moms of 2 or more HELP

So we have been home for about 5 days with the new baby. Connor loves to kiss him and hug him and has no issue with the baby itself.

He seems to be acting up more than usual. Hitting (mostly DH but me as well) and he cries about everything.

He also wants only me to do everything from changing him to dressing him etc.

Is this just an adjustment to having the new baby around?

Should I continue to do everything or should Matt do things and if he cries tough?

HELP

Re: moms of 2 or more HELP

Perfectly normal.

I would split the time up. I think DH can make games out of things & Connor would revel in the attention.

I used to tell Maddie (who was in infant & didn't know what I was saying) things like "Ok, I'm going to feed you but then it's Joseph's turn with Mommy."

I know it's hard. You feel guilty to see your first upset but it's an adjustment - especially after you've been in the hospital.

Re: moms of 2 or more HELP

Hey Jen! Congrats! I'm out of the loop...did you have a boy/girl? Name?

Anyway...totally normal. Molly is now 6 months old and Jack still has his whiney moments. I would try as much as possible to keep the routine the same with Connor. For example, in our house Miike always gave Jack a bath so he still does that. Some nights he gets home just in time for bathtime and at the same time I may be putting Molly down to sleep, so sometimes Mike doesn't get much time with Molly. But it keeps Jack's world a little more controlled.

I also talk to Molly in the same way nrthsgrl mentioned. I say things like "I'm sorry Molly, you need to wait, it is not your turn. It's Jack's turn to play with Mommy." That way he is aware that Molly is not getting more attention.

And also, as painful as it is to let the baby cry, sometimes I have to just let her cry so I can give Jack my undivided attention for a couple of minutes. In the end it is easier to comfort the baby by just holding her after a crying spell, than it is to get Jack back into a good mood after a whiney tantrum.

Hope that helps! Hope everyone is doing well.

Re: moms of 2 or more HELP

Didn't know you had your second baby. CONGRATS!!!

It's perfectly normal. Make sure you have you & Connor time. I call them dates. Ask Matt to watch the baby & you & Connor can go for a walk, park, ice cream whatever. It just reassures him that he's still loved as much as he was.

Congrats again!!

Re: moms of 2 or more HELP

Totally normal. For us it was the opposite, Sarah wanted nothing to do with me until DH went back to work and she realized that she was going to have to let me help her.