moms of 2 under 2.. whast the hardest part

I am going to have a 19 month old and a newborn.. whats the hardest part? And dont tell me EVERYHING ! HAHAHA

Re: moms of 2 under 2.. whast the hardest part

trying to divide your time and being able to shower



congrats to you!

Re: moms of 2 under 2.. whast the hardest part

For me it was finding a routine to do things. Having 2 under 2 for me really isn't that bad. It has it moments mainly when DS is throwing one of his tantrums but I deal (ignore it) with it and move on. It is definitly more work but I love that they are close (this was definitly not planned and they are 15 months apart). My DH is still adjusting 2 months later. People are going to tell you how hard it is and tell you, you will have your hands full..IGNORE THEM. You can have one child and feel the same. You just deal with one day at a time and go to bed early .

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There are only two things that I feel are the hardest about have the 2 so close is:

1. My 2yr old requires a lot attention (he's very active) so I do not feel my 6 1/2 mo old gets as much attention that he should

2. Dragging them both to my oldest sons sports, roller hockey, soccer, basketball and sometimes baseball. I also coach his soccer team you should see how that looks as all the kids pile out of the car for practice

Otherwise not bad at all, I would do it all over again

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I agree with the pp's, dividing time will be the most difficult. My #2 ds is only a month old this week, and thank god he hasn't commanded as much attention as my first son did at this age, otherwise I would really be pulling my hair out So, every child really is completely different. I have a challenging older child VERY ACTIVE and stubborn, but he has been terrific with my second son. He has been very affectionate and concerned...and PATIENT!!! I think I expected the worst, and have come out with the best Some days will be better than others, some I will have all my cleaning, laundry, cooking, and activities with kids fit into one day and others I can't even get into the shower or out of the house!! I also was told by many people that I would have difficulty dividing my love- the oldest would always have a more special place in my heart----although he does have a special place in my heart there is certainly room for both children to be loved equally!!!

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honestly the hardest part for me was just going on simple errands like food shopping, or when one of them was sick taking them to the doctor. just getting them both ready and doing the carseats and fixing the stoller and getting them up and down the stairs was the hardest part for me. they both feel right into the same sleep patterns and they ate at the same times as well. its not that hard. and i had NO help from anyone. you will see, it all just falls into place.

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thanks girls

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I think any adjustment is hard at first, but you get used to it and learn to manage the situation.

At first, the hard part is getting in the car and jugglng them both at playdates, since they are at 2 totally different levels.

I remember being so nervous at white post farms with a mommy gtg (some lif mommies remember Liz ?)
and the oldest wanted to go on the playground, the baby was in the stroller.
YEs you can ask your friends to watch the baby, but everyone has their own children, and Im just anal about trying not to bother anyone.

It works itself out though, Ive gotten used to 3 by now

You'll do great !

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My hardest part is dividing my time and getting time for myself to even eat and shower. It gets tricky when both of them are crying

second to that, it takes double the time to get out of the house, but that's def improving with practice!

and i dislike all double strollers!

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I agree dividing my time. I feel that Maddie gets shortchanged too much because Joseph is so high-maintenance.

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For me it's finding a routine... I went back to work pretty early and I found it hard trying to find time to do everything.

Through trial and error, I've learned what works for us when going out. I totally don't stress about cleaning. If I have free time, I'd rather spend it with the boys than cleaning. I wait til they are asleep to go grocery shopping. I actually like going at night on a Wed bc it's not crowded and then I have some time to myself. Other nights, I tidy up or do a load or two of laundry after they go to bed.