MIL vent

OK i will officially NEVER ask my MIL to babysit again. I just went back to work 3 weeks ago after maternity leave and my babysitter called becuase her mother passed away . Well I am now suddently stuck without a sitter for 5 days so I asked my MIL if she can watch my kids one day - her response was no - I am very busy at work. PLease she couldnt do me a favor. She even had the nerve to call a day care center to see if they can watch my kids without my permission. I just wanted her one day. My mother was willing to spend 400.00 to fly up from Florida to help me out. I really hate my MIL right now - and she is never watching my kids. At least I find a college girl to help me out for 2 days DH will stay home tomorrw. I will worry about next week over the weekend. This girl is a daughter of my co- worker. I will teach her how to change a diaper tommow.

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Your MIL works? That is what I thought you wrote or did she just say she can't because she doesn't want to? Is there a reason? If she works then I would not expect her to take off to take care of my child. But if she doesn't work and just doesn't "feel" like helping out then I would take that more personally.
I am sorry that your sitter lost her mother. How sad I am sure that this is a difficult situation for you. I hope that you can get your sitters for the week.

Message edited 5/22/2006 10:10:57 PM.

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Thats horrible, I understand your MIL works, but she can't do you a favor for one day and tell her job she can't come in. She should put her grandkids first. Is it impossible for her to take off one day?

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I underestand she works too but oneday she could take if she had too. Now DH and I had a big blow out because he thinks his mother did nothing wrong

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Maybe I'm misreading this, but I don't think she did anything wrong either. Ultimately this is part of parenting - you are responsible for your own child. I wouldn't angry because she wasn't going to take off work to help out unless she promised she'd do it & then backed out. I must be missing the background on this.

While calling daycares is very presumptious, she could've been looking into different options before she presenting them to you. It would be an entirely different matter is if she dropped the baby off without discussing it with you first.

Either way - finding someone you trust to watch your child is always tough. I'm not sure it's worth fighting with your husband - and I wouldn't count your MIL out if you need help in the future. I would however have a backup plan if your regular sitter flakes out on you again.