Mother in laws!!!

Does anyone else have mother in law issues? My mother in law disregards everything I have to say about DD and does what she wants anyway. When I confront her, she pretends that it is the first time she's hearing it. I am PG with baby #2 and can only imagine what is ahead.

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My mother-in-law is a nanny... and has been for like 15 yrs... so she thinks shes the authority on children - drives me nuts!
Liam has cried at her a few times as soon as he sees her... she gets so excited she gets right in his face and scares him - so much for knowing everything

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I don't have a clue, she's never met the baby

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Yes, t hey all seem to not listen to "the mother". This is why I dont let them babysist unless its an emerency. If I tell her one thing she does the oppossite.

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I hear you and my mother in law is the same way. It drives me nuts and at this rate I don't want DD to stay with her unless extremly necessary.

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my relationship w my MIL was hell since day 1. when i got pregnant she never took her time to reconcile or even pretend a smile. she's a bitter old woman since her day 1.. so her own mother says, that she's made it very hard for family get togethers. because i refuse to go to any if she's there. MIL has only seen my baby 3 times (and all 3x was for, max, 5mins). that girl thinks she knows everything, too judgemental, TELLS ppl what to do instead of asking. 8itch.

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You are not alone my monster-in-law is exactly the same way. If it's not her way it's not right. She does nothing but complain. She has NEVER EVER given me a compliment on any aspect of my mothering but she criticizes every move I make. She feels the need to always bring food for my toddler and husband because she seems to think that I don't feed them. She made my life completely impossible because I was breastfeeding my 2nd. She was constantly complaining that he was hungry and that I didn't have enough milk, to the point where I stopped breastfeeding so that she would just shut her huge mouth. Now my little guy is getting very big and it's only a matter of time before she complains that he is too fat and then I'm going to tell her off. She is determined to go against absolutely everything I say and is constantly looking for ways to annoy me. She's jealous of me and tries to play mommy to my kids all the time. She has absolutely no respect for me or any words that come out of my mouth. She will not eat my cooking (and I'm a good cook). She has raised her voice to me more than once. She's nosy. And she's just plain out not a nice person a few people have said this and she's as rude as can be but she thinks that she's a wonderful person and everyone likes her (boy is she sadly mistaken). She has only taken care of my oldest son once (for a few hours) and she has never taken care of my youngest. She can't be trusted because she has the "I did/fed it to my kids and they're fine so I can do it to yours" mentality. And she knows that the reason she does not take care of the kids is because of the way she behaves but she still continues her crap, (I guess it isn't as important to her as I thought). Her inner monster surfaced right before I gave birth to my 1st son and now I have 2 and it has not gotten any better.

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my MIL is the exact same way Let me just say that we have not spoken to her in months and she has not seen Jacob in months either because of that!

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All I can say is Thank GOD mine lives 3000 miles away!

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Every time I read posts, I just sit here and shake my head in disbelief. Not at any of you ladies, but, at the total lack of respect for all of you and not just as parents, but, as human beings as well.

I am from the same generation as these women and, as far as I can see, they need to SHUT UP! They're giving all of us a bad name. I would NEVER EVER think of telling my daughter and son-in-law how to raise their child (soon to be children). They are doing a great job all by themselves and, if they need advice, then, and ONLY then, would I ever say something. Do they do things as I did? Of course not, because they are not me. They will do things as they see fit. Raising children is a "learn-as-you-go" experience. Everyone makes mistakes, but, you learn from them. Just as I did and just as these women have and, just because they have been parents and raised children, doesn't make you an expert. All children and each generation of parents is different. Unless they see their grandchildren being abused, they need to SHUT THEIR BIG MOUTHS and be grateful that these children are being raised in loving and caring homes by parents who would give their lives for them.

I read a great deal of posts and don't respond to them because the advice that is given is very good. Does that mean that I agree with everything that is said? Of course not, but, from where I sit, I think all of you ladies are doing a fantastic job. As far as these "meddling morons" are concerned, you have some choices. You can ignore them, you can avoid them or you can confront them. I vote for confronting them and putting everything out there. If they still choose to treat in such a disrespectful way, then avoiding them may be the way to go. I always wonder what they will say to your children about you if they have no problem talking to you the way you do.

In any case, ladies, keep up the good work. My hat's off to you. As far as I am concerned, you all qualify for mother of the year.

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Every time I read posts, I just sit here and shake my head in disbelief. Not at any of you ladies, but, at the total lack of respect for all of you and not just as parents, but, as human beings as well.

I am from the same generation as these women and, as far as I can see, they need to SHUT UP! They're giving all of us a bad name. I would NEVER EVER think of telling my daughter and son-in-law how to raise their child (soon to be children). They are doing a great job all by themselves and, if they need advice, then, and ONLY then, would I ever say something. Do they do things as I did? Of course not, because they are not me. They will do things as they see fit. Raising children is a "learn-as-you-go" experience. Everyone makes mistakes, but, you learn from them. Just as I did and just as these women have and, just because they have been parents and raised children, doesn't make you an expert. All children and each generation of parents is different. Unless they see their grandchildren being abused, they need to SHUT THEIR BIG MOUTHS and be grateful that these children are being raised in loving and caring homes by parents who would give their lives for them.

I read a great deal of posts and don't respond to them because the advice that is given is very good. Does that mean that I agree with everything that is said? Of course not, but, from where I sit, I think all of you ladies are doing a fantastic job. As far as these "meddling morons" are concerned, you have some choices. You can ignore them, you can avoid them or you can confront them. I vote for confronting them and putting everything out there. If they still choose to treat in such a disrespectful way, then avoiding them may be the way to go. I always wonder what they will say to your children about you if they have no problem talking to you the way you do.

In any case, ladies, keep up the good work. My hat's off to you. As far as I am concerned, you all qualify for mother of the year.

can you adopt us??!!

Absolutely!!! It would be an honor.

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no joke! and seriously...what most of these IL's including mine are missing is that because of the constant problems the lack of seeing the child exists and will continue to exist. Just curious though...mine like some of you ladies hasnt seen dd since she was 2 months. Where do you go from here? I mean dd is going to have a first b-day. What do you do? Mine make everyones life a misery. I dont want to give in and not enjoy my dd's future accomplishments.

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My FH and I weren't together long before we got pregnant (though we dated 2 years earlier for 6 months). She demanded through the entire pregnancy that we should have a paternity test done. My FH and I said, no we don't need one. She stopped for a little and would bring it up to me IN PERSON here and there.

Then she took it upon herself to call and schedule an appointment for FH to get swabbed and was going to have tht same company come in and swab the baby AS SOON AS SHE WAS BORN!!! FH made her call the company and cancel.

She came to see the baby in the hospital and my BFF overheard her asking a nurse if the hospital can do the test!!!! She would not give up even though our daughter looked just like him at birth AND has his odd blood type!

So we bring the baby home and MIL starts crying to FH one day about how she WANTS to love the baby but just can't because she doesn't know for sure that it's his kid.

So I tell him, go ahead and get it done, I'm tired of her bothering him about it. So now I'm insulted, I'm hurt and I don't want to see her OR his one sister because she is on the mom's side.

So one day I go to get him and the baby from his mom's house and I waited in the car for them to come out b/c I didn't want to see his mom AND his sis was over. So his sister comes outside and tells me that I'm hurting MIL's feelings b/c I don't want to go in and see her. Neither one of them understood and still to this day understand why I was so mad. They never tried to understand and it was only about them. I try to forget about it, but like right now I become enraged all over again about it.

Sorry this is so long, it felt good to let it out again.