. DH and I agreed we would only have TWO children. I if I was pg with or of course, I'd be so thankful and grateful and would love them to pieces and never want to trade them for the world, but I would occassionally wonder what it would be like to have a child of the other gender.

Sorry, this is so long but this is why I am so thrilled today to be having a . I feel very blessed. These are my two children, this is my only pregnancy and for me and DH, it's ideal as we have one of each and as we agreed no matter what that were we were not having a third.

Those are my personal reasons.

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Posted by Tah-wee-ZAH

Considering I just found out today, I'll answer.

Of course, I would be happy with whatever combination I was blessed with. Considering it was not long ago that it looked like I might never have biological children of my own I was thrilled just to get pregnant with one, never mind twins through IVF.

I did express to DH before we went through IVF, and he felt the same, that our wish in life was always to have two children. We both grew up with siblings and siblings of the opposite gender. I think it helps one learn a lot about the opposite sex, how to interact and can help you form healthy relationships.

That being said, once we did IVF, I told him that if I conceived a singleton, my fear was "Would we ever be able to give our child a sibling?" I knew that I would be overjoyed at having one but at my age and infertility history, I would always worry if I would conceive and deliver again. Could I go through IVF again physically and emotionally while caring for a little one? What about the expense?

Additionally, I think every mom who has children of only one gender always wonders what it would be like to have a child of the opposite gender. DH and I agreed we would only have TWO children. I if I was pg with or of course, I'd be so thankful and grateful and would love them to pieces and never want to trade them for the world, but I would occassionally wonder what it would be like to have a child of the other gender.

Sorry, this is so long but this is why I am so thrilled today to be having a . I feel very blessed. These are my two children, this is my only pregnancy and for me and DH, it's ideal as we have one of each and as we agreed no matter what that were we were not having a third.

Those are my personal reasons.

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I got that too a lot - and that's the main reason I was so glad that we didn't find out before what we were having. I'd also explain to people that we plan on having more so it didn't matter, for us anyway that was my explanation.

For me, I thought it would be great to have 2 of the same gender, since then they could truly be "twins" - same (if they choose) everything and have a "friend" of the same gender. And as great as it would be to have boy/girl twins - one for mom and one for dad () like I said I didn't care b/c we plan on having more. And if God so chooses to give us 5 or 5 (if we keep trying haha) then so be it - we'll love any baby that we are blessed with.

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Thanks for the replies.

I still think ANY sex(es) are perfect, wether 2 of the same or two different

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