Moms with 2 or more...how do you do it?

find the time?
care for both when they are both awake?
keep your sanity?
make ends meet?

these thoughts cloud my mind day and night now.....

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- I'm right there with you.

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You just adjust and do what you have to do. Just like you did when you had one.

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Shana, it just comes naturally. You just do it. You adjust to whatever circumstance comes your way.
I never thought I would be able to do it, but I've had no problem yet!

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I am planning on giving birth to a middle aged Nanny next..

Wish me luck with that one!

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Yes, I freak out daily about this! I'm already losing my sanity! I ask moms all the time and they all reply like Tracey..."you just do it." That's unacceptable to me What do you just do?!? But, you know what, that's what we're going to be saying in a year!

For me, the transition to one was very difficult. But I just think to myself "Everybody does it and I can do it too." That kind of worked throughout the challenging post-partum days I had with Katherine.

I hope there are some more responses to this one...

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I found that a routine is the best. My girls are 2 years apart and since I have them in day care three days a week, I have NO OTHER CHOICE but to have them on a routine. They go to bed every night at 7:30 because they wake up at 6:15 to go to Tutor Time. Surprisingly, it just worked out that they "fell" into a routine.

I found that I put alot of stress on myself BEFORE Peyton (my youngest) was born and it ended up that she just fell into Delaney's routine.

I also think that you have to "let things go" (I'm still trying to learn this one) but I use Peapod and clean my house daily, do laundry daily just so I don't have it pile up. Working FT is definitely difficult and my husband's crazy work schedule doesn't help and I do feel like the one man show alot, I somehow manage. There are days when I just get really upset, cry, vent and move on!

You'll definitely be overwhelmed at first but you'll do it.

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Honestly, I did not find the transition to 2 kids all that bad... There are two years between them and they both adjusted well. That's not to say there were not some difficult moments here, but overall once you get into a routine, things become second nature, as they did when you just had one.

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before i had my dd i had never even held a baby, changed one, fed one, nothing. i had never been around kids, EVER. thats just the way it was. so when i had my dd everything was brand new to me. but thank god for my mil, she helped me thru it all. then to my surpise when my dd was 11 months old, i found out i was pregnant with ds. let me be totallly honest, now this is jmo. but when number 2 came along, i was PRO. everything from dd was fresh in my mind. and the two of them sort of just "feel" into a routine. i didnt find it difficult at all. really. and my dh works long hours, so it was really only me taking care of the two kids. finacially. we didnt find it much harder at all. my ds used mostly everything from dd. he only needed clothes, we had all the big major item already. for me, it just all worked well. and feel into place. i didnt have a problem. and this is from a person who had NO baby experience until 4 years ago when dd was born.

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believe it or not...
I think it is actually an advantage having 2 so close in age, no doubt,its a lot of work,but....

You are already in the diaper & bottle routine,
they grow together and become eachothers playmate, which gives you more free time,
financially its easier, sure your buying a lot more diapers, but-
they can play with the same toys and you pass everything from the older one down to the younger one...

Look either way, having a baby is TOUGH,and you in a sense, lose a lot of your freedom.
SO imo, its the BEST time to have a 2nd, because youre already in the baby mode!
Then they grow up, go off to kindergarden and it gets a little easier.

But you definately have your days where you pray for patience,and maybe just lose it!!!! thats totally normal!

You just need to really ACCEPT the fact that your life is going to be alot different now, your life is not your own anymore....its going to be ALL about them!!!
Simple,every day things that you once took for granted(sleep, getting out of the house, blowdrying your hair!!) are a little more difficult to do now!
But in the big picture, life is a lot more rewarding!!!!


Getting them on the same schedule is the best advice!

IF I can do it, you can too!!!!
I have an EXTREMELY active 20 month old son, and a 9 month old (yes-11 months apart!!!! ) who was extremely colic for the first 5 months, and Im still here to talk about it!!!

AND- I wouldnt trade my situation for ANYTHING in the world!

you can always FM me,i was in your shoes-spent my whole 9 months in shock&disbelief & waking my DH in the middle of the night saying "OMG HOW are we gonna do this??!!!!"

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I'll let you know in a few days....I'm curious myself how this is going to work with 2!

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I think you'll be fine with 2...2 kids are managable, 3 becomes UNREAL! I;d forget about schedules, I think they can drive you nuts and can cause kids to become too rigid, just go with the flow and follow the kids' lead. Once you find your routine (usually by week 2 or 3) you'll feel less overwhelmed.

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You do what you have to do. People would always say you just do it and I was like what kind of answer is that? But in reality you just do it.

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I agree with "you just do it". Yes its challenging, but rewarding too
We're not much for routines either, I agree with going with their lead, of course having structure whenever possible, but as far as daily routines, we have weekly routines, not daily
and what you do on a daily basis depends so much on their ages, etc.