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MommyAgain
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Re: Moms of "easy" kids...
Posted by carolyns4cupcakes
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I can see where you're coming from. It's like a really thin woman being told Oh you're so lucky that you're thin but really, she's in the gym 2 hours a day and all she eats is salad. It's not luck! It's hard work!
I respectfully disagree. I work hard, very hard at raising my childen. All kids are not the same which means their temperments and dispositions are different too.
Some kids are just more easy going, relaxed and laid back. I have one who is like that and 2 that are the opposite- it has nothing to do with what I'm doing or NOT doing.
ita with carolyn..hi by the way :)
I have been the same kind of parent to both of my children, only one of them was a nice calm lil day in the tropics, and the other one is a tsunami :)
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Re: Moms of "easy" kids...
I have to agree that to a certain extent it is luck. Kids are who they are. I had a PERFECT baby until about 2. I would go to really nice restaurants with her in tow. I did not understand why people thought babies were difficult at all.
Of course, I attributed it to my great parenting
Then the terrible 2s hit
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eddiesmommy
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Re: Moms of "easy" kids...
i think she was probably just using the word luck as a figure of speech and was no way implying that how you parent does or does not have anything to do with it.
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| Posted 11/4/09 10:24 PM |
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1stimemom
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Re: Moms of "easy" kids...
I am not so ignorant t believe that I will have a dream child forever(or that any future children will be the same). DS has his moments now, and I am sure there are MANY more to come in the near future, I was just trying to express that it is not ALL luck, and after 2-3x of agreeing, someone should really lay off. WTfrig is the point of saying it 10x? Should I fall to my knees in thankful prayer?
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| Posted 11/4/09 11:02 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Moms of "easy" kids...
Posted by 1stimemom
I am not so ignorant t believe that I will have a dream child forever(or that any future children will be the same). DS has his moments now, and I am sure there are MANY more to come in the near future, I was just trying to express that it is not ALL luck, and after 2-3x of agreeing, someone should really lay off. WTfrig is the point of saying it 10x? Should I fall to my knees in thankful prayer?
Nah. I just usually say "Thanks. I practically made them myself"
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| Posted 11/4/09 11:16 PM |
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Re: Moms of "easy" kids...
I pretty much take it as a compliment, but I do see one other mom at least once a week who has taken to calling Tristan "Golden boy" or the best baby in the world. It makes me slightly uncomfortable because I feel it's coming from a competitive place, if you know what I mean. But he is a really good boy. And I know I'm really lucky. And I know it could all change at any time, so I'm enjoying it while it lasts!
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| Posted 11/5/09 6:47 AM |
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yankinmanc
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Re: Moms of "easy" kids...
My son has a lovely temperament and imo he is super easy, people compliment how lovely he is and I just say "I know! Thanks"
Take the compliment, enjoy it. He might be a horror of a teenager, and you can remember all those nice things people said when he was a little one!!
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| Posted 11/5/09 7:14 AM |
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maybesoon
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Re: Moms of "easy" kids...
My DS is impossible. I get a lot of looks. I took him food shopping yesterday and he was screaming, pointing, and making a rukus the entire time. He is so difficult, that the one time I did get a compliment I was very happy, but it came from a friend I hadn't seen in a long time so I think she was lying
my point is, be happy you are lucky!!
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| Posted 11/5/09 8:23 AM |
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Re: Moms of "easy" kids...
Ohh the good old days of shopping witha quite baby who would just sit there and smile as the things went by. Now at 2 he's either leaping out of the cart, grabbing things off the shelf or screaming like a banshee. Enjoy it while it's there!!
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| Posted 11/5/09 8:32 AM |
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Annie91606
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Re: Moms of "easy" kids...
I hear it too- DS is a happy easygoing little guy (most of the time).
My MIL always says stuff like that. But she is one of those who always has a comment. So I just smile and say "thanks, he is very loved and we are very lucky".
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| Posted 11/5/09 9:08 AM |
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EricaAlt
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Re: Moms of "easy" kids...
THat's not bad... I can't stand it when pple are like... "he's soo good, but just wait. That could all change."
Gee, thanks 
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| Posted 11/5/09 9:13 AM |
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Re: Moms of "easy" kids...
I personally HATE the "just wait..." or "he'll change..." type of comments regarding anything. It always feels like they are wishing it on you.
I often compliment children in stores, and especially in restaurants when they are behaving well. I only do it once, and I generally say it to the child him/herself. I feel like it's nice for a child to get the positive reinforcement from someone other than mom and dad.
Once or twice is plenty. I'd probably find that woman annoying too.
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| Posted 11/5/09 9:18 AM |
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jambalady
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Re: Moms of "easy" kids...
I can see how it is annoying to have someone say it to you over and over again.
But, I don't think they mean any harm or actually think you are just "lucky" and your parenting skills have nothing to do with it.
However, for those of us with not the easiest kids, I think we have to believe that luck (or natural temperment of the child) has something to do with it.
If not, it would mean that the only reason our children are so difficult is because we are bad parents. KWIM?
So, I think the constant pestering is more of a jealousy/envy thing than an insult to you.
Enjoy the compliment, and I would think the quickest way to shut her up would be "I know, he really is the best, but he has his moments too".
The person saying just wants to commiserate a little.
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| Posted 11/5/09 9:35 AM |
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maiden
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Re: Moms of "easy" kids...
Posted by jambalady
I can see how it is annoying to have someone say it to you over and over again.
But, I don't think they mean any harm or actually think you are just "lucky" and your parenting skills have nothing to do with it.
However, for those of us with not the easiest kids, I think we have to believe that luck (or natural temperment of the child) has something to do with it.
If not, it would mean that the only reason our children are so difficult is because we are bad parents. KWIM?
So, I think the constant pestering is more of a jealousy/envy thing than an insult to you.
Enjoy the compliment, and I would think the quickest way to shut her up would be "I know, he really is the best, but he has his moments too".
The person saying just wants to commiserate a little.
I agree. The person's response was probably more a reflection of their own experiences, rather than a reflection of yours. But I can understand your annoyance. DD is only 5.5 months, but she is very easy too. When people say "You are so lucky", I always want to say "Well, its not ONLY luck." But hey, what can I say, from the moment she was born she was totally chill and has been ever since. I feel lucky.
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