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Moms of 20+ month DC's. Seriously. Wow.
WHAT happened to my sweet, mellow, content baby?????????
Those of you at the GTG yesterday will know what I mean.
My sweet little boy is turning into a TERROR of the terrible 2's.
the thing is, I live with Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde. He can be the same sweet, happy, mellow guy, and then BAM. He wants something, and the walls come tumbling down. He turns into this tiny ball of rage.... And he acts more like a kid than a baby. The way he talks, acts, etc.
It doesn't get to me that much. I maintain a very calm exterior (in my head, I envision locking him in a closet  ) and he gets time outs for aggressive behavior (he hits and throws)
It isn't always like this everyday. There are perfect days and awful days. But seriously... WOW!!!
Anyone else going through this? Especially if you had quiet, happy, GOOD babies???? 
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Re: Moms of 20+ month DC's. Seriously. Wow.
Yes, this happened to us too. DD was never calm but she was always happy, never threw a temper tamtrum. Then right before she turned 2 - wow! At her 2 year old check-up, our ped told us that 2 year olds define bi-polar. One minute they are happy, then next minute - watch out!
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| Posted 12/14/08 8:17 AM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Moms of 20+ month DC's. Seriously. Wow.
I recently read that around a child's half birthday is when they go through the most changes emotionally and hormonally, so he's pretty much in that range. Ava just turned 2.5 on Friday, and let me tell you, I think I saw her head spinning and the 666 on her forehead
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| Posted 12/14/08 8:40 AM |
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johnsae
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Re: Moms of 20+ month DC's. Seriously. Wow.
yeah...I am going through this too. Madison is throwing and hitting a lot. we are putting her in time out all the time, but I just don't see it working at all. I just want her to be happy. Some days she is so great and then others she is a nightmare.  It helps to know others are going through this though
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| Posted 12/14/08 8:43 AM |
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Re: Moms of 20+ month DC's. Seriously. Wow.
All kids have there bad days..I have yet to see a child be PERFECT every single day..have you? If I dont get my way, I get pissy If I am in a bad mood I get b*tchy and if I am frustrated..watch out They are toddlers..they are learning different emotions everyday. Totally normal. Yes it sux when they act up in public or when you are around other friends with kids, but it happens and we all get over it
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| Posted 12/14/08 9:03 AM |
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Posted by Sweets13
All kids have there bad days..I have yet to see a child be PERFECT every single day..have you? If I dont get my way, I get pissy If I am in a bad mood I get b*tchy and if I am frustrated..watch out They are toddlers..they are learning different emotions everyday. Totally normal. Yes it sux when they act up in public or when you are around other friends with kids, but it happens and we all get over it
I wasn't asking about perfection or it this was normal. I thank God everyday that Cailen is who he is because he is perfect. And yes, he does have perfect days, 100%. I am very lucky to have those days!!! I get over everything. I have had the crap beaten out of me by the kids I work with. A little snot and hissy-fit dancing is cake!!!
I KNOW it's normal - it's what I do for a living. I am fine with it on the rational level. I don't think it sux, especially when I'm with a group who all have kids.... I think it's him and it's who he is right now. A part of me actually loves this spirited, take-no-crap personality of his!
I think you were there yesterday - you saw that I had a good sense of humor about the whole thing. As Alicia said, it's nice to know you aren't alone, even when you know it's appropriate.
Just like when people with newborns just talk about the crying and lack of sleep. It's not a shocker that it's happening - it's hearing other people who have BTDT or going through it now to share.
I wasn't asking for advice. I was asking if other moms share so we can go " Holy cow!!! Our toddlers have turned into nuts!"
So, let us resume in our "Wow, seriouslies" regarding our little babies turning into independent balls of fury!!!
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| Posted 12/14/08 9:33 AM |
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Re: Moms of 20+ month DC's. Seriously. Wow.
well i dont know if you saw Cadence yesterday hit me in the face and then proceed to bite me. So i totally understand what you are going thru.
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Posted by prncss
I recently read that around a child's half birthday is when they go through the most changes emotionally and hormonally, so he's pretty much in that range. Ava just turned 2.5 on Friday, and let me tell you, I think I saw her head spinning and the 666 on her forehead
More to come!!! Can't wait!!!
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Posted by gottaluvmusik
well i dont know if you saw Cadence yesterday hit me in the face and then proceed to bite me. So i totally understand what you are going thru.
Hmmm... I was too busy getting smacked myself!!! I did see a few on the floor yesterday though!!!
BTW, Cadence is 
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| Posted 12/14/08 9:36 AM |
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Re: Moms of 20+ month DC's. Seriously. Wow.
I absolutely know what you are talking about! Bella was always the most laid back, go with the flow type of kid up until a few months ago. She cries for no reason, screams, throws herself on the ground and tests the boundries constantly. I thought it would get better once she started talking more because I though a lot had to do witih her frustration of not being able to communicate. But I feel like she is getting worse not better. This is going to be a very long and frustrating phase for mommy.
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| Posted 12/14/08 9:45 AM |
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Re: Moms of 20+ month DC's. Seriously. Wow.
Honestly, I hate to the "that" mom, but no, we don't have that problem. At all. 
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Re: Moms of 20+ month DC's. Seriously. Wow.
It must be the apartment.
It's a communication & independence issue - it ends when they can communicate better or you learn to read minds - but it does end.
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| Posted 12/14/08 11:05 AM |
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Re: Moms of 20+ month DC's. Seriously. Wow.
Jack is VERY stubborn and hardheaded. He knows what he wants - and if for some reason he can't get it - or I won't give it to him - forget it - the sh!t will hit the fan!
Before the word "no" can even come out of my mouth he has already dropped to the floor to give an all out tantrum.
I let him do his thing and figure eventually he has to get up right?! The other day in Party City we were there for all of 2 seconds before he was laying on the floor!
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Re: Moms of 20+ month DC's. Seriously. Wow.
yes, I never know which Mikayla I am going to get lately....it helps that I can talk to her though and USUALLY find out what the issue it
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Re: Moms of 20+ month DC's. Seriously. Wow.
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by Sweets13
All kids have there bad days..I have yet to see a child be PERFECT every single day..have you? If I dont get my way, I get pissy If I am in a bad mood I get b*tchy and if I am frustrated..watch out They are toddlers..they are learning different emotions everyday. Totally normal. Yes it sux when they act up in public or when you are around other friends with kids, but it happens and we all get over it
I wasn't asking about perfection or it this was normal. I thank God everyday that Cailen is who he is because he is perfect. And yes, he does have perfect days, 100%. I am very lucky to have those days!!! I get over everything. I have had the crap beaten out of me by the kids I work with. A little snot and hissy-fit dancing is cake!!!
I KNOW it's normal - it's what I do for a living. I am fine with it on the rational level. I don't think it sux, especially when I'm with a group who all have kids.... I think it's him and it's who he is right now. A part of me actually loves this spirited, take-no-crap personality of his!
I think you were there yesterday - you saw that I had a good sense of humor about the whole thing. As Alicia said, it's nice to know you aren't alone, even when you know it's appropriate.
Just like when people with newborns just talk about the crying and lack of sleep. It's not a shocker that it's happening - it's hearing other people who have BTDT or going through it now to share.
I wasn't asking for advice. I was asking if other moms share so we can go " Holy cow!!! Our toddlers have turned into nuts!"
So, let us resume in our "Wow, seriouslies" regarding our little babies turning into independent balls of fury!!!
NOPE..was not at the GTG and you took my post the wrong way. I wasn't giving you advice!
Continue with YOUR post......
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Re: Moms of 20+ month DC's. Seriously. Wow.
Ainsley gets really mad when DH and I dont understand her language. I guess in her mind she's being perfectly clear about what she wants - but we dont always "get it" as quickly as she'd like.
The biggest change I've seen is with eating. She has gone from being this wonderful, calm little eater to this food throwing lunatic at times.
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| Posted 12/14/08 1:56 PM |
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Re: Moms of 20+ month DC's. Seriously. Wow.
Wait until you hit age 3....these days will seem like a walk in the park!
Just as my oldest seems to be mellowing out a little bit at age 4, my youngest is at her peak of the terrible 2's. A nice glass of merlot each night makes it all ok.
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| Posted 12/14/08 1:58 PM |
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Re: Moms of 20+ month DC's. Seriously. Wow.
oh ya! with josh it's "i want...." over and over and over and if doesn't get it, watch out!
my new issues is him biting my dad. for no reason....every night! then he puts himself into time out and won't say sorry.  
all i have to say is OY!!!
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| Posted 12/14/08 2:53 PM |
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Re: Moms of 20+ month DC's. Seriously. Wow.
Posted by KateDevine
Honestly, I hate to the "that" mom, but no, we don't have that problem. At all.
I'm with Kate on this one....sure Lily has a moment of two of frustration....but she's recently become very lovey dovey with me and I couldn't be happier! She used to kiss everything else including the cat's tail, but never me....today, I can't count the number of kisses she's given me. I'm in heaven over here!
Sorry.....
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| Posted 12/14/08 4:00 PM |
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Re: Moms of 20+ month DC's. Seriously. Wow.
Yep..I know exactly what you mean. I spend a lot of time explaining to people (particularly in public places  ) that he really is a nice little boy
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Posted by Palebride
Posted by KateDevine
Honestly, I hate to the "that" mom, but no, we don't have that problem. At all.
I'm with Kate on this one....sure Lily has a moment of two of frustration....but she's recently become very lovey dovey with me and I couldn't be happier! She used to kiss everything else including the cat's tail, but never me....today, I can't count the number of kisses she's given me. I'm in heaven over here!
Sorry.....
He is actually more affectionate than ever. He is like an explosion of emotions and energy. He never was a cuddler or a kisser. Now he cuddles and kisses all the time! It's the best! It definitely makes up for his little fits. They don't last long - they are more intense than long, like a little hissy explosion. But they just come and there is no stopping them!!! You guys are lucky!
I definitely "that mom" about other things, but this phase he is going through is so hard for him. It's not hard for me - but I feel badly for him that dealing with things can be so challenging.... The 1st of many mommy moments where I have to watch my child learn how to deal with the world around him!
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| Posted 12/14/08 8:12 PM |
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Re: Moms of 20+ month DC's. Seriously. Wow.
I was REALLY impressed at how calm you were yesterday. I'm going to have to learn how to stay that calm when DD goes through that phase!
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Re: Moms of 20+ month DC's. Seriously. Wow.
Posted by Sweets13
All kids have there bad days..I have yet to see a child be PERFECT every single day..have you? If I dont get my way, I get pissy If I am in a bad mood I get b*tchy and if I am frustrated..watch out They are toddlers..they are learning different emotions everyday. Totally normal. Yes it sux when they act up in public or when you are around other friends with kids, but it happens and we all get over it
I was thinking along these lines...Lucas is pretty calm and easy going...always has been but as the boundaries of his independence expand I see his frustration grow more and more. He has his bad days and when he is tired or hungry he doesn't care who you are or what your story is...he wants what he wants...and that usually equals a tantrum because he can't otherwise communicate yet.
So like Ro said...many of us have been there to some degree and most moms will tell you that they understand. We love them unconditionally...in good times and in bad. It's very good that you can remain calm...you are teaching him by your actions and that should be commended.
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