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mommy2devin
2 Boys, I need calgon!
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Shannon
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Moms of 2 DCs- Questions
I am contemplating having another DC, or trying to at least...
I never thought I would say those words after my struggle with PPD and adjusting to having just the one. BUT, I really want him to have a brother/sister....
Anyway, my question is... They will be at least 3 years apart. How hard is it to adjust to two? I know that is an open ended question, but things like...
Putting DCs to bed, and husband works at night. What do you do with the toddler while you are putting the baby to bed and vice/versa.... Bath times, meal times, overall play time with the toddler... How hard is this going to be? And if I struggled so much adjusting to one, will it be even harder to adjust to the second??????
Please help...... I'm a nervous wreck and we haven't even officially started "trying" yet.......
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Posted 9/8/09 12:05 PM  |
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JenBenMen
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Re: Moms of 2 DCs- Questions
DS's are 22 months apart. It is definately hard but definately workable.
Nighttimes I usually give younger DS a bath first and then older DS. I out DS#2 in crib while I bathe DS#1. DS#1 is usually amusing himself with books/toys while I bathe DS#1.
I put DS#1 to bed first and then I read with DS#2 and then he goes to bed. I havent had them sleep in the same room yet (DS#2 is with us for now).
I assume once DS#2 could go in tub with DS#1 it will easier
Everything somehow gets done
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| Posted 9/8/09 12:10 PM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: Moms of 2 DCs- Questions
DC are 3 years apart, down to the month. It's definitely tricky, especially the first year or so, since they have such different needs and wants.
DC have always had the same bedtime, so we would put DS to bed first, then focus on getting DD to sleep (bottle, burp, change, etc).
After the first year or so, it gets much easier, IMO. Usually, the older DC tries to help with the younger (which isn't always a good thing during the first year). DC are almost always playing together, and they really love each other. DS likes having a "baby sister" to watch out for, and DD likes having an older brother to look up to.
I think the 2nd is much easier to adjust to than the 1st. With the 1st, your entire world changes. With the 2nd, you just have to adjust things that you're already doing.
With a 3 year span, you can wind up reusing a lot of things. Pack-n-Play, strollers, high-chairs, infant carseat, etc.
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| Posted 9/8/09 1:09 PM |
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mommy2devin
2 Boys, I need calgon!
Member since 10/07 1572 total posts
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Shannon
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Re: Moms of 2 DCs- Questions
Thank you both so so much! I'm just so scared to even be contemplating this now. I was SURE DS was going to be an only child until just very recently. I'm nervous and not even preggo yet!!!
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| Posted 9/8/09 2:19 PM |
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ME75
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Re: Moms of 2 DCs- Questions
Posted by mommy2devin
I am contemplating having another DC, or trying to at least...
I never thought I would say those words after my struggle with PPD and adjusting to having just the one. BUT, I really want him to have a brother/sister....
Anyway, my question is... They will be at least 3 years apart. How hard is it to adjust to two? I know that is an open ended question, but things like...
Putting DCs to bed, and husband works at night. What do you do with the toddler while you are putting the baby to bed and vice/versa.... Bath times, meal times, overall play time with the toddler... How hard is this going to be? And if I struggled so much adjusting to one, will it be even harder to adjust to the second??????
Please help...... I'm a nervous wreck and we haven't even officially started "trying" yet.......
oh boy i had all the same fears/concerns as you! i just bit the bullet and went ahead with it! the fear was less than my desire for my DD to have a sibling so that is why really. my DC are 25 months apart. and i will say that the adjustment to 2 for me is WAY easier than when i had DD the first time. yes it is very tricky at times to do meals, bath, bed but you really do figure it out. truthfully i use things to distract them. DD will watch a show while i bathe DS or feed him. DS will hang out in his swing while i bathe/put DD to bed. sometimes one of them is crying and the sh*t is hitting the fan but you get through it! i think that once you have one, you are already living around them, that adding another to the mix just adds some more work. when i had only my DD the first time it literally rocked my world and i had nothing to compare it to. i do have the blues on and off this time (DS is only 7 wks) but it is nothing like the first time around when i had it bad. i know this sounds bad but since i am not a fan of being pregnant and the newborn stage, i am glad to be getting through it and being done with it-another reason we decided to TTC when we did. i know that i am totally done having babies and feel VERY peaceful about it!
good luck with your decision! it will be ok!!
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| Posted 9/8/09 2:38 PM |
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