Moms with 3 or More kids--Tell me about it!

I am on the fence but leaning more towards going for the third.

My reasons for wanting 3-
1. i always wanted 3
2. i dont feel done with 2 kids
3. my boys are my life and they are good boys so i am thinking lets go for more

HOWEVER--i am worried about
Money and my sanity and the issue of not enough attention to each of them individually

To go for 3 or not---that is the question---help me decide :)

Message edited 4/15/2010 10:17:37 AM.

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If that's what you want then go for it. You have a roof over your head, your happy with your children and having another seems to be what you want.

My sister has 4 and a stepdaughter. They manager and are happy... or at least putting on a good front.

She said she always wanted a big family and she loves it.

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I have a 3 year old and almost 6 month old twins. Although it is hard because the babies demand a lot of attention, I always wanted a big family and love having 3 kids. I grew up 1 of 3, and always pictured myself with 3 or 4 Not sure about the 4 now!!

I always say, having another is not something you will ever regret if you want to do it.......not having another is something you might regret down the line.

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I am totally on the fence too

I want 3 because I love that my kids with have siblings and we all come from large families. But, on the downside, we don't have the financial means or big enough house right now. But I also feel that if I don't do it now, it will bee too late.

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I always say, having another is not something you will ever regret if you want to do it.......not having another is something you might regret down the line.


This is so true! My boss has a boy and girl and tells me that she always regrets not having another one

i dont want a regret like that

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Well I'm not at this stage yet (just had my first 12 weeks ago), but my parents had 5. They both came form big families and always wanted a big family. They never had tons of money. They lived in an apt. the first year of marriage, saved up, then bought a small house, and my dad did all the work on it himself. That's still the family house to this day, and they bought it in '76 (the same year my oldest brother was born). I LOVED growing up with so many siblings. We lived simply and had great times together!! If that's what you want, I say go for it! Don't stress over money- it will work itself out!

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I dont have 3 children...

but I was the third child. I loved having 2 siblings.
I wasnt the center of attention, but I think that was a good lesson for life. It's not all about you

I want to have 3

Message edited 4/15/2010 10:40:53 AM.

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Jen, you know I'm the same as you. I always thought I would be done at two. I never, in a zillion years ever thought I would have three kids. I just wish I didn't have to be pregnant again to have another! UGH!

But, after having Tyler there was something inside of me (very early on) that just knew I wasn't done yet. Maybe it's the way Jack responds to him and how much he loves him. I'm not sure. But I do believe we will def. be going for #3.

And, we both make such beautiful boys (If I do say so myself ) so how can we NOT give the world another one (or a gorgeous little girl)

Hell, I didn't buy a minivan for nothing

Message edited 4/15/2010 10:41:53 AM.

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I have to say #3 was harder for me ,but I would never change a thing,and I am on the fence about #4 ,so it can't be so bad I think it is my work schedule that affects it for me ! I work nights ,so it is was hard !

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Thanks everyone---these are great kind words I will remember

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I'll let you know

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I have 3. 9 1/2, 2 1/2, & 13 months.
Id say go for it. There is never enough money, you will find a way to make each of them special and show them attention. you will have to be more creative, and a helpful partner is necessary when they are little. f you know your not done, and you want another- you'll find a way to make it work.

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You will NEVER regret not having a 3rd child, but you WILL regret NOT having "just one more" if thats what you want in your heart.

Message edited 4/15/2010 12:14:57 PM.

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I am RIGHT there with you.... sooo undecided about #3...

I have 2 beautifully perfect DD, 3 and 1. I am 30 and not ready right now, but know in my heart I am not done, though dont want to wait too much longer. DH on the other hand, is perfectly content!

We have a 3 bedroom house so it would definitely be tight.

I couldnt imagine being done, i'd love to try for a boy, though i'd probably end up with twin girls

I dont know, its a tough decision and one that we will probably speak seriously about come the fall.

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I am on the fence about this too-we have a DD (2.5) and a DS (5 months) and we are trying to decide if we want to go for a third. Everything seems so perfect right now so I hate to rock the boat or press my luck but I can't help thinking about it (we are leaning towards going for it).

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Right there with you. We have a beautiful DD (almost 3) & a DS (almost 1) & are very much on the fence about a 3rd. I love our family now & having one of each & am afraid to push my luck having a healthy baby (being that I'm older)...

We know it'll be tough; especially the early years; but then having more siblings for them could be great & seeing them relate; etc. Our house is very small too (3 bedrooms) & financially it would be tight & moreso I know MOST of the work would fall on me b/c DH works nights & a lot of OT; but I could see myself regretting NOT having the 3rd down the line. I'm also afraid b/c our parents watch the kids & they're older & handling 3 (for a little while) would be tough on them. I'm also older; so our time to decide is very limited.

However, I keep saying my indecision means I'm leaning more so to having one, than not.

Message edited 4/15/2010 1:27:00 PM.